Who pays for bar at reception

Uh, how about YOU and your FH pay for your own wedding?

You don't ask anyone to pay for anything for your wedding. You plan to pay for everything yourself unless someone graciously offers. Also, if you do not have the money in your hand/bank account, plan on paying for it yourself.

ETA: Based off your other posts, it seems like you are not the bride nor groom. Therefore, the "you" in this comment isn't necessarily YOU but the bride and groom.

You know that you can just comment on your other post, right?

By right, the bride and groom should pay for everything. Otherwise, whoever offers to pay should be upfront with what you are offering. DO NOT ask anyone else for money. If you cannot afford it, perhaps you should have a conversation with your daughter about her choices.

Better ask them to chip in. I mean they aren't entitled to, but the brides family can't pay for everything. If anything just make it to what they can afford. So they don't brake their banks, since no one else is paying.

What? If your parents are paying for the entire wedding they will pay for the bar too. You (assuming you're the bride) need to pay for it if your parents are not going to. But do not assume someone will pay for something... I think is tacky to ask someone to pay for a party to celebrate you (and your FH).

FFS. THE ONLY PEOPLE RESPONSIBLE FOR PAYING FOR A WEDDING ARE THE PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED.

Yes, that required yelling.

Do not ask anyone to pay for your wedding.

So yes, it is safe to assume that you will be paying for it if no one offers.

Very generous of the brides parents to pay for the entire wedding. Until cash is in hand I would assume you are paying for the entire thing. I have seen a lot of empty promises as far as money goes. Also, I would assume you are paying for the bar. If the grooms parents offer to pay for the bar or give you money to pay for the bar that's different. But I am sure you will get a lot of comments on how asking for money is rude. Best of luck to you, and I hope my comment was helpful.

Um.....you do.

IF you are going to ask them for money, I would definitely your let FH have that conversation with his family. Money is obviously a sensitive topic and that should be between them.

So are you the bride or the mother of the bride? Still so confused from both of your posts about this topic.

So confused about PPs telling you it's okay to ask FH's parents for money. Please don't do this. Have the wedding you can afford. If they want to help you, they will offer.

If OP is 18 they can't be paying for their own wedding.

Stop starting new threads when you can ask on your current thread.

ETA: I meant OP not PP.

Face palm

Well, at least this thread proves that a certain commenter is a troll. "better ask them to chip in"? Lmao.

No no a certain commenter wanted validation on throwing their own engagement party.

Why do t you just have a closed bar? That would solve your question.

First you wanted to ask your guests to pay for a cash bar, now it's the groom's family?

WAIT UNTIL YOU CAN AFFORD YOUR OWN WEDDING. SMH.

@Brittany because that would be improper hosting. If you are asking guests to travel, dress up, sit through a ceremony, and bring a gift, the least you can do is provide a glass of wine.

OMG. So much bad advice today.