Would you participate in a “fake” wedding?

View Quoted Comment Ok. Here’s the tough reality.... People make odd & imperfect decisions all the time, especially with relationships (but possibly you’ve made all good decisions). However, this is life and not some perfect ideal world. So sometimes people initially choose to protect themselves in uncomfortable situations when they know it won’t go over well if told to certain people (godmother or not). And, given your post, she clearly seemed to know you well enough to know that your’d have negative opposing thoughts on it (and she was correct). So your friend selected to protect herself (and you) and withheld the relationship details. But now she was able to share the truth. So it’s on you to either put your feelings about HER decision to the side and follow through on your end.... or hold the lie and “fake marriage” over her head by not doing her flowers. The choice is yours. 🤔

View Quoted Comment Yes... exactly! Lol! I roll my eyes very often on here, reading posts and replies from all of the “relationship/wedding police” 👮‍♀️

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FACTS!!!!!!!!!

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Because it's their own personal business? As other commentators have posted, it's MUCH more likely that they set a date thinking the divorce would be finalized. They may not have been financially able to move it, so decided to go ahead with the symbolic union, and will complete the legal requirements at a later date. Why is the first thought from so many, 'what a shameless gift grabbing deception!' and not 'wow, this is a tough situation, I hope it all works out'?

If you don't feel comfortable don't do it

View Quoted Comment A lot of people including me made the point that we would support their having a commitment ceremony, if we knew that is what it was. The problem is with their lying to everyone instead of just stopped saying the truth: divorce paperwork was not completed. We are having our wedding celebration now, as planned, and will follow will come I'll marriage when we can. And most people would give gifts, some when they have their wedding, some once they are legally we'd. No one begrudges them a gift, one way or another, sent before or after this ceremony y, just as gifts are sent before or shortly after a regular wedding. What people resent, is a friend who is lying to most if their family and friends. Unnecessary. And while nothing about the celebration bothers people if they no the truth, a lot of people will resent the lie if the hear the truth later. Do you like beings lied to, by close friends? Most people understand the dilemma these people have and the solution, go on with the show. Just tell the truth about it .