Worst Wedding You've Ever Been To?

That sounds terrible!

The worst was probably the one that didn't have a table/seating chart. By the time we got there there was literally no room for us because there was one chair here and another at a different table. The only way to get a table was if we each sat at different tables from each other. We ended up just leaving.

Ugh, that sucks I can't really say I've been to a bad wedding so far. At least not as bad as what you're describing!!! The only odd things was at the last one, everyone was given an envelope with a couple drink tickets, but also included was a piece of paper. I'm not sure what they were for, but ours said "X number of people die due to lack of sleep." It was really odd and too morbid for a wedding!!! And it was a very classic wedding which made it even stranger.

The gap thing is really a problem, even if couples don't think it is. Board games don't cut it with no food, no drinks.

The pig? Well, they should have had a veggie option, but the roast is all about the pig. It's theme that is what it is.....

Outdoors; a problem in really hot and really cold weather with no respite.

Much of this can be solved by a simple question every couple should ask of themselves; if i was a guest, how much would I love/hate this? Would you love a giant gap with nothing to do? A sunrise ceremony? A cash bar or a dry wedding? Would I love being all dressed up and being asked to move my ceremony chairs to the reception? Traveling across the country for pizza and breadsticks?

That elusive "party' atmosphere you're all seeking comes from happy guests......

(edited because of a misspelling and you know I'm a grammar freak)

Ew, that's awful!

I went to a wedding in January that was different than i expected. Not AWFUL but definitely on the BAD side. It was in the gym of a church, which in and of itself is not too bad. It was one of FHs co-workers, so I didn't know anyone except one of the other couples who were not there yet. We got out seating card, and got to the table and there were more people assigned to the table than there were seats. So we walked over to a couple of the other guys and their dates and just sat there. There were plastic silverware (gold and silver plastic silverware, lol) and the appetizers that came out were ONE PLATE of chicken fingers (more like slices of cold chicken cutlets), cold mozzarella sticks with no dipping sauce, cold fried shrimp and cold chicken wings. Dinner was NOT any better, more plastic dinnerware, and a piece of pork, chicken, and fish with some overcooked veggies on one plate. EVERYTHING was cold. ALL the music was Spanish. No one but their families danced. The cool thing is that the bride was in a band so she played a set in her dress which I did enjoy. Oh, and they had an "open bar", with ONE bartender and not even half way through, they ran out of liquor. The guys we were sitting with went out to get their own bottle of JD.

Wow, sounds like a blast!

The "worst wedding" threads have been done before and some of the stories are hilarious.

Mine is an outdoor ceremony in July, melting in the heat for 1.5 hours - it was over 90 degrees with no shade or cold beverages available. The bride put a time on her invitations that was 1/2 hr earlier than the actual start time because she didn't trust her guests to arrive on time. We always arrive at least 15 minutes early so, we (along with most people) had to sit there scorching for an extra 45 mins. We were not impressed. I got sun burned badly and felt like I was going to pass out. We did not attend the reception.

I once went to a wedding that was outdoors. It was 40 degrees and raining, and nowhere on the invitation did it mention "outside ceremony." Fortunately, the reception was inside. Generic reception I guess because I don't remember it.

I have two that come to mind.

The first one was a wedding that was more like a birthday party atmosphere. The ceremony and the reception were all done at a VFW hall, which is fine, but there were games that you would normally find out like a child's birthday party. There was a piñata. The bride and groom sat in the middle of the room at one point and opened gifts. Each place setting had an index card and we were asked to write down our names, addresses, relationship to the bride or groom and what we gave them as a gift.

The other one was a super elegant "high-class" affair. Ever, it was clear that there was an A-list, a B list, and possibly even a C list. Favors for the wedding range from Jordan almonds and some mesh netting to crystal ice buckets. They were only about 10 or 15 couples that got the crystal ice buckets. The remainder got either the Jordan almonds or the middle-of-the-road favor which I don't remember what it was. And they had a one hour cash bar cocktail hour and no alcohol or soft drinks at all after that.

My old roommate got married and spent more than her budget allowed on her venue so she had a potluck dinner at the reception and still expected everyone to give expensive gifts. I thought that was really tacky.

The wedding started a half an hour late. The ceremony was over an hour long. Ceremony start time was noon, so we all thought they'd be doing lunch. We all waited in the reception hall for two hours while they were taking pictures. They had mints and nuts. That's it. No food. When the bride & groom finally made their entrance, they cut the cake. That was it. No other food was served. By this time it was close to 4:00. I was starving. And then they ran out of cake. So awful.

I've never attending a wedding that I would have called 'bad' myself.

I admit, when I saw the title of the post I thought I was going to respond with 'that's not nice'

then I read the post.

