Who on here made bridesmaids buy their own dress?

I'm buying my BM dresses because they're my kids but my 14 year old will be in her brothers wedding and they are paying for it (for now, I'm waiting for them to realize how expensive it's gonna be, they have 9 of them)

I think it is a little late for you to be thinking about this since you are getting married day after tomorrow.

It's customary in the US for the bridal party to pay for their own attire

That should be 100% expected from your BM's, in fact it's literally the only thing they have to do.

No she was saying how she didn't have money for a hotel room when she lives 2 hours away from me and how she barely has gas money to make it here and then said that.

That's the norm... And I actually like it that way, because I am letting them choose their own dress (with some guidelines, of course), so I wouldn't want them to buy a dress they will only wear once and not like it. Mine are also paying for their own hair and makeup. I did buy their bouquets, though, because they were on sale at Michael's and absolutely PERFECT.

ETA: Your wedding is THIS SATURDAY?! Do you even have your own dress?! Girl, at this point, just send them to Macy's to pick something out.. Whaaattt...

I paid for mine for a friend's wedding. My brother paid for mine for his.

I know I'm getting married in 2 days but I didn't know if I was being the unreasonable one in this situation or if she is.

Bms bought their own dresses, but they all agreed on the dress and i chose one that was less than 30$... accessories were $11

I am buying the dresses for them, as well as paying for hair and makeup (but HMU not required if they really don't want it - but who wouldn't want to be pampered for free? )

Thanks OP for the clarification! She is definitely being the unreasonable one in this situation.

Yes she is being unreasonable not you.

I've been a bridesmaid in about 1,000,000 weddings and I've purchased all but one of my dresses. For that wedding, the bride gave us all less than one month notice and she purchased the dresses instead of a bridesmaid gift.

Something about this question/thread rubs me the wrong way. "Made" your bridesmaids buy a dress? Trying to prove that she's "unreasonable"?

Yes, it's pretty standard that bridesmaids purchase their own dress, but it's also typically agreed upon (with a budget) ahead of the bride shopping for dresses.

If she's struggling with money, I'd try to be compassionate and help her out where I could rather than pointing out her being unreasonable. Maybe you could chip in with the gas money and/or hotel room? I know that if someone was close enough for me to ask to be a bridesmaid, I'd do whatever I could to make sure she wasn't stressed about affording it and make sure the only thing she had to worry about was standing up by my side.

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses but that definitely isn't required or the norm. They are all traveling (flying from out of state) and the hotel I asked them to stay at was rather pricey. I'm also flying from out of state and staying at the same hotel but I just wanted to lessen the burden for them.

Mine did.

They purchase their own.

All my bridesmaids bought their own dresses... that's kind of the norm.

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I am. The groomsmen are also paying for their tuxes. We are giving them gifts in lieu of.