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Shannon
Master August 2013

Would you be offended? Limited Tab Bar

Shannon, on January 14, 2013 at 11:26 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 91

FH and I would like to offer an open bar at our wedding serving beer, wine, and a signature drink or 2 but are worried that the cost can get out of control. We were going through how much it would cost if people had 1 drink per hour through out the reception and the cost gets expensive really quick....

FH and I would like to offer an open bar at our wedding serving beer, wine, and a signature drink or 2 but are worried that the cost can get out of control. We were going through how much it would cost if people had 1 drink per hour through out the reception and the cost gets expensive really quick. I'm sure not everyone will have 5 drinks but in theory they could have that many or more (we have a few heavy drinkers and a few who don't drink at all). But here is the question- would you be offended if the open bar was cut off at some point during the night? To help prevent all of our honeymoon food funds going into the bar what if we capped the bar at a certain dollar value and if guests wished to continue drinking it would be a cash bar?

ETA: I had called it an open bar but I guess technically it would be a limited tab bar offered with free non-alcoholic drinks all night. This would mean the bar gets capped at a certain dollar value unless approved by bride groom or designee.

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  • Sarah
    Super August 2013
    Sarah ·
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    Most places let you limit it to a dollar amount and then let it be a cash bar after...or you can give out tickets for drinks- then who ever wants them can get them and then those who don't can trade them to ppl that do( I've never seen this done at awedding but all the FD and ambulance banquets I've been to do it)

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  • Pan
    Master March 2012
    Pan ·
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    Nope. I would not be offended, but open bars are not the norm here(probably because most people get married young and can't afford it). However I disagree that having a limited or cash bar is rude. WI is full of drinkers, and if there's no alcohol available the shizz will hit the fan. Which is why cash bars are normal and accepted here.

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  • Brittany
    Super August 2013
    Brittany ·
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    That wouldn't really be acceptable in the area I live in. Weddings almost always have an open bar here. You probably just need to think about your guests, your venue, and the culture of the area you live in.

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  • Misty
    Super June 2013
    Misty ·
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    We're doing drink tickets. We are planning on giving everyone (over 21 except those we know do not drink) two tickets each. They will be good for a well drink a glass of wine, or a beer. Beyond that they can pay for it themselves. We're happy to buy them drinks; we just don't want to pay for them to get wasted.

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  • Lauren
    Super January 2014
    Lauren ·
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    I wouldnt be offended. Just let your guest know. I went to a wedding where they switched from open bar to cash bar every few hours. worked out fine

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  • Heather
    Dedicated December 2014
    Heather ·
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    My venue totals it at a $6 pp charge for a FULL OPEN BAR which includes beer (assorted and domestic imports), wine, (woodbridge, merlot, cabernet, chardonnay, zinfandel), top shelf liquors, and mixers (canned soda, fruit juices, tonic & soda water), as well as lemons and limes, and ice.....We have 200 people attending, with 182 being of drinking age (obviously not all of these 182 people are drinkers, or will possibly even be coming, but we used that number for head count and came up with the price point). $1092 will be going to the bar. The end! I understand one wants to make sure their guests have a great time, but why go broke so that your cousin Sam can get plastered?

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  • Spicydeene
    VIP October 2012
    Spicydeene ·
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    Heather - $6.00 per person for the whole night or is that per hour? My venue initially led me to believe my open bar was $18.00 per person - come to find out later that they meant $18.00 per person per HOUR.

    At that point we switched to a consumption bar which worked out far better for us.

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