Who is walking you down the aisle, if not your dad? Why?

My dad and I aren't that close at all, so I understand how you feel. My mom thinks it would be super offensive if I don't have my dad walking me down and he would be hurt if I didn't have him do this (I honestly doubt he cares). So to compromise, I said that I want both my parents to walk with me since I would love to walk with my mom. Is that a possibility for you?

I don't want to do the father/daughter dance either, but I might have to. And if this is the case, I was thinking midway, switching to dancing with my FFIL, that or I pick a short song so this doesn't last long. I just don't have anything to talk about with my dad, and I'll probably just be annoyed the whole time.

Pastors wife. Her mother was going to do it, but she passed a few months ago. She's doing it in honour of her mother and for me. My dad has been long dead, he was a deadbeat, my dear mother had passed also.

I'm walking myself down the aisle. I think having someone walk me and "give me away" is not a reflection of my life's journey. I've always been very independent so me walking myself is me presenting myself to my future husband in the most honest sense

Yea honestly I think it should be a reflection of your life journey as HisBride has stated. Im walking down the aisle with my mom because she has been the dominate figure in my life. My father will be there but I doubt he care. We hardly talk anyways. But if my mom didnt want to walk me I would just walk by myself. I`m independent anyways.

@Jenja I'm thinking that might be a possibility. @Hisbride how did your parents react? I've considered both.

I know this is going to turn to a shit storm bc dad has already given me a hard time about my two brothers not being in the wedding party. We are having a small party and a pretty casual reception.

Hisbride - that's exactly how I was looking at it. My dad's an ass. I'm not even inviting him to my wedding. He's done nothing for me. My mom was a mess after she left my dad, so, from age 12 and up, I was on my own (usually taking care of my sibs) so it would feel silly for anyone to have the right to 'give me away' lol. Fh thinks I should let my mom do it. It would mean a lot to her. I'm still on the fence.

Honestly? I want both of my parents to walk me down the aisle. Not so much to give me away, but just to be with me. I wanted both of his parents standing with him too. Just kind of a "two families joining" kind of thing because I don't want to do the unity candle/sand thing so this would do it too I guess.

My dad passed many years ago, so I asked my uncle (my mom's brother) because he has always been there for me, and my dad's best friend because that's who I knew my dad would pick.

My dad passed away when I turned 19, I was torn between my son or my mom...I know she'd be thrilled beyond belief and has only dropped a million hints, soooooo I'm going to tell her that morning she is lol . I might also have my son walk with us.

My dad hasn't been apart of my life for many years and, even if her were to come which I know he won't because he "lives too far," I wouldn't have him walk me down the isle. If my grandpa was still alive he would be the one to walk me because he was my number one father figure. But, I have asked my uncle to do it because he is my father figure now...

My dad hasn't been apart of my life for many years and, even if her were to come which I know he won't because he "lives too far," I wouldn't have him walk me down the isle. If my grandpa was still alive he would be the one to walk me because he was my number one father figure. But, I have asked my uncle to do it because he is my father figure now...

My dad passed away 3 years ago. I wanted to ask my God Father but we aren't close anymore. So my mom is walking me down the isle. We are also doing a mother daughter dance!

A friend of mine walked by herself halfway down the aisle, met her groom there and then they walked together the other half as a statement of them walking together through life from now on. Maybe that way you won't have to have him walk you but you won't hurt their feelings, just convince them that you want to make a statement about your commitment to your FH

My dad won't get to walk me because he has pulmonary disease, is always either at the hospital or home so my brother is giving me away, and my dad is witnessing the ceremony through Skype. Thank you technology

My grandfather will because he has been in my life like no other man. I have invited my dad but we don't have a relationship

My father passed away 6 years ago so my younger brother will be walking me down the aisle!

I have asked my cousin to walk me down the aisle, we have always been very close to be and he is more like a brother to me then a cousin. My dad passed away 2 yrs ago

My brother will be walking me down but only because we lost our father last year.

I'm not sure if my brother will do it or my oldest son

I always DREAMED of having my dad walk me down the aisle, but after FH proposed in Oct he told me he wanted nothing to do with wedding. My little brother was killed in a car accident in 2010 and my dad became a different man after that and at times hurtful thanks to alcohol. So my step dad is walking me, we're not super close but when he talks of the wedding he talks about it with pride and because of that, close or not, I can't wait to have him do it!

It is a decision that is completely up to you. Me personally if I had somebody who was a bigger part of my life, my grandpa or my uncle, anybody who I would consider a bigger more influential person, I would have them walk me. Don't rule out women either, I have seen brides who's mom walk them down the aisle. Who would you consider to be the one to "raise" you? They should be the person that's "gives you away"