I thought the 3 hours with no available food was bad, but thought 'oh well, that's why I always have wendy's in my purse when I go to events, never know' not good, but do-able for me.

then I read about the pig. I usually keep the attitude 'do what you can, can't please everyone' but to have the pig out like that? even if you aren't a vegetarian or Jewish, who the hey wants to see that? ick

as for the mosquitoes, we have west nile here. maybe I should offer bug spray as a favor probably not needed in my case, but I bet there's been a lot of wedding where people would have appreciated the idea!

Yuck. I would have left sooner! The worst was recently, my twin sister's. She rushed to get engaged after we announced our engagement. So they then rushed to be married. It was a 3 month engagement. I was invited and uninvited and reinvited to so many things in those 3 months I don't even know how it was possible with such a short time. Last minute I was invited to the wedding again (probably because they wanted my money from a gift). It was a Sunday mid-day wedding in February in Northern Ohio. It was a TERRIBLE snow storm and was in a building back in a park so the roads weren't really plowed and I have a Corolla (sucks in snow!) and needed new tires to begin with. It was in a room slighty bigger than a master bedroom. You sat at your reception table for the ceremony. There was no bar. You could go downstairs and use the bar that the public uses, so you had to pay. I knew we weren't staying long so I didn't get anything. There were 8 tables of people. She sat me and my fiance in the very last, very back corner with the cousins she doesn't speak to. Which I was fine with because it was SUPER cold in the room and that table was in front of a fireplace. There were cheese and crackers for appetizers but they ran out half way through the people in line and they didn't restock. They wouldn't let anyone get any more coffee or tea after appetizers (less than an hour into the start time). Dinner came and the "band" (one singer and one person playing guitar, just their friends) stopped playing to eat so it was just silence and silverware hitting the plates. Then dinner finished and they cut the cake. Then people just stayed around and talked. I don't even know if we hit the 2 hour mark before leaving. If we did, it was just barely over 2 hours and that's because we were driving my great aunt home and she wouldn't stop talking to people, which was perfectly fine. I felt bad that I had to make her leave early but we already had to drive an hour out of our way to pick her up, so add that to a terrible snow storm on a Sunday, it was time for us to leave. I didn't want to go at all, but I also didn't want to be seen as the bad person. I already am scolded and looked down upon because I didn't attend a dinner and "bachlorette" party she had, even though people didn't realize that I was not invited to these things. Kind of hard to go if you didn't know about them. I still get crap for not attending and it's been 6 months.

Oh, I forgot to mention. When we were leaving we went up to the bride to say our goodbyes and she seemed very disappointed that we were leaving. We gave her hugs and she says "Oh well, at least you got a free meal out of it..." UM NO, we gave you $200 and all I ate was corn because you made zero accommodations for vegetarians! Holy I was pissed off.

My mom's cousin got married a few years ago and here are the highlights:

- Over invited people to the reception. There were probably 20 people more than the capacity of the room for seated "dinner"

-No seating chart which only made the over invited thing seem worse. People planted down in chairs and left odd numbers. It made finding a table for whoever you wanted to be with much harder.

-No dinner. They had snacks but NOTHING on the invitation pointed to it not being a dinner. The wedding was at 4:30, reception started at 5:30. They had a cheese and cracker tray, some bourbon hot dogs, and fruit/veggie trays. At 7:00, my parents and I left to go out to dinner.

-The bride and groom grinded to "Black Betty" for their first dance. I'm all about having fun and letting loose but that was just straight up uncomfortable!

I've never been to a terrible wedding. Thank God, hearing these stories! But I had to say, StitchingBride, I totally Lol'd when I read that you always have Wendy's in your purse when you go to events. That is absolutely genius!!

I've never been to an AWFUL wedding but one that had awful elements...when FH's cousin got married, the bride and groom were NEVER next to each other after the first dance. They were off with their own friends...there were no table assignments so when we first got there and sat down, we moved to another table and then moved BACK to the table we were originally sitting at.

One I was just at the bride put her BMs in cream, short dresses with turquoise accessories and shoes (adorable sounding, right?)...but the dresses were bought online and nobody thought to have it altered (and there were some BIG girls) so all the girls looked 15 lbs heavier, frumpy and just not comforatable.

In 2012, my FH's roommate from college got married, and asked my FH to be a groomsman. A little strange to me because they hadn't seen each or really talked much in 3ish years. But okay, they were close in college, so that makes sense. I know no one whatsoever at this wedding, including the bride and groom.

The save the dates come out, and are postcards of the bride and groom sticking their heads out of an old school outhouse/latrine. You know, the wooden ones with the little moon cut out of the top? Anyway, the text says "we hope you aren't occupied on xx/xx/xx" Making me think of pooping on your wedding day. Not awesome, but okay.

The reception was being held at a place called Bittersweet Farms. Still weird, but okay. Not my first choice of a name of venue for the happiest day of your life, but all right.

The day of the wedding comes, and I am of course not expecting much. It was a cash bar, but no one told us as much, so that stunk. As others have mentioned, also in the middle of nowhere. So, I get up to go to the bathroom while FH was getting ready to do the entrance. There was ONE BATHROOM in the entire place. ONE STALL for women and ONE STALL for men. For ~150 people. bad news. FH introduces me to a few of the GM girlfriends, they politely say hello, then turn their backs to me to continue their conversation.

