Who do you regret inviting or not inviting to your wedding/reception?

FH's siblings!

I would really like to invite my ex best friend but she hate FH hence to her becoming an ex best friend. I really mis her though. She stubborn.

I regret inviting the assholes who no-showed.

Invite your closest friends and family. I invited aunts, uncles, first cousins. Nothing beyond that.

Who do I regret inviting:

1) My sister who I had fired as MOH who then had catty stupid shit to say at the reception.

2) My niece who stole the checks out of my checkbook

3) My other niece who I had been assured her and her entire family was now clean and sober. When I went to drop off the invitation her husband lit up a joint while I was there and then passed it to their two under age kids. (I so wanted to snatch my invitation back and run). Should note they did not show.

4) My other niece who assured me she was comming and then pulled a no-show.

5) A whole bunch of my former clients that I wish I had not wasted the postage or invitation on.

6) In general anyone who pulled a "Sure we are comming and then didnt".

Who do I wish I had invited:

1) More of my reenactment group. (I hurt people's feelings when I didnt mean too)

2) George Takei

(Notice Bridesmaidzilla did not make the list; she was not that bad just annoying)

Damn them's some shitty nieces.

A girl I find annoying and not really close with but had to because she is in our group of girls. Grrrrrrrr

From you guys' experience, were the people that no-showed mainly friends or family?

We had one no-show, a friend of DH's, and he was extremely apologetic and gave us a nice gift :-)

My only regret is that I just should have let DH invite everyone he wanted to. We had a great time with our guests and I was a total bridezilla over the guestlist more than once. Not proud of myself.

I regret inviting people we're not close to because we'd been invited to their weddings. I mean, it was all within budget, so that wasn't the issue, I just would have been fine without them there.

Nothing for the not inviting part -- we invited everyone we truly wanted there at that time.

I regret inviting The Princess of Thailand's kids. They had no intention of showing. It's entirely on them and makes them look stupid.

ETA...I hope I didn't confuse you with this, it's a bit of a story and an inside joke around here.

Random slightly off topic question: When is/was the Princess of Thailands wedding? Did I miss the applicable posts about it.?

Mrs. Drakthal - It is a week from Saturday. Don't worry, you will not miss this post.

It is one of the reasons I have stuck around!

The freaking no shows. who does that? it was FH's friends. i'm pissed about it too.

also the people who scheduled a work thing like 3 days before hand and ended up having to leave before dinner. that was even worse than a no show and i seriously consider that a friendship ending move. i totally get it if you have work stuff and can't make it, but don't RSVP yes, THEN schedule something for work and then leave my wedding before that nice expensive dinner that i've already paid for.

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I didn't invite anyone from my dad's side of the family, and I don't regret it at all. I don't really know them. I wish that I didn't have to invite my dad's wife. Now all the family formals have her in them, and she looks crazy, high (probably was) and pissed in them. I hate looking at them because of her. I thought it was just me, but DH brought his to a lady at work to look at, and she saw the family photos and asked who that lady was because she looked like she didn't like us. So, I know it wasn't just me that thought she looked like she shouldn't there.

The only person I regret inviting was a no-show who I found out later had never planned on coming because his ex-wife was coming with her new husband--but he RSVPed yes and I paid for his fucking dinner.

Regret not inviting? Oh, man. If money was no object, I can think, off the top of my head, of 8 cousins, the adult daughters of a friend (I've known them since they were toddlers, but they're both married and one has a kid, so it was FIVE more invites, not two), and a couple who I don't know well, but took me to the hospital when I had an emergency. My spouse also has a list about the same size.

Big Italian here too! I regret inviting my cousin when I really wanted to invite his ex wife oh long story

I also regret inviting the people who put a plus 1 when 1 wasn't invited

I have to work on my guest list a LOT! Me and FI are both Italian with BIG families... fortunately his mom has narrowed his family down to MUST HAVES but I am having trouble doing the same with mine Our guest list is at 306 and we can only have between 200-250 at the venue.

Do you think people should invite people just because they are family? Or just because they were friends at one point? I would rather just invite those who are close to us and I could hold a conversation with...

I almost didn't invite some family friends, but when I knew a large group of people wouldn't be coming, I ended up inviting them and I'm really glad I did.

I have no regrets about who I invited, and there were zero no-shows. We had two last minute drop outs due to injury and illness, but they gave as notification as soon as they could.