FutureMrsB (Aussie Bride!)
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Where does the mother of the groom get ready?

FutureMrsB (Aussie Bride!), on March 27, 2012 at 4:50 AM Posted in Planning 0 26
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Hi ladies

I was wondering where the mother of the groom is getting ready or did get ready for your day?

Did she get ready with the bride to get hair and make up done or did she get ready with the groom since he is her son?

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Latest activity by Darlene, on September 28, 2021 at 2:34 AM
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    VIP September 2019
    ?WhitneyNichole? ·
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    This is a great post I never thought of it! I would assume that Amy is right that she normally gets ready with the bridal party since it would be kinda strange to get ready with the groom?

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  • Jennifer
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    Jennifer ·
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    Mine is getting ready at her house, where the groom and the boys are getting ready. I did invite her to get ready with us, but she wants to be there when FH gets ready in his childhood home, plus she wants to make them a big breakfast feast and stuff. Its nice to give her the option

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  • Soon to be Keels
    Expert October 2012
    Soon to be Keels ·
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    This is a great question. I think I am going to have her get ready at her own home. I really want to spend this time with my mom. My FMIL is great but she likes to be the center of attention at times amd she's never on time. Plus she's not paying for anything and my parents are doing everything.

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  • Carrie
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    Carrie ·
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    My MIL got ready with her family and my DH. She doesn't speak much English so much of it was out of her own comfort.

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  • Mrs. Jaclyn Willson
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    Mrs. Jaclyn Willson ·
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    I was actually wondering about this too.

    I can imagine she will want to be with her son. But her daughter will also be in town so there's a chance she will just be spending time with her.

    i planned on asking her but I am kind of figuring she'd feel more comfortable w/ her own family. I mean she's close with me, but not the rest of my family. She likes my mom but is not particualrly close. They don't see each other often.

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  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·
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    I'm going to ask her if she wants to come get her hair done that morning, along with FH's sister when the rest of the bridal party and my mom get theirs done.

    I would guess she'll get ready at the hotel, with her husband, FH and FH's sister.

    * Side note: FH's sister is not a BM because she has social anxiety. Normally I would have asked her*

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  • KitCat
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    KitCat ·
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    I don't care, as long as it's not around me. I need some serenity that day. Smiley winking

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  • I_Found_Mr_Wright
    Expert August 2012
    I_Found_Mr_Wright ·
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    Hahah KitCat---I could not agree more!

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  • Shellie
    VIP July 2012
    Shellie ·
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    Well, a lot of the BM getting ready will be done at their own homes beforehand- esp hair. There just isn't room at the venue for people to be doing their own hair. But I will invite my FMIL to come in the room with us as we do last minute fixings and I get in my dress.

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  • Mrs. Lemmon (Amy H.)
    Master March 2012
    Mrs. Lemmon (Amy H.) ·
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    Mine got her hair done with us girls but got dressed at her house with her son...most Photographers want the MOG with the groom to take pics

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  • Dana
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    Dana ·
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    Oh wow - I hadn't thought of this, great question! ...I guess I had envisioned/assumed she would be ready when she arrived there. Hmmmm....nothing personal, I assumed my mother would be as well!

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  • Erin
    Expert October 2012
    Erin ·
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    KitCat and I are on the same page.

    I am only getting ready with my two BMs. I am not giving anyone else the option to get ready (hair/makeup) done with me. It would open the door to others and I just can't have it. My mother passed away a few years ago otherwise she would be there as well.

    I'd be happy to refer those who want to glam up to some salons in the area. This is my one big "bridezilla" request: I don't want see anyone except my two BM's until it's time for my dad to come get me. Period. It's going to ruffle some feathers, but I will handle it well before the wedding day and have serenity the day of.

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  • Blair
    VIP September 2012
    Blair ·
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    My mom passed away a couple years ago, i am not close to my dad and I have no clue if my aunt (mom's sis) will be able to make it from Italy. FMIL is fairly crazy so i dont want her there, but I may need her there (bridal suite is at the venue) BUT my MOH is so kick ass if FMIL starts losing it (OCD) she'll kick her out. Im hoping she'll stay at home with her boys

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  • MRS. FRANCO
    VIP May 2012
    MRS. FRANCO ·
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    IDK, FH's parents live with us, and FH is getting a hotel room near by, which is where the guys will be getting ready. FH's parents will probably be getting ready here, then taking off to the hotel for pictures.

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  • Eva
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    Eva ·
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    I offered on many occasions to join us for the spa day (day before wedding).. she declined..just as well as the bridal shower.. so at this point I have done my part with including her and I really wont care where she gets dressed as long as she on time!!

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  • B
    Just Said Yes September 2012
    breana ·
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    I agree with Kit-kat and Found Mr. Right.. I have a very over the top/jealous mother in law and was not planning to have her get ready with us. I want the day to be with my mommy and bridesmaids.

    My problem is both her daughters are in the wedding party. My MIL will have her niece, sister and mother all coming into town who have said they want to go somewhere for hair so I am hoping that gives her someone to be with.

    It's not that I don't want to include her but can I be selfish and say its my day and I am going to need this time with people who don't drive me crazy? Advice?

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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2013
    Mary ·
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    As a future MIL I was not invited to join the bride, her 6 bridesmaids and her Mother. My future daughter-in-law and I get along very well (or so I thought). I will advise future brides to invite the MIL to join the festivities of getting ready with the wedding party. I am deeply hurt and sad. However I will not let it ruin our relationship. After all, as my one sister said, I will have all of the attention on me as I have my hair and makeup done.

    Never assume anything.

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    Just Said Yes April 2015
    Hannah ·
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    As the MOB, I have been frankly astonished at how much my daughter's FMIL has tried to edge herself in to all the activities and decisions which are not hers to make - the bridal shower, accommodations for guests, etc. The FMIL has already caused lots of stress over trying to have a say-so about things which are simply NOT her arena and has reacted more than once by saying she is "hurt" if her requests or suggestions were not welcomed ( when they were not ASKED for). Now she is hinting that she wants to get ready with us and my daughter does not want her there. My family is very close and my daughter really wants her mom (me) there, and her 2 sisters (who are BMs) and a couple of old and close friends. I am kind of tired of hearing people say my daughter should be the one to "compromise" instead of the MIL respecting her as the bride and leaving things alone. To Mary in previous comment, no offense, but as the MOB, I do not think your expectation were reasonable. It may be hard to be the MOG, but that is just the way it is.

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    Moni ·
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    Just Said Yes July 2017
    Kristi ·
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    Mary S, I am the mother of the bride and I have to disagree with you on this. Your son will want his mother to be with him while he is getting ready as he may be nervous and need your calming voice. Why would you want to intrude on my moment with my daughter? You will have plenty of time together in the future. This is my last time I will be with her before she leaves the nest and want it to be as special as possible. Sure, come in and have a peek but don't hang out long, you have your son & guests to think about.

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