What's the most ridiculous thing someone has gotten mad at you over during planning?

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Maybe you could get her a pretty piece of jewelry. like from Claire's something little but that you thought of her

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Omg... That is awful.

My brother was more annoyed than anything that my Wedding date is on a Monday. He said he was even willing to pay the difference to have it on a Friday or Saturday. I love Monday because it just shows who is willing and wanting to be at your wedding for you and want to see you happy. I understand that not everyone who will want to be there wont be able to.

My aunt is mad that I'm having a bridesman in my bridal party. She kept asking questions like "....Allyson....why are you doing that?" and "so is he going to wear a dress too??" She's so annoying; she married my uncle and my family can't stand her

Mom got mad because our friend is throwing us a FREE rehearsal dinner at her home and that she will have to drive 40 minutes for it. It sounds far at first, but our bridal party is so huge that the list for the rehearsal (everyone involved in the wedding and SO's) is 44... we priced out restaurants in our area and that would have been an extra $2,000. Oh, btw, we are paying for the wedding ourselves. My mom wanted me to pay thousands of dollars out of my pocket so that she personally didn't have to drive 40 mins once in her life. No one else has an issue with it except for her.

Someone got mad that we invited SO's of the bridal party to the rehearsal dinner. I think it's rude to exclude them because they are traveling from out of town and would have to sit at home alone. At the same time, mom got mad at me for not inviting others who are only guests and not playing any part in the actual ceremony.

Not super silly (def not as silly as the round tables or the quiche... LOL) but super annoying!!!

This is someone getting mad but it cracked me up. My dad has had health issues all his life due to tour in Vietnam. Hes in his late 60s and is fine but wont live forever. She seriously asked me out loud how hard it would get to switch names for the travel on our destination wedding- ya know in case something happens to him before then. I said "mom, are you really wondering about a backup plan to bring a different date to the wedding if Dad dies?" She says "well, I wouldnt want to go alone." I almost wet my pants laughing. You would have to know her. Then when a groomsman dropped for which we had already bought his clothes, she thought we should get them exchanged or altered to fit my brother in case he needs to walk me down the isle. We are getting married next month and she only mentioned in about 4 months ago. My family is weird but so are we and they have been great through all of it. Other than people not being able to come (totally understandable), it's been basically no drama

However after my fiance opened his mouth (with delusions of grandeur) and offered to pay the WHOLE destination wedding trip, and we paid for wedding close- one of the groomsman was still swishy washy on the committment. Eventually it came down to that we needed to give him 800 in lost wages as well for him to afford to come. It the week of Thanksgiving and it's just 3 days of the week. Nope-sorry you cant come. Cant believe the nerve. This is an all-inclusive resort and we were paying for everything. He must be that broke I guess. Maybe stop partying for a week or 2 and you'll save the money. Dissappointing but onward with people who care.

Oh- and my aunt/uncle who intended to come as well as their daughter (my cousin) and her husband decided not to come due to money. Ok fine. But I hear that she is too anxious about leaving her medical marijuana smorgasbord at home (even though it's easy to get it Jamaica). She can't take the chance because she NEEDS her medication. Her son died many years ago so they all got medical cards for PTSD. Hmm-ok. She would likely embarrass me with all of her ranting and political conspiracy theories that she will bring up and talk about forever to anyone. I don't need a stoned woman ranting about politics during our intimate reception on the beach.

I think that some things happen the way they need to. 😏

So a few things have been brought up though not any are funny I think except perhaps one.

FMIL didn't really like that we were planning to come up with a new last name entirely. His parents had a horrible divorce and fiance isn't close to either sides of his family at all, she even changed her name back to her maiden name. Neither of us wanted to take each other's last names and to put them together its either James-LeBron or LeBron-James (go ahead and laugh, everyone else does when they figure it out). Obviously not going with that. Also I don't think the rest of his family is too thrilled with that either but my family is supportive, my mom likes throwing out any names she thinks we might like. Its fun and funny.

While my fiance was deployed I met with my FMIL, future brother in law, and his girlfriend to excitedly share wedding plans...only for all 3 to jump on me verbally and explain why they thought us getting married was a horrible idea and how they thought fiance needed therapy (THEY need the freaking therapy- their family is so messed up but my fiance is an easy scapegoat for their relationship problems between the rest of them). They even went as far as to ask me how long my parents waited to be married. I said they were together a total of 6 years before marriage but would have gotten married right out of high school except they waited 3 more years for my mom to turn 21 so they could both have champagne at their wedding. "See- your parents were smart and waited 6 years to get married. You should be doing something like that too." .... THAT'S NOT AT ALL WHAT I SAID! They kept twisting my words and putting words in my mouth. I came home and spent the entire weekend crying and in a panic because I didn't know whether to cancel the wedding or continue with it. His dad (who has such sexist old opinions on what the roles of a man and women should be in a relationship) also later on told my fiance that he should be focusing more on making money than getting married. Mom and a dear family friend calmed me down and told me to screw them, do what we want. Fiance was pissed but also felt horrible because he wasn't there to help me.

Okay I was the one who got SO mad at this. Asked FMIL to contact JUST the women on my small list to see if they were coming to the bridal shower. Told her to wait on the wedding. She proceeds to then ask every lady on my list about the shower AND wedding and give me their answers via text That was a small fraction of the guest list! We had a ton of others to hunt down for the wedding later on. When we told her that and explained that with no RSVP reply we will not be counting them on our guest list count she brushed it off. "They confirmed verbally through text with me, that's all you need. The RSVPs don't matter." Oh I was SO angry. My fiance told her no. No RSVP, no reserved seat/meal/etc. Think she finally gets it but no idea...we'll see day of. She doesn't think logically even when directions are provided for her in baby steps.

