Just Said Yes May 2021

Who do i need to get boutonnières for besides the groomsmen?

Morgan , on November 25, 2019 at 2:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
Saved Save
Hi ladies!
I am getting married in about a year, we are looking to order things little by little. One thing we’ve been excited for is saving some coin on fresh flowers and using artificial boutonnières made from shotgun shells. I found really cute ones on Etsy that my fiancé and I both love! Here’s the question, who should I purchase them for besides the groomsmen, my FH, and my dad? Should his dad and our ushers have them as well? The last few weddings I’ve been to, some of them didn’t even use boutonnières.


  • Vannesa
    Expert October 2021
    Vannesa ·
    • Flag

    His dad and the ring bearer

    • Reply
  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
    • Flag

    Technically no one really needs a bout, but if your dad is getting one I would get one for his dad too Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • Megan
    Dedicated October 2020
    Megan ·
    • Flag
    We are giving my FH, groomsman, both dads and our officiant boutonnières. None for the grandparents or the ring beaters and we are not having any ushers. If you get one for your dad, his dad should get one as well.
    • Reply
  • L
    Devoted August 2019
    Leaves232 ·
    • Flag
    We gave a boutonnieres to all the men in the processional. So other than the groomsmen, this covered my brother, my uncle, and my husband's father.
    • Reply
  • Benya
    Dedicated June 2020
    Benya ·
    • Flag
    So I'm on the extreme end, I think. My mom's a floral designer, so flowers are everywhere lol. The groomsmen and groom are getting theirs. Also giving them to the dads, his grandpa (all but one of my grandparents passed), ushers, and the officiant. Obviously their counterparts (mom's, grandma's, etc) all getting flowers as well.

    Anyway, you can do as much or as little as you want
    • Reply
  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
    • Flag

    I'm also on the extreme end. his 4 grandparents, both of our parents (5 total including one step) and contemplating my adoptive brother (not legal but close enough). the key is to be consistent. If you give to the parents, give to all the parents, likewise for grandparents, ushers and other important groups.

    • Reply
  • Kari
    Expert May 2020
    Kari ·
    • Flag
    View Quoted Comment

    Second this. If your dad has one, so should his.

    • Reply
  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated December 2019
    Elizabeth ·
    • Flag

    You may also want one for your officiant

    • Reply
  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
    Marlena ·
    • Flag
    I bought them for FH, groomsmen, my dad, grandpa, usher, ring bearer and officiant. his dad passed away 2 years ago other wise I would have got his dad as well.
    • Reply
  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2020
    Sarah ·
    • Flag

    I got them for both dads, ring bearers and readers.

    • Reply
  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
    • Flag

    All dads should have them and grandfathers if there are any!

    • Reply
  • Maria
    Super October 2019
    Maria ·
    • Flag

    I made my own flowers and included all these people but it is all your personal preference. I would just stay consistent - don't include one dad and not the other, for example.




    Ushers (their outfits matched the groomsmen)



    Ring Bearer (Didn't have one but would have included him)

    Readers (not necessary)

    Musicians (not necessary)

    Wrist Corsages:


    Pinned Corsages:


    Singers (not necessary)




    Jr. Bridesmaids

    Flower Baskets:

    Flower Girls

    • Reply

Comment on this discussion

WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

WeddingWire article topics