Would you ever expect your SO to upgrade your ring?

I feel like all she cares about is how big it is, and not about the love and sentimental value the ring is supposed to have. It's about his love for her, not how big or expensive the diamond is.

It just breaks my heart for my friend who keeps giving her everything and her to not even appreciate it. It's not my place to say anything to him I just had to vent.

I love and adore my ring and would never expect my FH to upgrade it. He picked it out himself and I know how crushed he would be if I ever said "I don't like it"

Your friend knows who he is marrying. She didn't wake up materialistic and I am sure he has helped develop it since they have been together.

Well honestly he chose to marry her. so shits on him too.

How awful! My FH picked out a gorgeous engagement ring that I love. He knew what style I liked and took it from there. I think it's perfect! But funny thing is I think he wishes it was bigger. Lol. He has made a few comments about upgrading my ring but I'm not interested.

I would never think that or ask that, honestly that is terrible.

But like PP's have stated, he knew who she was when they got married.

It's just funny because she WASN'T like this when they got engaged. He came across a business opportunity where he started making a lot of money and it was like a switched flipped in her overnight.. but you are all right. He is giving in to her when he really shouldn't. She will just keep expecting more.

Yeah, I feel like this is something I might side-eye, but ultimately it's not my (or your) place to judge. If they can afford it, good for them. Not everybody has the same sentimental attachment to their stuff, even to engagement/wedding rings.

ETA: I also don't think this is him "giving in to her when he shouldn't." They're both adults, it's not your place to say what he should/shouldn't do.

OMG if my FH gave me a new Porsche I wouldn't ask for anything else. Some people are so ungrateful!

It's between them, not you or anyone else (save for her bad decision to post about it on social media). Who are you to judge what people decide to spend their money on? There's far worse shit going on in the world than someone who likes a nice bag and a big diamond.

I'll add that while I have no interest in "upgrading" my ring because I think it's plenty big already, if H and I suddenly became multi-millionaires, maybe I'd feel differently. Whatever.

That's terrible! FH designed my ring himself and used his great grandmothers diamond and my son's birthstone. It is nothing like the ring that I asked for when we first started talking about getting married. It's a million times better because of the thought he put into it and the meaning of the ring. I would never ask him for a new one.

My FH has already stated that he plans to upgrade my ring sometime in the future, I'm not really interested!

My FH got me a 1/4ct princess cut diamond solitaire on yellow gold. Whenever people ask to see my ring (they actually usually just grab my hand and don't ask making me very confused and uncomfortable), they always say "Oh, well you can upgrade later!"

What they don't know is I picked out the ring myself. I was there when he bought it and I've been in love with it since then. So no, there won't be any upgrading. I love it and I love him.

She seems like she wants the attention that comes with having a huge ring, or maybe the status?

When we started looking at rings, I said I didn't want a diamond. I love diamonds, but I knew our financial situation and knew we were not on a diamond budget. My FH ended up finding the perfect wedding set secondhand online with a center stone a little under a half carat, and it is PERFECT! I have small fingers so I always felt like the 1 carat stones they threw on me in jewelry stores were a little too flashy. So, FH found a way to give me the diamond he felt I deserved (not a stab at anyone with non-diamonds, seriously there are some GORGEOUS options, but FH is old-school) and we didn't spend too much! I have had several "Oh, you can always upgrade later" comments but honestly I would never dream of changing this ring one bit!

We have talked about upgrading only because it's something the jeweler mentioned. We picked out my ring together and I couldn't be happier. If he never upgrades it, I wouldn't care. If he did upgrade it, we would just get a larger diamond, but it would be much later in life. Either way, I love him and I love it.

Also, I would never ask for an upgrade.

I agree with Kate, the worst about this is that she posted it on social media. How embarassing for them both.

The ring my FH got me was nothing like the example designs I had sent him, but it was perfect and gorgeous, and better than something I would have picked out myself. The only thing I may modify on it, is that is has the beautiful gap in the band that would be perfect to put little stones into. So I was telling him that one day when we have children, I may put a stone in the gap for each child we have. He loved the idea.

I couldn't imagine not being grateful for a ring that was designed for me and requesting an upgrade. I understand he would want to make her happy, as did my DH when we went ring shopping, but I wouldn't turn down a sentimental ring. But, I'm sure this isn't her first rodeo on the materialism wagon with him. While I know how I'd feel personally in the situation, I will not assume anything about their relationship since I don't know their dynamic.

Why do you care...?

Not saying this is the case but some men find esteem and self worth in being able to provide material goods. My guess is he is getting as much out of providing the bigger ring (and everyone on social media knowing about it) as she is. Mind your business and live your life.

And this post was not about the money, because shit I'm sure if I had the money I would go out and spend it on the same shit (cars, purses, clothes). It was just how she went about it saying that his main priority is to make her happy and how it's not her "dream" ring so she needed a new one. I'm not against him going out and buying her a huge stone.. it was really just the whole situation and how she went about it.