Before we left, we got our photo taken at their photo booth. The next day, I find out that the photos were all automatically uploaded to the company's PUBLIC facebook site for all to see. In fact the album was publicly shared with the caption "blackmail your friends!" When I was complaining about this later at work, my boss got kind of up in arms. At the time I was working for an intellectual property lawyer, and found out that this is super illegal. She sent an email to the photobooth owner saying "hey, you've got a great service and enhanced this wedding, but you need to either make your photos private or password protect the album. Additionally, you need to put a sign on your booth letting people know they will be publicly displayed. Thanks so much"

(paraphrasing). A very friendly and non-intimidating email. The photo booth company called the couple ON THEIR HONEYMOON telling them that they are removing their pictures because a guest (and they named me) was threatening legal action. Obviously not the case whatsoever. The Groom sent a nasty message on facebook to my FH about it, and never even asked me about the situation.

And they all lived happily ever after.

I have been to a lot of "bad weddings". However, not all things that were bad were the fault of the bride or groom. I will comment on one of the first weddings I attended as an adult. When I was 22 one of my best friends got married. I dressed to the nines in the nicest heels I had only to find out we (all the guests) would have to walk up a very choppy gravel drive, then down a muddy hill to a pond for the ceremony. It was about 85 degrees and humid and I was sweltering. The bride had a dress mishap so we all sat in the sun for almost 45 minutes with no drinks or shade until the ceremony began. This was also a pot-luck wedding where the only thing being provided was the meat - which was a WILD PIG that the father of the bride shot in the Carolinas. Anyway, the wedding was not traditional in the slightest (the groom was in a t-shirt and ripped jeans while the bride was in a gown she could not zip up). The officiant was very good - but extremely long winded and he was interrupted by bull frogs and animals throughout the ceremony. When it was finally over, we were "dismissed" to a few sparse chairs and lawn tables in the yard next to the pond. The food was left out inside a sweltering lean-to that I think was once a chicken house - so everything was spoiled and yet people ate it. The bride changed out of her dress inside the outhouse and put on jeans before anyone really got to *see* her gown up close. I did not feel well that morning and was feeling worse and worse as time went on. I ended up sicker than a dog the next day and the bride's mother commented later that over half the guests got food poisoning. It was absolutely a memorable wedding but not for all good reasons.

A friend of both me and my sister got married last Summer.

First, she met him online (which isn't a problem but sets the stage for the rest of the story) and had only seen him 4 times in person before they got engaged. They had a 6 month engagement during which they made all kinds of plans for her and her daughter (from a high school BF) to move 9 hours away to where new husband was from. She never cleared it with the courts and found out two weeks before the wedding she wasn't allowed to.

One of the bridesmaids neglected to show up for the ceremony – claimed it was because she wasn’t from around the area and didn’t know where she was going – which is a lie because everyone had been there the night before decorating. Bride was upstairs in the “getting ready” room taking shots before the ceremony – she was marrying a pastor BTW.

The ceremony was outside in the middle of July with no shade - started late of course. We had to move our chairs from the outdoor ceremony to the outdoor reception under open sided tents. Bugs were horrible! Dance floor was actually a tennis court. DRY RECEPTION (we brought in and kept it on the DL). The only things provided to drink were lemonade (which mixed nicely with my Bacardi), iced tea and water. It was a tapas reception - no real meal but no one was told in advance.

My sister and her husband and me and FH drove 9 hours to go and she never came over and thanked us for coming and we never got a thank you in the mail for our gift.

To top it all off... Bride and Groom also left the reception early to the hotel because new groom was a virgin and they didn’t feel like waiting until the party was over before they consummated the marriage.

I've been to very few weddings. My FH's brother got married a few years back and his wifes parents own a church. They got married there but it was such a tiny church! There were so many people there that they couldn't even sit inside to watch the ceremony. They had to go to the "basement" and watch the ceremony on a screen! Then the reception was also held at a very tiny building. The tables were so close to each other that people were back to back. My sister and I walked in and literally no seats were available for us. I felt terribly bad for taking FH away from his brothers wedding but I asked my FH if we could please leave. He was one of the groomsmen, I was shocked he wasn't the best man! I just couldn't stay. It was too crowded and I felt out of place. He agreed that he just couldn't stay so the three of us dashed out of there. I don't even remember if I said goodbye to anyone. I'm sure people noticed him missing and had a few choice words to say about me but I don't care.

Hasn't happened yet, but my sister is thinking of having the ceremony and reception at my uncle's house. but during cocktail hour, go to have dinner with my grandpa who she is sure will not attend. She thinks that leaving for a minimum of two hours is ok. I told my mom "IT'S COCKTAIL HOUR!" but she didn't see a problem with it.