Woman proposing to the man

^^^ pretty much

I knew it was just a matter of time where people started turning on each other in this thread.

It really just comes down to "who cares". Every couple is different and proposed the way they wanted to propose. Piggybacking off everyone sayings it's 2016.... To me, I think being 2016 means everyone can do whatever the hell they want. And it sounds like they did. So yay for us.

Makes me sad so many women feel they must sit back and twiddle their thumbs on this issue. Of course, it can't be fun for guys, either! Yes, I think women should feel free to propose if they have a mind to. This is 2016, atter all!

I get that it's not everyone's bag, but saying someones actions might make them feel like less of a man... Is absurd. Imho. If you're confident in who you are as a person then nothing anyone else can do will make you feel 'less of anything'

That's what's silly.

@JerseyJen: I agree that if they want, to go for it. I do think it's a pretty sad sign for our society that anyone can call a COUPLE who choose to feel that going the "traditional" route is sexist and doomed to a miserable marriage.

I have no problem with women proposing. We both got engagement rings so we both sort of got proposed to and ring-ed. He carried around both our rings and, after he proposed, he gave me his ring to give to him . I'm embarrassed to say that I don't even remember what I said or if I got down on a knee because I was too flustered by him proposing.

@jjen that's exactly what I meant by "it's 2016" This thread took a strange turn.

Hey, do what you want. We don't have to agree, it's all good. I can disagree or not understand a certain mindset. All I said was that if my FH thought it was emasculating, he wouldn't be the guy for me.

@Chrissy, "grow a pair?" So I guess this is the point in the thread where we start competing to see who is higher up on the feminist totem pole, and whose husband is more "evolved"? Lol. #eyeroll

My eyes are rolling at this. Especially since in my household pretty much all the gender roles are reversed. He cooks, he cleans, I make the majority of the income etc etc. But yes, because he wanted to propose after we had decided to get married (together, like adults) he must be sooooooo sexist. Every couple is different, what works for one doesn't work for all. But ya know, keep on judging. It's 2016 after all.

In my personal opinion. I know with the change of society females are proposing to the guy now. I personally won't do it. I believe if that man wants you to become his wife, he will propose. That is letting me know he wants to spend the rest of his life with until God calls you to heaven.

I'm all for it! It's 2016! Do what works for you and your relationship!

"If a man wants you to become his wife, he will propose"?!

I hope you realize how fucking insulting that was to me. So closed-minded and rude.

That's fine, RosaLu. I just feel like if a man is emasculated by a woman proposing.... That's more emasculating than the former. I'm not really going to be sorry about that, but if your relationship works off of that, cool. It's not my relationship.

@Cats: while I don't necessarily agree with the quote, to be fair, the statements about sexism and how it's "sad" that a man would feel emasculated by the woman proposing are just as rude, mean-spirited, and screwed up as if someone were to say that a man who waits for the woman to propose or accepts a woman's proposal isn't really a man. I don't believe that either, but I sure got a lot of BS shitty things said because I made the statement of how he would feel, right down to implications that he would be controlling and abusive, from someone I formerly considered fairly level-headed. That's not only insulting, it's just plain ignorant.

@Nikki: I'm totally okay with people having their own opinions. Read my first post and you'll see it was strictly speaking of my own opinion/experience. It was for that opinion that the attacks began. You really can't ask one side to play nice, when the offensive side continues to tear others down.

@Nikki: Thank you!

It's a leap year so it's encouraged!

@mna: So however one's SO feels can't possibly be sexist? Or pointing out that something is sexist is "bashing" them?

Having one standard for what men should do and a different standard for what women should do is sexism. That's not bashing, or even an "opinion"--it's the definition of the term.

That doesn't mean that a man can't propose. Of course he can. So can a woman. But when someone starts saying that a woman proposing is emasculating, while a man proposing is just fine, that is in fact sexism.

I proposed to my fh then when we got my ring he proposed to me.