Would you let OOT friends stay at your house after wedding?

With all due respect, what are you thinking? And why are you thinking the way you're thinking?

Ahhh! When did accepting a wedding invitation mean that the guest should indulge even the mildest of fantasies that the couple would take care of their lodging? And when did sending an OOT invitation to a potential guest saddle the couple with expenses beyond the PP charge at the venue?

If I'm invited to a wedding hundreds or thousands of miles away, I look at my own discretionary income, my DNA connection to the couple, and I either accept the invitation or decline, based on whether or not the household bills will fall be the wayside if I decide to buy two plane tickets and spend three nights in an OOT hotel in order to attend a wedding. I'd never tell a couple that was the issue if we declined -- because I would believe they'd already figured out what attending their OOT wedding would cost us. We'd either fund the trip ourselves, or we'd realize that, since this wasn't the wedding of one of our children, we weren't willing to go to heroic (detrimental) financial measures to get there. Staying at the home of the couple? Oh God, no! We wouldn't accept that if it were offered.

My brother and his family, and my best friend from high school are staying with us after the wedding. The "night of" we'll be in a hotel, they'll have keys, it's all good to us.

Nope. I think his mom MIGHT stay with us for a couple days after the wedding and before we leave for our honeymoon, but we have 3 bedrooms and 2.5 bathrooms, and one is a full-fledged guest room. Plus, she's family. Plus, she's an easy houseguest. Anyone else? No way in hell.

Hell to the NO! I'm not that nice.

Especially since you only have 2 bedrooms and 1 bath.

This is a sacred time for you and the FH, so enjoy it!

Nope.

I wouldn't. It's your wedding. You will be busy before and want time together after.

No.

Absolutely not.

If you have other close friends or relatives that they would be comfortable staying with I would opt for that instead, or an AirBnB like PPs have suggested. You will have enough to do and worry about without hosting people in your home.

I would let them be adults and figure it out. I could potentially see paying for a hotel the night of the wedding, but after that it's up to them. Whether you're taking a honeymoon right away or not, the wedding night is intimate and no guests would be invited to stay at my house during that time.

We are getting married on a Friday evening and flying out for our honeymoon Sunday morning. My best friend and her family will be staying at our house Sunday-Wednesday (we will be gone).

Nope, nope, nope. I will not be hosting anyone at my house before or after the wedding. I have things to do and do not need to be in charge of keeping people entertained. After the wedding is time with my FH. I don't want other people around.

Hell no.

No way

I feel like I would let them stay at my house before but not after the wedding

I don't care! We are staying out on our wedding night (Saturday)... sleeping at home Sunday (family will be here at our house) then flying out Monday night. I want to spend time with our people then do us!

My BFF (MOH) is flying in a week before the wedding. She's staying with us that week. Her DH is coming in the night before the wedding. The plan for now is that they'll stay with us that night. The night of the wedding they're planning to get a room, but so are we, so I offered up our home if they wanted to save the expense. They're going home the next day so I'm hoping to meet up for brunch before sending them on their way. We won't leave for our honeymoon until Monday, so I feel like I want to spend as much time as possible with them. I'd say whatever you decide will be just fine.

No way. They need to pay their own way there.

No, don't add to your stress. They can stay with someone else or find a hotel.

This sounds stressful! I'd rather pay for hotel rooms than have people stay with us right after the wedding. Since they'd be sharing such a small space with you guys, you'll feel obliged to entertain them and spend all your time with them since they are your guests. Is that what you want to do after all the stress of the wedding?