Who else is afraid that your wedding will not be fun?

This website is a good one to look up reviews of DJs. I know it helped me a lot when planning. Some DJs will also let you go watch their events to see how they keep the crowd going.

I agree that having a good DJ is key to a fun party. The other is open bar.

I was worried about this as well. At his brothers wedding people just sat at their tables and talked to themselves no dancing no real fun or anything. Luckily my family started dancing his parents got up to danced and we pretty much made everyone get up and dance and relax lol. I got a call from my mum this week talking about how much fun everyone had at the wedding I was so relieved. I think if you start having fun and get a few of your friends and family up to dance people will join in

Haha yada I love the open bar. We had an open bar but we didnt have a dj just a bunch of fav songs on our ipod that played throughout and people loved it. His groomsmen even did the worm!

I'm worried about this because we're not having a DJ. We are having an outdoor ceremony/reception and aren't allowed to have a DJ. We're hiring musicians instead. We have changed the feel of the wedding to be very intimate and personal instead but I'm afraid some of the people will be expecting it to be a wild party and will be bored. We're not having a bar or a DJ. How can people enjoy themselves? Ugh!

Hmm...the bar I would rethink because normally people need a way to let go of their inhibitions. Maybe you could see about having a cash bar? And as far as musicians...is it a band? Cus I went to a wedding that had a band and they played great music and it was really fun!

I think a band would be fun Id certainly get up and dance. I said to my bridesmaids and parents can you please come up and dance on the day so everyone gets the idea and they all said sure and that helped a lot. Ask just a few people if they can come and dance to get everything started. Is their anyway you could do the cash bar or maybe even just have some beer and wine available just so people could have a glass or two or are you wanting a dry wedding

No, just a string duet. They're amazing musicians and can play just about anything but there isn't supposed to be any dancing. It will be a short lunch reception. There will be refreshments while we're getting our pics taken, (my FH's college friends are getting flasks full of their fav alcohol as favors) then FH and I will enter doing a dance routine, we'll have a father/daughter mother/son dance. Then I am going to say something to everyone. Then lunch, cake cutting and toasts (with champagne). It is a small reception with about 75 people (25 over our limit) and we have it arranged that we are going to go around to each table (7 of them) and talk to everyone and have our pictures taken with them. Then FH and I are going up to the resorts lounge to have drinks and hang out with our bridal party, family and out of town guests. Very simple but I am worried that since it's not going to be the normal "party" people will be let down.

Don't worry about it, Ditmara. If you and your husband are having fun, everyone else will join in.

Dan

It's not that we want a dry wedding, it's just that the resort is so expensive. It's $500 just for the bartender and service. Not including alcohol. I am going for our cake testing tomorrow and plan to ask if we could have beer/wine on a menu on the tables. We had to decide whether we wanted to invite extra people (because FMIL invited 12 people which really is a lot when you're total guest count is 50) or have extra things like alcohol. The people are more important but now I'm worried we've invited more people to a dull wedding. 8-(

Nope, Haven't worried about it, I am worried however, about uninvited guests trying to come in, but I am enlisting the help of burly cousins to take care of that..

Ditmara,

Work with your DJ! It took you some time to find the right one. Now put him to work and make him earn his fee.

It's not unusual for me to meet with a bride 2-3, even up to 5 times if that's what she wants. I don't pre-plan the whole evening's song list, but there are a few things I am willing to pre-program: Cocktail Hour Music, Dinner Music.

After that, you're at the mercy of the MC/DJ and her/his ability to get the crowd going, and the techniques s/he uses to get your guests involved.

Most experienced DJ's have several techniques to get your guests up to dance.

I think people will have fun anyway even just making some fun speeches can liven things up even more. Try not to stress Z

Not worried at all. I am going to have a kick a$$ time so I am sure everyone else will follow suit.

Im worried about drunk-o's. you know...that one crazy uncle who is hammered before dinner's even started. or is that just my family?..oh crap.

I'm kind of worried about that myself. The DJ I signed a contract with has high ratings but somehow I'm still just worried because I'm going to have people from different areas of the world at my wedding (people that I work with) and I don't know if they will like the music I have selected so far. Everyone has different tastes when it comes to music such as myself, I'm not a big fan of country music but my fiance is. And at my work there are people from the Phillipines, from Nigeria, from India so I'm worried about all that and hope everyone enjoys themselves.

I think even those with an 'I don't give a hoot attitude' worries about guest having a good time. I mean who wants to hear it through the grapevine that folks were saying how 'borrrrrring' your wedding was! lol We are having close friends only at this point. With them we always have a great time laughing and carrying on and we are not big on drinking, neither are our closest friends. We have decided to do something less formal, a weekend wedding so because of that I hope guest have fun and are not expecting the same ole' same ole'.

I am worried too... I always worry about stuff like that. I think the important stuff is the music and depending on if your friends like booze or not the liquor!

I'm worried too....we aren't expecting dancing, rather we have rented out the hotel's games room which has 4 bowling lanes and an arcade! We're unlocking all the games to play without money. I'm worried that it will end up being super tacky or people won't "get it". Good luck!

MDLS,

One way to ensure that guests with different musical tastes enjoy the music, especially from different countries, is to encourage them to make requests for songs that they like to dance to. Depending on the size of your wedding, you might reach out to these folks to give you a few song requests in advance. Maybe they would share some special songs; e.g., their first dance song at their weddings. I think it could be great fun to mix a few of the hot tunes from the Indian dance clubs with those in the Phillipines and Nigeria along with some Texas country :=).

Dan

@Dan P. Thank you so much, I haven't mentioned this to our DJ yet but I guess I should bring it up since I just thought about this a few days ago. I just want to make sure everyone has a good time and they may not like the same music we do. Thanks again for the great information!!