Who exactly am I supposed to put at the head table (significant others)?...

You dont HAVE to do anything, and it all depends on numbers, but usually head tables are just bride and groom and the wedding party I believe. If there aren't many BM's and GM's then you could have the significant others too, but I'd probably only do that if they all fit...

How do I pick and choose if they don't all fit?...

Well, if you're doing a true head table, it "should" be just the wedding party. We were going to not have a head table, but have the wedding party at round tables along with their significant others at the "front" of the venue, but it kind of proved to be a nightmare, so we're doing a head table-wedding party only.

If you can't have the wedding party plus everyone's dates, I wouldn't include the dates.

How many is it if you put no significant others? Id just leave significant others off(and put them at their own table), if its 8+...

The last wedding I was in, the head table had the wedding party only, no spouses. My fh had to sit at another table with people he didn't know. The bride just sat him with people she knew he would gey along with. We've opted put on doing the head table with everyone. We have 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen so fitting everyone and their spouses was too much. We're doing a small table for just us and will seat the wedding party with their spouses in close proximity.

@Christina Q, if we have no significant others sitting with us, it is a total of 8. There will probably be a total of 5 significant others.

Almost every wedding I have been to (and that is a LOT of weddings) does a sweetheart table with round tables nearby, seating their bridal party with guests.

I thought about doing a sweetheart table and then separate table for the bridal party, but I want to sit with my bridesmaids and groomsmen :/

@Celia that's interesting. I actually haven't seen a sweetheart table at any weddings I have been to yet, but I know you've been to way more than I have. Maybe I'll reconsider..

There is no "right" answer. It depends on how big the head table is, how big the wedding party is, and how you want to configure things. At my son's wedding, the B&G sat with their parents, and the wedding party and their SOs were at another table. At some weddings, the wedding party and their SOs are at the head table. At some weddings, the couple are at a sweetheart table with just the two of them. My own inclination is not to separate the members of the wedding party from their SOs (particularly if the SOs won't know a lot of other people), but that is a matter of personal preference.

We had a head table with DH and I, my MOH and BM and DH's BM and GM, so only 6 in total. MOH's husband sat at a nearby table with her parents and some other friends. BM's fiance couldn't make it to the wedding. Best Man was single. GM's wife was seated at a table with lots of close friends.

It's fine to just have the wedding party at the head table and their significant others at other tables. For most weddings, they only have to stay up there for maybe 2 hours. Once you get to the partying/dancing stage, then they can go off and join other people; at least that was what it was like at our wedding.

As far as I'm aware there is no hard rule in regards to who you HAVE to sit at the head table.

The most recent wedding I went to had an odd head table. It was the bride, groom, MOH, bridesmaid, best man, best man's date, and two groomsmen.

I thought that was odd because the best man got to sit with his casual date while the MOH was made to sit at a different table than her husband and baby. However, the husband and child were sitting with the MOH's parents so maybe this was ok'd with the MOH ahead of time.

One of the groomsmen was married and his wife was a different table too.

I plan to have me, FH, MOH, her bf, bridesmaid, best man, his gf, and one of the two groomsmen. The other groomsman will be at separate table with his wife and child.

We are doing a long table with the wedding party on one side & their dates on other... Leaving 2 empty seats in front of us so that A. Guests can see us 2. So they can stop by and chat during dinner.

We are doing a sweetheart table most likely and then have the bridal party sit at tables nearest to us. I am doing this mainly because we have many people in the wedding party with significant others who aren't.

Look at it this way; you'll be spending all day with your bridal party, and it's a LONG day!!! They should get some time to spend with their dates and S/O's. And you might want a little time to yourself too!

Traditionally, the head table has only the bride, groom and members of the bridal party. Their spouses/partners sit somewhere else. (This is probably why the trend has been away from head tables -- because you're intentionally breaking up all of these couples.) We did a sweetheart table instead, then let all of our attendants sit with their spouses, where they'd be happier.

We are only having the wedding party at the head table only 2 people in the wp have significant others that are not in the wedding. The others are couples. We gave them the option to sit at head table to sit with their significant other. They both chose to sit at head table. I wouldn't sit people that aren't in the wedding at the head table but that's me.

I'm so glad that I came across this form because I was wondering the same thing as well, but after seeing everyone's comments/advice I know what we are doing! We are going to have a head table for me, FH, MOH/BM, BM/GM. After the 2 hours or how ever long we'll be there I want them to enjoy their night with their SO because they will be with us all day/evening! And me and FH will want sometime to ourselves so, yeah it's all personal preference on what you want to do!

Christine, I don't blame you! But like I said, it's all about personal preference!

I was wondering the same thing for my ordeal.... and then I realized that a lot of the groomsmen are family and have kids so, they will probably sit at the family table or with their kids and friends....so, I'm seriously leaning towards a sweetheart table for just the two of us with maybe an extra chair on both sides for visitors? Pshh, maybe not on the visitor chairs. lol.