Ashley
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Who Comes Dress Shopping?

Ashley, on November 5, 2019 at 9:39 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 53
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I'm kind of struggling with deciding who I would like to ask to come dress shopping with me. My wedding is in August, so I really want to go either this month or next, and I do already have an idea of what I'm looking for. This is where I'm hung up:

My fiance and I haven't asked anyone to be in the bridal party yet. He has his narrowed down, and I thought I had mine as well. There is one girl I thought I might ask, but now I've also started throwing around the idea of maybe asking my cousin. Anyway, do I have to ask these girls to be in the bridal party before I would ask them to come dress shopping with me? Since obviously I haven't made up my mind about the bridal party, I don't want to just make a decision solely so I'm able to ask them to come dress shopping. I also don't want to ask someone to come and potentially give them the impression that they will be asked to be in the party and then me not ask them. I don't want to be rude, and I definitely don't want any hurt feelings.

If you were to ask me 2 weeks ago who I wanted to take with me it would have been these girls. Now I'm thinking maybe I want to make it a family thing and take my sister, my dad, and my grandma. Or maybe just my sister. Or maybe I'll just go by myself.

I guess to sum all this up, who did you all take with you?

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kaitlyn ·
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    There really isn’t a rule, but I would suggest having no more than about 4 people present. My parents, future MIL, and maid of honor came with me. It felt like the perfect amount and I feel like any more and it would have been too many opinions (also some bridal salons actually have a cap for how many people can be present due to space.)
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  • Kathryn
    Devoted April 2020
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    Fewer people the better until you narrow it down for sure. I went by myself the first time, and it was nice to have the time just to myself. We were also able to scratch things I didn't like without feelings getting hurt. I brought my mom with me once it was narrowed down to one or two - she didn't mind a quicker appointment, and it kept everyone from going crazy.
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  • Amber
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    I never wanted a large group to go with me, but I ended up taking my mom, my two sisters, and FSIL (all three were my bridal party). I also invited FMIL but she bailed. If you haven't chosen your bridal party yet, I would only invite those that you KNOW will be in the bridal party. Just so you don't give anyone the wrong idea.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    That's what I kept thinking is that all those opinions might stress me out and make the experience not enjoyable. Thank you for mentioning that some places might limit how many people I can take. I'll be sure to remember that when I make my appointment.

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  • K
    Expert November 2019
    Kiley ·
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    To avoid people getting the wrong idea, I would limit who goes by asking people you are sure about having in your wedding party. If you are unsure on all of them, then keep your party for dress shopping limited to your mom, FMIL, sister, grandma, etc.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I did consider just going by myself. I already know what I want, and if no one else is there they can't try to sway me. Thanks for your input...I appreciate it!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    I don't want a large group either. I don't want all those opinions. Thank you for the advice!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I was thinking about just keeping it family. Definitely don't want any hurt feelings. Thanks for your input!

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  • A
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    Angelena ·
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    I kept it to just my sister and mom. I surprised my girls and MIL the day of the wedding with a big reveal of me in my dress! I would probably ask your girls first to be bridesmaids before you take them. You could certainly go with your sister, dad, and grandpa first. There's no guarantee you'll find the dress the first time you go! If you do, your girls can go to your fitting then

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    That's such a sweet idea, surprising your girls the day of! And taking them to the fitting is a good idea as well. I'll obviously have asked them by then. Thank you for your advice!

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  • Dayna
    Devoted March 2021
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    I have my bridal party picked (5 ladies), but none of them are local and I do not want them to have the expense of traveling for dress shopping and I do not want a large group dress shopping with me. I will be taking my mom, maid of honor (my best friend) and matron of honor (my sister). All of them are at least within driving distance and I think 3 people is a good number.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    I think 3 sounds like a good number as well. I think any more than that and I would feel overwhelmed. Thanks for your input!

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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2020
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    Shop on your own... It’s a less stress, no outside persuasive opinions and easier to make a decision about a dress that YOU like. Regardless of what you pick, everyone’s going to love it that and think you’re beautiful that day when anyway. So surprise them all.

    The only two people who have seen my dress (in a picture on a model) is my FH and mom. But neither of them know that I actually purchased it.
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    Dedicated August 2020
    Valerie ·
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    I only brought with me my mom and sister (MOH) whose opinions matter to me most. I could have asked my bridesmaids but then it gets to be too many people and every shop warns about bringing too many opinions with you. Also, didn’t want to be choosy about asking one BM and not another because I have a lot of them so I only brought my mom and sissy.
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated July 2020
    Samantha ·
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    I took my bridal party (6 girls but 4 came) my mom and my future MIL. It may seem like a lot, but they were all very supportive

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  • Gen
    Master June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I took just my mom and my best friend. I hadn’t asked her to be my MOH yet when I invited her shopping actually (but I knew I was going to). I ended up asking her to be my MOH at the end of the day when I was dropping her back off at home after the dress shopping :p
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  • Shyler
    Beginner November 2019
    Shyler ·
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    My future in laws are located 6 hours from my family, so they didn't get to make it. I had my grandmother, my mother, and 2 of my bridesmaids.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    I think you may be right. Thanks for your advice!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I definitely don't think I could handle a whole mess of different opinions. I appreciate your input!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    That's awesome! I'm so glad your group was so supportive of you. Thanks for your input!

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