Who Comes Dress Shopping?

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That's so sweet...I love that!

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That sounds like a great group! I'm thinking I might as my grandma as well. I feel like she would enjoy it. Thanks for sharing!

I’ll tell you my experience and thoughts while I was in your position. My husband thought that because I love say yes to the dress I wanted to have the full experience of a million people with me but I actually didn’t. I struggle about inviting my girls to dress shopping or keeping it very small and simple since all mind think differently and you’re thrown in different directions with so many opinions and I was afraid of this. So in the spirit of pleasing everyone I tried to coordinate the dates by including them (all 4) and it just didn’t workout. I didn’t want to have some of them and not others so I said none of them. It felt like it was a confirmation that I was doing the right thing. I also tried involving mother in law, grandma and some aunts but in the end I did just mom and closet aunt and it was just what I wanted. Private, intimate and perfect. Some people do like having a big group but I’m glad I didn’t. I did a first look with my girls on my wedding date and it was beautiful.

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I love "Say Yes to the Dress" too, so obviously I've seen how stressful too many opinions can be. And that would be me as well, trying to make everyone happy, and probably making myself miserable in the process. I think I'll just keep it small like you said. Thanks you so much for sharing your experience!

My favorite dress shopping day was when I went alone. I was able to find about 6 dresses that I really really liked, THEN I invited my family to come with me and look only at those dresses. It worked perfectly.

The smaller the better.

The idea of a huge group of ladies is fun but in reality it can become hectic and difficult fast. You get too many opinions and start trying to please too many people. A large group is easy to become distracted also. I would bring your mom, grandma, sister and dad (if he wants to come) and maybe 1-2 friends. Keep it a smaller circle and you'll have a clearer head and happier experience.

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That sounds like a good idea. Thanks!

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That's what I'm starting to lean toward. I can just imagine myself trying to make people happy and getting too stressed. Thanks for your advice!

I only have one bridesmaid who is my best friend go with me. Everyone else who was trying to force their way into the bridal party had their dreams snuffed when I announced I was only having one bridesmaid. You mentioned you wouldn’t want to give them the idea of being a bridesmaid since you weren’t sure so I wouldn’t invite them. If someone invited me to go dress shopping I wouldn’t consider myself as part of the party, but the thought of “is she going to ask me?” Would cross my mind.

I asked my Mom, Future Mother in Law and my Maid of Honor to come dress shopping with me and it was great! I would say at this point since relationships and friendships do change, I would suggest asking your Grandmother, Sister and possibly Father to come along.

I am going with just my mom for the first visit

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That's what I don't want is for people to think "maybe she'll ask me" and then I don't. Best to just not risk any hurt feelings. Thanks for your advice!

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That's what I was thinking. I can't see myself ever not being friends with these people, but better safe than sorry. Thanks!

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That will be so special I'm sure. I hope you have the best time!

I ONLY took my mom. I didn’t want to get mixed up in too many other peoples’ opinions overwhelming my own. I went to one store on my own as I couldn’t get an appointment while my mom was available, and I really enjoyed that experience as well. I felt a little bad as I know one of my best friends would probably have loved to be there, but I needed to do what was best for *me* and I knew I’d be most comfortable and at ease with just my mom.

I have four girls in my wedding. I only invited my MOH and little Cousin because my little cousin is my aunts daughter and my aunt will also be there. My mom, FMIL and grandmom will also be with me.

My mom and I went first, we didn’t actually plan on finding my dress the day that we did but hey that’s okay!
I am actually going back to the boutique tomorrow with the girls who will be bridesmaids, my mom, and FH’s mom. That is where I will be officially asking the girls to be bridesmaids, now that it’s happening tomorrow I’m getting nervous lol.

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That's good advice, to do what's best for me. Thank you!

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That sounds like a great group!

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That's so sweet! Have fun tomorrow!