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Dedicated August 2015

Who is walking you down the aisle, if not your dad? Why?

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IJustWantCake, on March 4, 2015 at 2:47 PM

I'm having trouble decided whether to have my father walk me. Growing up, we had a volatile relationship because he was an alcoholic and abusive. After he got sober and I went to therapy, we've been in a good place for a few years. Part of me will always have a resentment for how he treated me, so that's my hesitation on having him walk me down. I know he and my mom will be hurt and it will cause a WWIII. I don't know if it's worth the battle, but at the same time I cringe thinking of having him walk me. I am NOT having a father/daughter dance.

Do I suck it up and let him walk me?

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Precious · on March 4, 2015 at 11:51 PM
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My dad passed away so that answers that question. I was planning on having my mom walk me down the aisle, but her walking from multiple sclerosis has gotten worse. Even if she can still walk on my wedding day I think it is safer to have someone else walk her down. I wouldn't want my mom to trip on my dress. So I am just walking down by myself.
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sandpiper · on March 4, 2015 at 11:56 PM
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I was planning to not have anyone walk me down because I hate the concept of being "given away" by a man to another man, but I read somewhere of a nice modification where both moms escort the bride, and both dads escort the groom. FH likes this idea so we might do that. Less "giving away" and more "family unity"?
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Susan · on March 5, 2015 at 12:11 AM
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My brothers. My father passed away on 1/8 a few days after the hospital wedding. I really don't want to do it alone knowing he should have been there. Mom has been gone for almost 29 years. I could not choose between the 2 of them so they are both doing it.
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mrsaj2b · on March 5, 2015 at 12:13 AM
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My father passed away about two years ago. I am taking my FH suggestion to have my brother walk me down half the way and my son walk me the other half up to the altar.
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