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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Who did you check in with before setting your wedding date?

Lynnie, on April 18, 2018 at 7:08 PM Posted in Planning 0 80

There are so many factors to consider when picking your wedding date! From the season and weather, the desired length of your engagement, venue availability, holidays, your personal schedules - and also the schedules of some of your "VIPs"!

Were there any family members or close friends you checked with first before nailing down your final wedding date?


Who did you check in with before setting your wedding date? 1

Photo by Lucas Rossi Photography in Moorpark, CA


Still need help deciding? Check out our tool to help you pick a wedding date , and these helpful articles: 9 Things to Consider to Set Your Wedding Date , Should I set my date or choose my venue first? , and The Wedding Dates to Avoid in 2018 and 2019 .

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Latest activity by Erin, on October 16, 2018 at 4:06 AM
  • Xandria
    VIP December 2018
    Xandria ·
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    Eek! We seem to be the minority, but FW and I didn't check with anyone. We knew exactly what day we wanted, and we planned everything from that jumping off point.

    Both our families are fairly flexible though, FWs family doesn't celebrate Christmas on Christmas, but usually a week or so later when everyone can be in town together. And my family is really small, so our Christmas celebrations tend to reflect that. (We're getting married Christmas Eve).

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  • RZ_ToBe
    Master July 2018
    RZ_ToBe ·
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    I didn't even think to ask anyone! We just set it and announced it. Nobody brought up an issue over it.
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  • lilchameleon
    Expert April 2019
    lilchameleon ·
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    Yep, we checked with immediate family first, because most of them have to fly in for it, so we wanted to make sure it worked for them.
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  • A
    Super February 2019
    Amy ·
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    I think I fall *almost* in this category- we decided 13 months out that we were going to do it in Feb 2019 and mentioned it to people so everyone knew we were aiming for that month. We didn't really "check in" with the date though- my brother said his wife always takes a big international vacation with her mom in Feb but.... I wasn't re-working our date for an not-yet-planned vacation...

    FH's best friend is scheduled for a deployment that was too long to work around (we can't afford a peak season wedding and it doesn't work for someone in the tourist business!) so though we hated to- we still went ahead with our plans.

    So yeah, we just went ahead and booked.

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  • J
    Savvy August 2018
    Jessica ·
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    We didn't ask anyone, but our date was not flexible. We knew we wanted this date no matter what, even if we eloped and had a separate reception. Thankfully we don't have to do that.
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  • A
    Dedicated August 2018
    Amanda ·
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    FH and I didn’t check with anyone either. A little over a week after we got engaged we picked a date that was perfect for us and announced it to our families the next day.
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  • magnolia5
    VIP June 2019
    magnolia5 ·
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    We checked with both sets of parents and my grandparents!
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  • Kim
    Devoted September 2018
    Kim ·
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    I checked with my sister. My birthday is Friday, hers is Sunday and we're getting married on Saturday. So I just wanted to make sure she was ok with spending her birthday weekend at the wedding!

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  • P
    Expert June 2018
    Pina ·
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    We only checked with both sets of parents and siblings!
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    We only had two dates in 2017 we could actually get married. We checked with:

    -Both sets of parents
    -Both of my grandparents
    -Both of our siblings and their SOs
    -Our three best friends

    Luckily they all chose August 18th (the other option was in February and I would have been in Meltdown Mode) otherwise we weren't getting married until 2021.
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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
    Sara P. ·
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    Only my sister bc the date we were considering with our venue is only a couple of days away from my nephew's first birthday. Otherwise I just kept other significant dates in our families in mind. I didn't have to ask bc I already know those dates.
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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
    P.F. ·
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    No one. Picked a random day and booked it.
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  • Shauncey
    Savvy November 2018
    Shauncey ·
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    We checked in with immediate family and wedding party. We had some push to check in with extended family but that was way too many people to consider trying to please...

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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2018
    Jessica ·
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    My FH told his mom that he checked the calendar to make sure it didn't fall on a Jewish holiday that takes place the week before (she wouldn't be available theb), but the two of us know that it was pure coincidence 😂 we booked it, then we checked who would be able to come
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2018
    Stephanie ·
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    We asked my parents, his parents, and FSIL as well as some other important people.
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  • B
    Expert September 2018
    Brittany ·
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    We picked the open date in September and told everyone Smiley smile we picked the date 16 months in advance so we figured we were safe Smiley winking
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  • Shinee
    Expert September 2018
    Shinee ·
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    Hm, it never occurred to me to check with family members before we decided on a date. It was a decision made between just FH and I. I have some out of town family that groaned at our Sunday wedding but it didn’t really bother us that much because it was what we wanted and decided on. If they come, then great, but if not, then they’ll be missed.
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  • Grace
    Super May 2019
    Grace ·
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    We also didn't check with anyway...told our parents what day we wanted...🙃
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  • falkenmarried
    Expert August 2018
    falkenmarried ·
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    We checked with our parents and my cousin. We are getting married on cousin's b-day and checked to see that she was ok with it.

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  • Shai
    VIP August 2018
    Shai ·
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    At first we didn’t. We had our date and booked our venue before telling everyone but then some of my vips were saying they would be out of town the week or weekend of my wedding so we moved it up to the week before and the venue was very accommodating.
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