Would it be rude to send wedding announcements to those not invited to a small wedding?

130 people is a large wedding. Not sure how much smaller you are making it, but yeah, I think that wedding announcements are just asking for gifts.

Ideally I would cut the list in half, which I would then consider a small wedding. I don't mean to say that 100+ is a small wedding. Sorry for any confusion

I think it'd absolutely be perceived as gift grabby. I'm a hard pass on this.

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Yeah no. Don't do that

I don't see the point of wedding announcements. I say skip them

Yeah, it's a no from me!

I wouldn't do it. I would be offended if I received an announcement and no invitation..

Definitely gift grabby. If I got that announcement, I would feel that the only purpose was to alert me to buy the couple a gift. Which I wouldn't do.

Okay, I was worried about that. My parents are just worried we'll have relatives who will be offended "I didn't even know she was getting married???" But it's because we don't live near any of them

Ugh my FMIL wants to do this but instead she wants to send an invitation as a 'keepsake'. I keep telling her if we send these people invites like she wants me too that they are officially on our invite list and they officially have to RSVP. mini rant right there.

Dont do it, word will spread to these people, they will ask your parents to see pictures etc... my parents have friends who have asked where I was registered and bought me a gift without me having sent them anything.

Meh, let them be offended. Can't please everyone, and you don't need to tell everyone every aspect of your life.

In the 80's when my parents got married it was common to put the wedding announcement in the local news paper. It was a social thing back then. If you are having a budget issue already why add an extra unessential expense.

Yeah I wouldn't do this.

Your parents can call their relatives and mention you got married.

I did the announcements to those who I was close with and knew would not be able to attend the wedding. More so they could feel included and still have the announcement.

Can people not just want to share their important days with their friends and family anymore? Just so they know that there was a wedding and a new last name. Why do so many people perceive an announcement as a grab for gifts??

Where I am from - the Midwest -- it is acceptable to send announcements to those who couldn't make it after the event - usually including photos. It's actually not perceived as gift grabby at all, unless you include registry info on the announcements - that might get a side eye.

Wedding announcements are sort of obsolete now that we have social media to announce your marriage, among other life events. Alternately, you could make a wedding announcement on your local newspaper. But actually mailing individual people a wedding announcement IMO is rude. Its essentially "hey you didn't make the guest list, but here's a card. Yay we are married. Please send a gift." Very Awkward and rude.

I'm also from the Midwest and sending announcements after the wedding (but never before the event) is a normal way to announce to those far-flung friends and family members that you're married and you have a new last name. It's never been perceived as gift grabby unless you include registry info. People will likely still ask where you are registered, or they'll ask your inner circle, but that's their prerogative to find out the information if they want to send you a gift. The announcement might also turn into a nice keepsake for those friends and family who find that sort of thing sentimental.

I read a lot of etiquette columns, and I see NOTHING wrong with sending wedding announcements. I wouldn't send them to everyone under the sun, but if there are extended family member who won't know you've gotten married otherwise, go ahead and send them.

Wedding announcements do not require the recipient to send a gift.