Would you ever expect your SO to upgrade your ring?

I would never expect FH to upgrade my ring. I know he's made comments about wanting to though

Upgrades are a very personal choice and I'm sure it was something the couple discussed. FH and I have discussed upgrading my stone in the future. He bought exactly what he could afford at the time, which was a stimulant and he'd like to replace it with the same size moissanite or diamond in the future when it's feasible. Not that what he gave me isn't special because I love it more than anything, but I want to ensure longevity.

Would I share all that on Facebook? No, but that's just me.

It might be bigger but that doesn't mean it's better. It could be cloudy and filled with imperfections. I knew a woman who loved to show off her giant engagement ring. From far away it looked great, but up close it was a cloudy, yellow mess. And it wasn't yellow on purpose. I would bet good money that my .90 diamond is worth more. lol. Size does not =quality, it equals showing off. If he is willing to put up with that kind of treatment there is nothing you can do.

Okay that's rude...also posting on social media omg. I'm getting upgraded soon but it's because we got engaged at 19 and he got me a cute lil ring from Zales ($50, white sapphire). It's falling apart a bit 3 years later and he's the one who wants to upgrade it for me. I don't push, I don't care much anymore as it's been a while. but NEVER EVER would I EVER complain about this little ring. He made like $8 an hour working at a library at the time. It was incredibly sweet of him to get me this ring when he did. I'll 100% keep it forever too

I don't have issues with upgrading but your friends wife's need to be braggadocious about it is off putting. My FH bought my original ring when he was in school, he didn't want to wait to ask so he bought what he could afford with his part time job and after he gave it to me he said he wanted to upgrade the diamond. We have since upgraded (from .4 carat to 1 carat) and aside from my mom and best friend I didn't tell anyone.

My FH always talks about upgrading my ring but I told him I love my ring because it's unique (opal) and he picked it and fell in love with it. For me, he could've proposed with a damn ring pop and I'd be happy.

Why worry about someone elses relationship. This doesnt effect you at all... and yes my fh knows i want an upgraded ring when weve been together 10 years. He will also upgrade his project car at this time too. Win win

I absolutely love my rings. I couldn't ever imagine being so ignorant. I have always been taught to be grateful and it's better to give than receive. FH and I teach out children the same way.

The way she went about posting it on social media is unfortunate, but that's what her FH chose to deal with. If he had a problem with her sudden switch of materialism, he could always call off the engagement. Like PP said, it sounds like he feeds into her by making her happiness her main goal and priority whatever means that may be. For that couple it could be via materialist things. For others, they may like more practical things. Everyone will be different. Clearly she is interested in showing off to others which screams to me that she is immature. Unfortunately with social media, societal expectations and the diamond industry, people feel the need to follow "the bigger the better" policy.

Personally I would never want to upgrade my ring or diamond because I've grown too attached to my ring that I couldn't exchange it for anything else. I would just unfollow her on Facebook so you don't have to see her posts

I don't think I could ever part with the ring my FH proposed to me with and asked to commit our lives together. He comments on how small he thinks it is all the time. But I love it.

I for sure wouldn't post it to FB, but to each their own. Some people it's all about the ring/materialistic things, some people it's all about the marriage and the love.

OP - I don't think so. Re-read your own post.

I don't think I would want to give up my engagement ring for another. The sentimental value far outweighs a bigger ring.

I think the very idea of "upgrading" an engagement ring, and talking about it that way, is materialistic. It suggest that there's something wrong with it and your partner owes you something more. To me it demonstrates that the perceived monetary value and the image the ring presents is more important than what it symbolizes. If you want to get your partner a new ring, then get another ring. It doesn't have to be an improvement on the original ring. But, I don't even plan on wearing my engagement ring after getting married anyway; I never really noticed that some people do.

Just to be clear, having or wanting nice things doesn't make you materialistic, the value you place on those things does.

I would never think to ask about an upgrade. I think once those words come out of one's mouth, the sentiment behind the ring is kinda tarnished. To me, this is the ring he chose to have made for me. Granted, he knew the style of ring I liked before having it made, it's still means so much more to me that he took the initiative on his own (with his sister lol) to go and have the ring made specifically for my finger. I don't judge the size of a ring, but 5cts seems excessive for my liking. BUTTTTT it ain't my finger so who the fuck cares??!!!

When we picked out my ring, FH said we can upgrade later. I said no, this is the ring you will propose with. You can buy me an anniversary ring at some point if you want, but this will always be my engagement ring. My ring isn't large, it's a heart, no large stone, but he went to numerous stores with me looking for something special and unique. He found this and his face was so happy when he saw it on my hand. I wouldn't trade it for the hope diamond.

FH told me specifically before we got engaged that he wanted this ring to be my one and only just like him

The issue is posting on social media.

I have a simple round solitaire. FH and I picked out the stone and setting together. I would not change the stone. FH suggested that if I wanted something different for the setting down the road he's cool with it.

Even if FH and I hit the lotto I wouldn't swap out my ring! It has way too much sentimental value.

I think it's tacky to post that on social media but it's really no one's business. What does it matter if she's materialistic? I think that's for her and FH to work out.

If the love both experience doesn't fill the void of the larger ring, that's sad.