Who pays for the day after brunch?

Ohh, thats not what i thought the question would have been. i would have assumed that the couple would have covered it if they were sending an invitation out.

eta: its a hosted event, in every other hosted event for weddings the costs are covered for the invited guests. but since they provided the price i would assume that they are expecting you to pay.

If they provided a price I think it's safe to assume you will. I would never assume they are even if the price wasn't included.

Depending on how many people stay, we may do a morning after brunch and we are budgeting to pay for it. It's one thing if it was just there and everyone happened to gather. But if they are inviting and there needs to be a head count, they should be paying.

Never heard of having to pay your own way for the day after brunch. Its always been my experience that the parents of either the bride or groom (or both) pay for it.

Day after brunches are sometimes hosted, sometimes not hosted. Based on how that is worded I would expect to pay for myself.

I have seen it done both ways. This seems like a "we are letting you know where we will be" more than an invite.

I would never send out a formal invitation like that if I wasn't covering the cost. They are clearly expecting you to pay for your own meal, but they should have just spread it by word of mouth as "we'll be at x restaurant for brunch if anyone wants to join us", and not sent an invitation like that.

I hope I'm not sounding stingy here, but I'm up to my eyeballs in dollar signs with this wedding planning. My FH and I are footing over half of the wedding bill, while my parents are contributing a small chunk. My FH's parent's have yet to offer their checkbook in sincerity.

I love the idea of having a post-wedding brunch, but I am afraid we're all out of funds for that one. I'm hoping that if I can just get word of mouth out to friends and family that we'd love to have a very casual get together, people will come. I'd hate to think that we're on the hook for it. Especially after the rehearsal, bridal luncheon, the wedding, etc.

Hopefully y'all have some good suggestions to keep this casual and polite.

We booked a hotel block with continental breakfast haha does that count?

Everyone paid for themselves if they wanted to stay and have brunch with us on the venue. One thing I overlooked was how much it was (about $16-17 per person). I wish I had known, since that's kind of pricey but no one (outwardly) complained.

You are clearly expected to pay here. It's gross to send out an invite to an event that you are paying for. WOM is the way. I would not say this is a "letting you know where we'll be" situation since there's technically an rsvp involved.

I've never been to a wedding where day after brunch wasn't hosted, but I wouldn't find it tacky if it was pay your own way if it was word of mouth. I'd be paying to eat then anyway. But formally tying it to the wedding with an invite is, imo, a big no-no.

I'm not aware of any real type of etiquette for this, but based on the way it is worded I would be expecting to pay for myself but I do find it odd that they are asking for a headcount.

If I sent out an invite and asked for a headcount, the price would not be mentioned and I would make sure my FH and I were footing the bill.

I agree with Emily, that should've been a word of mouth thing. Reading that, it starts out strong and you think "awww they're inviting us to brunch!.... Oh, wait" it's just kinda awkward. $20 brunch is no big deal, of course, it's actually cheap, but still, just a little awkward.

My parents will be hosting a breakfast but we are keeping it simple, like stop in and grab a bagel, muffins, coffee etc. Personally, I would rather not "rsvp" to a full breakfast. Sometimes the morning after a big wedding I just wanna head home... Depends on how I feel upon waking up.

Tacky. A formal invitation means the event is hosted. Word of mouth means pull out your wallet. If you want the party to cross over into the next day, either pay for it or don't make it an event that you send out printed invitations to.

We're paying for our post-wedding luncheon. I think it's kind of rude to invite people to something and then expect them to pay. A brunch isn't a required event, so I think if the bride and groom can't afford it, they just shouldn't offer it.

OP said this was emailed out. You guys consider that a formal invite? Who did the email come from? Seems like it came from someone other than the bride and groom since otherwise it would have been written in the 3rd person.

The email came from their wedding email account. It was sent via evites.

I still have no problem with it. Its not a formal invite, in my opinion, and it's optional so anyone who has a problem paying doesn't have to go!

I suppose it could have been worded better or not sent out in an Evite and just a plain email.

if it had been worded "Brunch is available at the hotel cafe the next morning for $20. If you would like to join the new Mr. and Mrs. please let the MOH know by Wednesday"

We arranged for a nice breakfast to be included in the room cost for our hotel guests, and paid to have a banquet room for everyone to gather for Brunch/ gift opening. Unfortunately we just can't afford to cover the people who are not staying in the hotel, but we still extended an invite saying they are welcome to join.

ETA- we just put a note about it on our wedding website, and will probably put a note with each hotel guest's gift bag. Nothing formal will be sent out about it.