WR: Is anyone NOT excited about their own wedding?

Yeah I am starting to feel that way too. We have had SEVERAL people send a note with their RSVP that say things like, " Here is this person and this person that we think you should invite, but you have never met so here is their address. Oh, yeah by the way they are coming whether you send them an invite or not." Without exxageration, we have had to add 25 guests because of this.

At some points during the wedding planning. Yes, I felt the same way. I actually stopped telling people details about the wedding, and if they asked I replied with "You'll just have to wait and see" and if that wasn't enough, and some people just didn't get that you don't want their opinion say "We want our wedding to reflect us. So that's how we're planning it, we're paying for it"

I'm really excited for the day to be here just not all the work I still have to do before then! I wish all the choices, contracts, attire, invitations...freaken everything... wish it was all done! Luckily I havn't had any horrible guest comments yet...everyone's been really supportive and a "whatever will be great" attitude which I am so grateful for!

I have stopped talking about the wedding to a lot of people, and when I do something or book something and I feel all excited about it, I blab it on here instead, because I know the WW girls will share in my excitement and not try to butt in

I definitely have those moments .... I actually only recently started becoming excited again over the wedding - I took a much needed break over the holidays and I didn't even miss the wedding talk or anything. Dealing with peoples drama and stupidity can certainly take it's toll on anyone. The best thing is just to take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's not about them it's about you and FH - you can't please everyone so let them bitch in the background and just ignore their snide remarks eventually they will get the hint and shut up ~ hopefully

I've tried to stop talking about it with anyone other than FH. And when people start asking questions we try to tell them, nicely at first, that we haven't made that decision yet or we want it to be a surprise. When they don't get the hint, I've told people flat out that, no offense, but I don't want to talk about the wedding...people still don't get the hint!

Like Maui bride, I'm excited for the day to get here but do not, at all, like the work put into it which is why we chose an all-inclusive destination wedding. We have to do practically no planning and if people choose not to come, oh well! It's the easiest and happiest way to get married, im sure of it!

Definetely feelin Vegas right now all people keep saying in my town is why am I the one working 2 jobs and FH only works 1. Just stay in your places and get over it already. I totally agree with Lynley I don't talk to people about the wedding any more only my BM's and of coarse FH.

This may be a little long because I just had a heck of a morning because of a little outburtst from a friend about the wedding. I am excited for the day but Lynley O. hit right on the point. I understand that no one will be as excited as FH and I are, and of course my mom. But the people in my life (mainly my family) I can share something and they show little reaction. I'm not asking for them to throw a parade or party everytime I share something but some emotion or excitement might be nice.Also it seems to be bringing out the worse in some people. My FH and I talked about buying a house because we don't want to keep renting. We have a lot going on we are planning/paying for the wedding, I'm finishing up school in June with my bachelor's, we are pakcing up and moving, which a lot of people go through. I was disappointed that my financial aide was not as much as it was last time and I'm ending up paying for part of the school and we have to use part of money from the down payment.Cont..

I'm telling a friend how its frustrating but what can I do and she goes on this rant on how i'm trying to do too much and only going through this because its what FH wants and not what I want and that i'm buying a house with someone I've never lived with. Well the rant keeps going and I told her that I appreciate her concern but she has made her choices and I'm making mine. So I just all together have stopped talking to my family and most friends about the wedding. His family is so excited and my mom, even though we can only talk so little because she is staioned overseas, I keep her in touch with email and she is estatic. So I'm planning away and honestly forget everyone else because I don't want these little things to ruin that day for us.I wish things were different but I can't make them be excited and if they don't like what I'm doing well, they can just not come. As long as FH is there I'm a happy girl.

Btw i'm sorry that was a little long but I'm feeling a little upset right now..

Their were days where I felt like that. I was looking forward to the actual day but not the planning and details. Because people do find it okay to make comments. "Why is she a BM I have known you longer?" and many other comments. I just brushed them off and a lot of the time ignored them. If you are feeling that way taking a break from all of the planning and prep work is a very good idea. I did that and it helped a lot. Don't let people and their comments get to you even though that is hard not to do. Your wedding day is about you and no one else and if they don't like certain things about it that honestly is their problem.

Oh, I feel you! I love to throw parties, so I was really excited to have a wedding. But I feel like wedding planning has turned me into this ogre who just says "no" all the time. "No, you can't bring some random I've never met before, you'll know half the people there anyway, also, I have really intense stage fright." "No, bridesmaid, you can't wear a pink dress - is a black dress of your choice so dang hard?" "No no no no no!"

I wasn't excited about the wedding at all.. I just wanted it to be over and done with so I didn't have to deal with all that anymore.

Yea I'm with ya'll on this, but in a couple of different ways....1. being that this is my second marriage and I'm just a little hesitant to do it all over again. Don't get me wrong. I am so in love with my FH. I just don't know about getting married again. I've been divorce now for over 10 years. And quite frankly I'm happy that way. Oh I'm more than willing to live together. But if and that's a gigantic IF something go wrong - then we can just walk away.... nothing to it - no big hassles like last time.

and 2. my mother - oh gees where do I start with this one? at first she seemed to be happy and all gung ho about this - don't you even think about getting married without us being there.. now it's like why don't the two of you just go to Tahoe and get married. She thinks now we're making too much out of it as we've both married before. It's like WTH.

So I'm with everyone else here. Just learned to talk FH and WW gals about what I want :-)

Well ... sure I'm excited but at the same time like you I am NOT ... I say this because I feel my Mom has to butt into everything I want to do ... My FS, has next to no interest in it and is constantly whatever you want, that's fine ... blah, blah,blah ... of course this is the exact kind of wedding he DID NOT want ... he wanted us to go to the courthouse, have a small get together with just immediate family and our best friends ... nothing fancy, nothing extravagant ... and the wedding I'm planning is a huge wedding, making us move the entire wedding to Illinois so that all of my Ginormous family can attend (we are all still close and have yearly reunions) ... It's what I want ...

And I'm also very scared that our marriage may end in divorce ... with all the talk even on here of divorce, seperation, and 2nd and 3rd marriages, it's a bit overwhelming ...

I'm also terrified I"m going to be a horrible wife and do stupid stuff, that'll make him resent me ...

I've also had people start making bets on how long our marriage is going to last. My aunt has a friend who is divorced, and this is someone I barely know, I have only seen her like 3 times but she talks to me like she has known me. So the last time I saw her my aunt tells her I'm getting married and her response to that was "how long are we betting that it will last?". I'm like i'm sorry of how you feel about marriage but not a great thing to say to someone who is about to walk down the aisle.

I haven't heard of any bets being made, but I am sure they are being made behind my back ... we are the absolute complete opposites, but we fit so well together it's creepy! But I am still scared of what may happen in the future ... Right now all's I know is I love him and can't wait to be with him for the REST of my life

I totally understand, I am stressing and having panic attacks. This process is so stressful. I am worried about every little thing. I can't wait for it to be over.

I am so thankful but scared at this rate.