My FH is high risk so we have been on lock down side all of this started. We just got engaged last weekend and we are not really sure where to begin. We are thinking about next fall to get married and don't want to wait much past that because we want to have kids. We have three guests lists depending on restrictions and allowed guest count but at this point I wonder if we should just wrote it all off for now and just go to the courthouse and try to have a party in 5 years or something. This is my second marriage but the first for my FH and I know he was really looking forward to being able to celebrate with all his friends so I feel really bad that he might not get to have that.
At this point should we even talk about booking anything or just hold off and wait to see what happens?
You are in a better place than all of the poor couples who were already in the midst of planning when COVID hit. I agree with Melle that you should plan something really small and inherently pandemic-restriction friendly now, knowing you can absolutely have a big celebration later when you are confident it is safe. Save yourself all of the planning/changing/rescheduling/cancelling headaches right off the bat.
Congratulations on your engagement! You could do the ceremony now and bigger party later! Otherwise, if your fiance is not a fan of that idea, I would suggest that you plan for at least a couple years out. Start looking into budget and estimated guest list (best care scenario), and start looking at venues online, but hold off on booking anything until you have a date in mind and feel confident in booking for that date. Anything you do book, make sure you'd be allowed to postpone with no penalty if COVID or other unforeseen circumstance arises. It never hurts to start looking through Pinterest or getting ideas online. This way, once you're ready to start locking in plans, you'll already have a good start.
You and your fiance should really figure out what type of wedding you want from the start rather than planning big and having to fall back to plan b or c, esp. with him being high risk. If you are set on a wedding next fall, with all the postponements from 2020 to 2021, you should start looking now. I feel as though availability will be very limited for many vendors.
I agree with Lisa- if you guys want to have a Fall 2021 wedding, I would highly suggest you start looking at venues ASAP! Most of the ones around here are completely booked up until 2022.
I recommend you elope for 2020-21. Have a low risk park ceremony. Especially with the groom being high risk Have a "just married" party in a couple years because covid wedding planning is a mess Explain to guest why you are having the just married party. The venues / vendors are double booked right now from people postponing their wedding and a lot may go out of business. My photographer is out of business due to covid but kept the contract. Granted this is normal in the planning process but it's on steroids right now. But you need to book a park (parks are cheap/can be free if it's small enough) asap and may want to be very flexible with your date. You may even consider fall 2020 if the ceremony is simple just to not lose vendors. The economy is causing them to drop like flies in my area.
Congratulations! The safest, least discouraging option is to elope/go to the courthouse. So many people are losing their down payments for these lavish, huge weddings that are either postponed or canceled. Not to mention arguing with their soon to be spouses and the unnecessary tension it causes.
We planned to elope before covid was a thing, and it was awesome.
Don’t get discouraged if popular venues are sold out for fall 2021 (Fridays and Saturdays). A Sunday brunch or early afternoon/evening wedding, or vow renewal or reception only if you get married this year, could be great and usually a lot less expensive.