Who do you have to tip at the wedding???

I have heard waiters are $20 each... DJ photo and florist everyone says it is up to you. different people say different things. A lot of people say a good review means more than money or a gift... supposedly you don't tip if the vendor is the owner.

Wow lots of great info-- thanks!

I am not tipping the vendors because they charge enough for their services and as far as waiters go I feel they deserve a tip if they do well.

You don't HAVE to tip anyone, really.... not because they're "pocketing the whole fee"...in many cases, they are not (dj and music agencies, for instance) but because it's just not customary to do so.

Waiters; 20-30. each. Bartenders too, and do NOT allow a tip cup on the bar.

Tres tacky.

Possibly; floral and cake delivery people, or anyone else that really went over the top for you. But I agree; I would love a great review.

Our venue adds gratuity to the bill automatically which i fine with me. I used to be a server so I would probably over tip if it were up to me. I do believe people love a positive review and tipping is not required. It may be a nice gesture of they do an amazing job.

My DJ and cake are coming from close friends so I'm not worried about tipping. DJ informed me that all the money from my wedding is going to strippers in Vegas when he goes 2 weeks after my wedding. LOL.

These helped me a lot

http://www.wedaholic.com/archives/to_tip_or_not_to_tip_gratuities_for_your_wedding_suppliers.php

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget/articles/wedding-vendor-tipping-cheat-sheet.aspx?MsdVisit=1

http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/226661/tipping-wedding-vendors

I used all of them to figure out the best possible tips but I liked the first the best.

Ive never heard of such things.. No wonder you all have such high budgets.. Im glad Im making my own cake and a pot luck reception.... My photo girl is the owner of her studio so what I pay her is what she gets no tipping... Thanks for the info though..

Tina I was surprised too and confused! But thank you all for your input. cydney your link was great!

A gratuity tends to be built in to a caterer's bill so clarify that before you tip. Also the wait staff with my catering company are getting 18 dollars and hour with a guaranteed 5 hours for set up and take down. So unless someone just goes WAYYYY out of their way I won't be tipping them.

I dislike the whole concept of places charging automatically for gratuity. the whole point of a gratuity or tip is that it is beyond what is required, it's gratuitous. if they require then they should just include it in the overall price and be done with it.

Guess there's no helping it though.

Getting married at an venue that handles a lot of things normally hired seperately, ie cake, catering, parking. We will have a chef attended table (meat cutting), and servers passing hors d'orevres, but then a buffet so not really any waiters/waitresses. Plus, the venue also provides a day of coordinator/planner. Who do I tip and how much? The food bill in a few thousand dollars as is the bar bill (in which they provide the bartenders). Help!

This just seems absolutely nuts to me. The vendors charge so much money, and even the wait staff is paid 15-20 dollars an hour. Why am I tipping?! I tip at restaurants because I know those people are paid less than min. wage and rely on tips for income. But if I'm already paying you 15-20 dollars an hours- and unlike a restaurant, it is my money paying them- why am I also supposed to tip?