Would you invite a friend you're not speaking with to your wedding?

No sorry. We only invited close family and close friends. It was like if we haven’t talked to you in the past 6 months - no invite. We also had limited seating so we had to be strict with it

No I didn’t invite anyone that we didn’t have an active relationship with in the months leading to invites being sent out.

Do you want to end the friendship? If you think it might and don't want to, then you should probably invite her. It comes down to how you feel.

I am struggling with this too, as the majority of my friends live in other states. In the end, I decided not to. I figure, I already don't communicate with this person on a semi-regular basis... by the time my wedding rolls around in a year and a half, we may not have even so much as exchanged "hi's". Not to be selfish, but it's just not worth the $150 to me.

If you are not speaking on a regular bases then no I would not. This should be close family and friends who will enjoy! Plus may look "gift grabby"

If we didn't invite anyone who we hadn't spoken to or seen in six months, almost all of my family would not have been invited. In terms of friends, it's more of a will this cause a problem in the relationship if we don't invite you. We ended up only inviting a handful of friends and mostly family to the wedding. I wish it would have been more friends and less family but my parents are paying for most of it.

Nope not really friends anymore in my eyes

I think I'm leaning more towards no. We have limited seating and I think the money and space is better spent on another family member (we cut out some) or no one at all.

I disagree that it looks "gift grabby" even if I were to invite her.

Even though you haven’t spoken to her in months. In the end it will come to well you didn’t invite me to your wedding. We invited our close friends, and family. A lot of the family we invitedWe haven’t spoken to in a while but send an invite anyway just because their family

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I think you're right. I think I'm concerned about it being me who ultimately ended this friendship because I didn't invite her to the wedding, even though we both don't speak to one another currently.

Our guest list is primarily family and only a few friends as well. We have 65 guests.

View Quoted Comment With a guest list of 65, I think you could not invite and still potentially salvage the relationship. At that point, it's like mostly your inner circle being invited so I'd think most people would understand.

I would say no. If you haven’t spoken in a long time and she hasn’t responded to your texts, I would say you’re already not friends anymore. Liking someone’s posts doesn’t a friendship make.

Anyone who your iffy on is most likely going to be a no. Follow your instinct. But if you have to question it, it's probably best not to invite her.

There was one couple that H grew up with and was very close to, but we just haven't spent much time with them in the last few years. We were back and forth about inviting them, not because of space, but simply because we hadn't hung out with them in a while. But H felt that if he didn't include them, that would effectively end the relationship, and he really didn't want to do that, because he loves them and we have a ton of mutual friends, so we invited them. We've actually seen them quite a few times since the wedding, and they still talk about how much fun they had, so in this case, the invite actually rekindled what was once a very close friendship for H.

But we invited 194 guests and had space for 250. With a limited guest list like yours, especially if your gut tells you it's gift-grabby, then maybe it's better to not invite her.

No.

I have a few people like this, and I did not invite them. You're paying for every person, and also honoring them by inviting them. Have only the people who truly celebrate you there.

I wouldn’t. I was best friends with a girl for 16 years but we don’t talk anymore and aren’t in each others lives so I am not inviting her.

I guess I have the unpopular opinion on here. I have a semi-similar situation and I will be sending an invitation.

I wouldn't. Your wedding shouldn't be treated as a reunion for anyone and personally, I believe that only the people you can't imagine your day without should be invited.

I had a similar situation. I had a friend from college who I'd had a previous disagreement with. While we reconciled, it's never been the same in the few years since. We text/talk on occasion, but never about anything too deep and I hadn't seen her in two years and we're on opposite coasts. I didn't attend her wedding, but it was the week after my brother's, otherwise I would have.

In the end, I invited her and I'm glad I did. She didn't end up coming, but I would have been pleasantly surprised if she had. I just wasn't ready to let the potential of getting closer go yet.

For reference, I only had 60 guests, so it was only immediate family, some extended family, and our closest friends.

No, sorry, I am not inviting family unless they are currently a part of my life...far much less former or distant friends.