Would you go to a wedding if you got invited 2 weeks before the wedding date because you were Blist

Thanks ladies. Went to bridal shower because I thought wedding was 4 th of July weekend. So I was thinking invite would come end of May or June especially since we all know people don't know how to rsvp. Feeling kinda of bum and yes I agree she could have followed proper etiquette.

@Almost a Mrs. Not sure maybe she assumed I lived at my old apartment and didn't recall I moved????

@Donna S. I agree just didn't think I would get invited that way especially since we been friends for 7 years.

I would only be ticked over being invited to the shower and not the wedding. Especially having planned a wedding myself, I understand that cutting down a guest list is hard and just because you're on a B list doesn't mean you're not important. If I would have wanted to go as an A lister, I would still go as a B lister.

@SewBikeLove that is how I felt when others were talking about things.

@Amanda B. I definitely understand where you are coming from I just would never tell someone a verbal invite. My FH and I have our invite list already the people that may get an invite are at bottom of list and others who absolutely want are top but would never tell anyone that.

@ShayBird lmao.

@Mckay I agree still trying to decide on it.

That's just so odd. I personally wouldn't go.

I wouldn't go either. My time , especially weekend time, is precious, and if I'm not important to invite in the first go round, I'm not important enough to have there.

That being said, I know that people have to drastically curate guest lists, and not everyone they want can be invited; this is fine. But putting your guests in a hierarchy is shitty; and they are GOING to find out.

Nope, I don't think I'd be going to that wedding or sending a gift. That's just rude.

I would not go.

And Amanda - no you don't have to B list anyone. Most grownups realize that they can't invite everyone they want to invite. You choose who is on the list and you call it a day. Do you want one of your guests posting about your rude B list on a wedding forum after your wedding?

And, let me quote Celia because it really deserves it: "putting your guests in a hierarchy is shitty; and they are GOING to find out."

If I liked the person, sure. For example - if it was a work friend, sure.

Nope.

I was B - listed once and got a Facebook message invitation. I didn't even respond.

All depends on how you feel. If you are unhappy about it, don't go. If you are fine with it, then go.

EVERYONE has priority of people in their lives and a wedding or any event is no different. Some get invited to certain parties, others don't. Others get their feelings to hurt that they make everything black and white and stick to it. Other think about how they personally feel and assess each situation and then decide.

Life it too short, don't take it personally. Just decide how important this person is to your life.

Amanda - calling someone out for being rude doesn't make me classless. Now if you want to talk about classless how about we talk about b listing?

If i am not close with the person - sure i would go. But if I were good friends or family and b listed. Nope.

I've been B-listed and I didn't go. My cousin scanned over a picture of her wedding invite in Facebook five days before her wedding and I live two states away. I did respond and day I wouldn't make it and she responded she would still like a gift... NOT happening. However, with my upcoming wedding I plan to teach her the proper way to invite family and people

I would go and just not bring a gift hahaha

Uh, am I the only one who didn't think anything Jeleebeenz said was rude?

If it was close and I liked the person (and it seems you do), then sure, I'd go.

Absolutely not. ... And currently we had several declines that were a little surprising.. I COULD invite some more people if I wanted to, but I feel it will do more harm than good. If you weren't on my original list, you're not invited.

I got an invite 2 weeks put from an old roomate too! I didn't go. It was over Facebook and I had plans already for that weekend, you know, since it was 2 week out...I wouldn't go, but weird that you were invited to he shower and not the wedding. Ho estly, if I had known I want invited to the wedding I would not have gone to the shower.