Yeah, mine all bought their own, and i told them what colour family i wanted them in but beyond that they could choose whatever they wanted. i'm paying for most of our hair and makeup costs on the day though (they offered to kick in a bit of those costs which was super kind). i've been a BM a few times and always paid for my own dress. definitely nice to help a friend out though if you're in a position to do so and it helps them feel more secure.
Mine all bought their own dresses for my wedding. I just gave them a color palette and said get whatever you feel comfortable in
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October 2017
Constance ·
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Don't they always? That's like the only expectation associated with being a bridesmaid.
ETA: If you can swing it, can you cover her room and gas money? That is not necessary, but would be incredibly nice of you. She should have brought up cost earlier though.
We are exchanging favors really. My friend is getting married 2 mos before I do. I am buying my dress for her wedding and vice versa. Our BP will be paying for their own rentals/purchases. As others have said, its totally customary.
My girls have paid for their dresses. I'm paying for hair and make up. our groomsmen have bought their shirts & pants and wearing whatever brown shoes they own. We bought their ties
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June 2018
Espadas ·
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I'm buying my dress for my best friend's wedding (I'm MOH), and I am having my bridesmaids purchase theirs.
I have paid for ALL the bridesmaid dresses for all the weddings that I have been asked to do.
There are others costs associated with saying Yes to being in the bridal party and it can definitely add up; I feel like this something people should just know, but I'm certain there is going to be 'that person(s)' who just don't.
I thought I would be okay with having them wear different dresses, and I am surprised that I am now leaning the other way. We have been dress shopping and we're approaching $300. I don't wanna go more than that. To buffer the cost of the dress, I have decided to gift my bridesmaids with Hair & Makeup, along with putting together small gift boxes with functional-nice items (Aveda Essential Oils, travel candles, notes about the HM).
I am cashing in on all my resources (points, miles, work benefits/discounts, etc).
I had to pay for my dress when I was a bridesmaid. We all bought whatever she picked out.
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November 2017
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They are paying for their own dress and shoes ( I don't care as long as it's in the silver color). I'm letting them wear their own jewelry and they will decide if they want hair and makeup done.
My bridesmaids are buying their own dresses (I just gave them a color). I'm making hair and makeup optional and buying all of them nice gifts (not sure yet, will personalize for each as if it were a bday).