widows...

Good question, I'm planning on Mrs. But didn't know if it was addressed to the woman's or man's name. Mrs Joan Smith or Mrs. John Smith. My widows are elderly and I'm adding a guest so they can bring a daughter/son along to help them or just so they don't have to come alone.

Not sure of rules on this. I like Mrs Joan Smith and Guest. Not sure if it is right though

We have one widow on our guest list, and I know she prefers to be addressed as Mrs John Smith, so we went with that. Otherwise, I'd ask around (for example, this is my grandmother, so I asked my mom).

I'm a "younger" widow and if I were to receive an invite that said Mrs. Former Husband's Name it would kinda depress me and cause me to think about his passing because of the unexpected attention drawn to him through the use of his name. I would personally prefer Ms. D-Minted last name. So I would suggest looking into what each widow prefers. Good luck

It's mrs. That's how I've always addressed my mammaw through mail after my pa-paw died. She did not divorce him, therefore she is still his wife. So, she is Mrs. ;-)

I'm the same as DMinted, (with being a younger widow) in that while I get things with Mrs #1surname I prefer Ms mysurname. And not just because I have FH now.

I think it is a real personal thing to the woman. I would say the older they are the more likely they are to still use Mrs X.

I would never use Mrs mans full name widow or not as I don't like it

Ah see I don't write it at Mrs. Pa-Paw Xxx, Sr. I write it as Mrs. Mammaw Xxx, Sr. Bc there are actually 3 lol. My papaw, my daddy, and my brother.

I texted the daughter of the woman I know who is widowed to find out how she prefers to be addressed. I did write and guest, I think she is bringing her daughter.

As a widow I prefer my name and surname (not my late husband's which I never took).

The only widow I have on my list is my Gram. I addressed her invitation as Mrs. Jane Smith. I used my Poppy's last name because like someone else said, they didn't get divorced, he died. I didn't do and guest, but only because I know she won't bee bringing a date. My poppy has only been gone a year and my Gram definitely isn't the dating type plus our family will be there so she will know plenty of people. If she mentioned wanting to bring someone then I would definitely allow that.

Ours were much more casual and I just addressed them to Jane Smith or whatever the widows name was. The only one we had was my grandma and she wasn't bring a date as all her children (my aunts and my dad) were going to be at the wedding.

The traditional and formal way of addressing a widow would be "Mrs. John Smith."

HOWEVER, I think it really depends on how she would like to be addressed. My parents have an older friend who still goes by "mrs. John Smith," but I also know some widows who prefer "Ms. Sally Smith."

The widows on our guest list all address themselves as Mrs., so that's how we will address their invitation. Several of them are in committed relationships, so we will put their SO's name. The others will be & guest.