[WR] Weddings Make You Realize Your True Friends

I wouldn't worry to much for the bridal shower, however I would think she would make more effort for the wedding.

No honey u arent at all id tell her that you have been BFF's for 7 years and have been there for one another and this is YOUR day and who gives a crap if you have to work the NEXT weedend and SHE KNEW about this for 3 weeks now! she should have asked! not procrastinated!(sorry if i sound snarky stephanie but thats honestly what i would say!!!!)

So you ae suggesting that your friend call her boss and lie about being sick to attend your bridal shower? Sorry but if I had an employee (assuming this is a retail job) who called in when they weren't really sick, especially after that person asked for the day off and was denied, I would fire them on the spot. Of course I work at a totally professional office job and nobody would do this, but if they did they would be reprimanded and most likely terminated.

Honestly, I stopped expecting sh*t from people a while ago. You just really can't depend on anyone anymore. Sad to say ... but it's the truth. Nothing suprises me anymore lol ...

@Brittany - I don't think you're being snarky at all, I agree with you completely.

@Glenn - She doesn't work in retail. I honestly don't even know exactly what she does - it's kind of like a nursing home kind of job, but it's not. It's really hard to explain & I don't even know what her job title is. But she gets every other weekend off - I don't understand why/how she couldn't just switch two of her weekends around. I would've done that for her - but I guess that's the difference between me & a lot of other people.

And btw, at most jobs 3 weeks notice is not a lot of notice for a vacation day, especially if there are specific staffing needs

Wow ... it is true though ... I hate to say it but it just doesn't sound like she really cares ... is she a bridesmaid?

@SoontobeMrs.D - No. I don't have any bridesmaids because we're having a DW & it's only for our family & siblings. We are, however, having a reception 3 weeks later at home for everyone to go to.

It could be that she is afraid to ask for the day off, jobs are scarce. Honestly, if someone can not give you a straight up YES I can make it, I find that means that the answer will most likely be no.

Well, I agree that weddings make you find out who some of your true friends are. But I'm not positive that this is the right reason to be upset with her. Maybe her having to work the following weekend is more complicated than you realize, or maybe her finances are tighter than she is willing to admit. Who knows the reason, but I wouldn't stress about it. She may not realize that the shower is important to you, or like Glenn said, 3 weeks might not have been enough notice for her employer (it isn't for my mom's employer).

Me, personally, wouldn't want any of my friends to jeopardize their employment in today's economy to attend my bridal shower, bachelorette party or my wedding. It is hard to find jobs these days. Maybe someone else scheduled this weekend off well in advance of her, plus it wouldn't be ethical for her to call off if she isn't sick.

Jobs are tough.....when I was a caterer, I NEVER had a weekend off, and I can tell you that if one of my staff called in sick during our busy season (may-oct), they 'd be in deep trouble.

I am with Glenn on this one. Yeah, it sucks... but if you were her friend as well, you'd realize how important a job and integrity within the workplace is, and support her well.

Just my/02....

I agree with TheFutureMrsJTW and Glenn It's not like it came up at the last minute she gave you a heads up just because she not coming doesn't mean she is not a friend. I will just take it easy she will be there for you if she can.

I would be a bit upset myself...but it's understandable if she can't get off from work. Assuming she really did try...I guess you can't fault her too much. Though honestly I wouldn't be happy either. It'll be ok though...I bet you'll have an awesome time either way!

Im with Glenn on this one...I wouldnt and didnt call off when I couldnt get the day off for FSIL's baby or bridal showers. Alot of places are required to make a schedule over a month ahead of time due to staffing issue. My FH has to put in his time off almost 2 months ahead. I dont think its worth putting her job at risk just to attend your shower. Asking her to call off and getting mad when she doesnt seems a bit selfish.

I think it is okay to be disappointed with the situation. But mad about it? No... not really. It's a bridal shower... yea this may be the only one you have, but there will be other people there to make it great.

Focus on the good.. and let go of the bad. Of course it sucks that she can not come, but at least she didn't tell you she would be there and not show! Thank her for her consideration of being honest with you in advance. And then forget about it all.. and smile because you are getting a bridal shower!!! (There are a lot of brides on here who don't have anyone to throw them a shower to begin with)

I can see where this is upsetting but its hard to get time off from work. My FH put in his honeymoon vacation time as soon as we had a date and so did I when I found out that everyone I work with were resquesting all kinds of time off already a year ahead of time! Let this go by, because it is a special time in your life but this is a friendship of years that should survive pass this one moment.

I feel your pain!! I have a BM that after agreeing on a date for my Bridal Shower with the MOH has decided to throw her best friend a baby shower on the same day and might not be able to make it to the Bridal Shower!! ugh!! I have given up on expecting anything of anyone!!

I would be upset as well, BUT 3 weeks really isn't that much notice. I would have a hard time getting off work with that little of notice.. and summer everyone is so busy already! I know I can't attend one of my good friend's baby shower this weekend because I had a weekend trip planned and only received the invite 3 weeks ago.