who pays for and puts together the wedding shower for the bride

Your wedding party (MOH and BM) collectively pays for the shower...they are paying for mine.

My FMIL and FGMIL are putting one of mine together mainly because my MdOH is in the ARMY she doesn't have the time to and my MtOH doesn't have the money (her husband is out of work) I think my mom is doing the other one.

Generally it is the MOH and Bridesmaids but it can be thrown by the MOB or FMIL.

My mom is doing mine...but I've seen aunts and bridesmaids do it too.

In my case my mom is helping with anything. My dads mom raised me so she helping pay for it , my moh and my fmil is always down for a good get togethor.

Martha always has the answer! http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/photogallery/choosing-your-wedding-party#slide_2

Traditionally the MOH hosts the wedding shower.

I think it really depends on who offers... Lots of brides have more than one because a few people want to throw them one... my mom's best friend, a woman I've known my entire life, she's like a second mom, is throwing mine. My MOH (my sister who lives in Hawaii) will help the day of, and she already instructed my mom to do nothing, and just show up. But i think traditionally I don't really know who should... MOH? FMIL? MOB?

Etiquette says it is the MOH. But most bridal showers are thrown by a combo of the bridal party, MOB and FMIL. Just as long as it is not the bride throwing it

Yeah, a friend of mine who couldn't make our DW offered to do a local co-ed shower/engagement party, since I don't have a MOH and only one BM is local. But since it's a combo engagement party AND shower, we're pretty much footing the bill. I don't really mind--it's a chance to see a lot of people we couldn't invite to the actual wedding, so I'm thinking of it as a kind of pre-wedding reception at this point. :p

Traditionally it is paid for by BMs, but I don't feel comfortable expecting that from my bridal party, who are just out of college, graduate students, and unemployed, respectively.

My mother paid for my bridal shower.

Mom - Bridal Shower

Maid of Honor/Bridesmaids - Bachelorette Party

Thanks everyone for your comments and suggestions

Carly

Its the MOH & Bridesmaids. The MOB & FMIL can help but they are not supposed to throw it b/c it as seen as them asked for gits for the couple.