Would you let OOT friends stay at your house after wedding?

No. They are adults. They can find a hotel and stay in it.

Absolutely not.

Nope. Absolutely not. Honestly, I was so drained the day after the wedding there's no way I could've hosted anyone at our home. We did go to lunch with our OOT friends, but then we just relaxed for dinner. It was a ton of fun, but exhausting, even after a good night's sleep.

If you want to be super nice, you could check airbnb or similar sites for your friends. It might be cheaper than a hotel, and since you're local, you could scope out the place for them!

No.

Aren't you taking a honeymoon? I wouldn't want to see a damn soul the days after our wedding regardless. Definitely not.

It's not ideal; but we're doing this. FILs are OOS. They will be probably leaving early from our wedding reception to take care of our dog at our condo & also be taking all of their grandkids to sleepover/giving us & FH's brother/SIL an adult break for the night. Love that the are going to be taking great care of our dog; but we will now have to make sure everything is super clean/setup for the sleep over :o

Then FH's OOS friend might be able to fly in for our wedding. Since we are leaving for our honeymoon the day after the wedding, I asked FH to call him to let him know...so if they want 1-2 days to hang out a bit, he could plan to come earlier. I know most would say to leave it up to them to find a place & I think that's a great idea; but when finances don't allow...I'd personally want friends/family attend the wedding then having to decline.

Just the choice we made & I'll make do.

ETA: we are having guest over before our wedding, on wedding night & afterwards, OOS FILs will be staying in our condo to watch our dog-n-such & we will be spending the night before & of at our hotel venue (free for us on the wedding night). We leave for the honeymoon that day after.

I can't believe that you are paying for their flights. Do not go out and buy an air mattress too. Why don't you suggest that they combine on a big AirBnB together?

Also, you do not want people underfoot before your wedding and after should be private time for you FI. Stay strong and do not cave to this sense of guilt you seem to have. Guests should never expect to be hosted by the wedding couple.

No immediate honeymoon. I'm in graduate school so not possible right now. Hoping when I'm done a nice reward plus honeymoon for an anniversary would be two weeks in Rome. FH is taking the week off afterwards and then going back to Canada.

I was already thinking because of anxiety that after the brunch we'll host at the hotel the morning after we would want to check out, go home and sleep.

No. There's enough stress around your wedding week without houseguests.

I had my friends stay with me when they came to town for the shower, but the wedding I would have been way too exhausted.

I wouldn't have anyone stay at my house:

Such a busy time. Pressure on to have everything cleaned up and ready to go for guests is too much.

No. I don't even let family stay over. I will only let people stay over in dire circumstances. They can adult and find a hotel.

We have people staying at our house. Most of the bridesmaids the week of the wedding plus family later on. We're going to be at the venue Friday-Sunday so someone is going to watch our animals.

FH also has to work that Monday so it's not going to matter.

I wouldn't. It's hard to host, even if it's close friends/family and things are casual. It's an additional thing to deal with and I couldn't handle that before or after the wedding.

I want to say I would absolutely do this. But at the same time all I want to do after the wedding is come home. Relax about money and no stress. And enjoy the first few says alone with my husband.

We're having 2 of my friends stay with us at my moms house. But after the wedding we're going to a hotel so no worries on that end. These are both friends who could not afford to come if they did not have housing and both friends I really wanted to be there.

I would absolutely not host people for several days after the wedding, nor would I ever want to be a guest at a couple's house immediately after their wedding. They are adults; they need to figure out their own arrangements.

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We're having the best man stay with us, we offered, he's out of state and his wife is pregnant so she won't be coming it's only for a day he told fh money was tight but there was no way he would miss , fh also stayed with them when he got married so we figured it was the least we could do, i honestly don't mind house guests but everyone is different.ETA we also have two kids 6 and 2 so it's not like we would come home and relax anyway lol our house runs on controlled chaos so throwing another person in the mix is not a big deal

Even when you are living together, the first few days of married life are so tender and special. I think houseguests will ruin your ambiance.