My mom...oh my mom. I love her but holy crud has she been causing drama. At the tux shop: "If people are trying on things then why shouldn't they be able to have the colors too? Why have a book of fabrics if you don't actually have the real things here?" that meltdown was in front of a groomsman and his fiance, she was half laughing and half shocked at her meltdown. At the venue: "I don't think its right they don't have the actual special linens or a table set up we can play with for colors layouts. We need to see what things will look like- not imagine it!" and cue another meltdown. I love her but she gets upset and goes off on angry rants about the silliest things but sometimes its too much and she needs to be told to just stop and go over somewhere else like a child. She's been trying to be good lately though, which I appreciate.

We are just under 3 weeks away. I'm kind of worried over all the other problems that are arising and dreading all the little ones that will be blown out of proportion.

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I totally see your point! Plus it's unique. Not as many people will have the same anniversary as y'all. Plus, like you said, the people that want to be there will figure out a way to be there.

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Lol that sounds like just pure spite! "Is he gonna wear a dress too?"... Really?

I live in the middle of nowhere and literally drive 35 minutes each way to work every day so this one is even more funny to me cause it's not even that far at all. I mean does your mom never leave her neighborhood? LOL. Plus FREEEEEEEE!!! Anything free is way better than an extra couple grand. Plus that is such a NICE thing of your friend to do! Your mom should be excited for that!

I agree, I definitely think SO's should be included in the rehearsal dinner. Families even if they've got kids. I definitely don't think you should have to invite just regular guests though. I know some people invite their out of town guests but I still think that's just unnecessary. By that point you might as well just have two weddings.

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Wowwww. I gotta say, I can find the humor in a lot of these ridiculous things because it's easier to laugh than stress about them, but in your situation, I really just feel for you and all the stress you've been dealing with.

Gotta say the name thing is definitely funny! I don't think I would ever personally want to do a whole new name the way you guys are, but I think it's so cool and unique. Like you're creating your own family from scratch! I like that.

It sounds like your fiance's family have been the opposite of helpful during this. I've never understood the point in comparing one relationship to the next (yours vs your parents') because you are completely different people and all the dynamics are different. There are people who date 10 years, get married, and divorce the same year. The same way there are people who getting married after dating 6 months and stay together forever. Don't let that bother you.

I'm all with you with the RSVP thing! It makes me so ill that people act like it's so hard to fill out the daggum RSVP. This girl messages me on fb with a pic of the RSVP (which was already self addressed and stamped btw) and says "do I need to send this or am I good?"..... ARE YOU SERIOUS?!!!!! YOU CAN'T DROP THE THING IN THE MAIL?! Seriously one of my biggest wedding pet peeves for sure.

Your mom sounds unstable and I know that must be hard to deal with on top of the regular wedding stress. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all that!

View Quoted Comment Hahaha thank you so much for agreeing!! Sometimes when these things happen I start to question if I’m in the wrong and I go crazy! But no I completely agree about the rehearsal dinner, that would be super excessive!!

I have had someone get mad because I won't get a band for my wedding. I am getting a DJ. Bands give me headaches and I am not going to spend my special day with a headache. Plus, a DJ can play everything!

I recently found out about a half sister who has three moderately aged kids. When choosing the ring bearer and flower girl I went with options that were more intimate to me than people who I just established a relationship with. She asked if they were invited to the ceremony (which is open to the public) and I said no. I told her it wasn’t personal and that I actually would prefer NO kids be present. She sounded upset and said “they would want to see their aunt get married.” I thought to myself, “So what?” They will see me all the time after the fact. They don’t get special treatment because of who they now are to me. My nephew who I helped raise is a jr groomsmen and my baby sister’s (same mom and dad) son is the ring bearer. I think that’s why she’s upset. But I honestly don’t care. She can have whoever she wants at HER wedding. But this day is mine lol

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That's dumb. I didn't even consider a band because I don't want a concert. I want a wedding. And like you said, a DJ can play songs that everyone can dance to, they can mix up the playlist, and have something for everyone.

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I don't blame you at all. It's hard to establish a close relative relationship with someone as an adult. When you didn't grow up together, it's almost impossible to create the same bond as you have with your other sibling(s). I get that completely. I have a stepsister who lives out of state and will not be involved in the wedding, even though my sister and both sister-in-laws are in it. I don't think her feelings are hurt by it at all, but it would just be weird - we aren't that close.

My mom is mad at me because I want a Bridal Shower. My sister (MOH) said I need to adjust my expectations for the bachelorette when all I said is that I don’t want it in town. She also needed me to cater to her schedule for my engagement shoot (she was handling our dog)

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I can totally relate to the sister/MOH thing. Mine has done nothing, and thinks it's all a joke. And my future sister-in-law (bridesmaid) has done nothing but complain about money the whole time to wear I'm basically paying for all her crap. It's not that she can't afford it, it's that it isn't what she wants to spend her money on. OVER IT.

My brother got mad at me because
Our wedding is on Halloween. His reasoning is (It's a satanic holiday) he then got the family to turn on me.
Then he refused to come becuase my FH's parents (FILS') are gay.