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Hannah
Devoted December 2019

What's the most ridiculous thing someone has gotten mad at you over during planning?

Hannah, on October 9, 2019 at 11:24 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 77

Just for fun because I'm two months out and my stress levels are through the roof, and laughing at some of this stuff keeps me sane! LOL. I'll go first: 1. My mom got soooo mad when I told her that I was going to serve alcohol, that she said "well then you don't need to get your nanny (grandma) to...

Just for fun because I'm two months out and my stress levels are through the roof, and laughing at some of this stuff keeps me sane! LOL. I'll go first:

1. My mom got soooo mad when I told her that I was going to serve alcohol, that she said "well then you don't need to get your nanny (grandma) to say a prayer during the ceremony then!".... This upset me at first but then I just laughed it off because it sounded so ridiculous. Oh and she did get over it.

2. My fiance's mom got mad because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. She told his sister that she didn't think it was fair that she (sister) got to be a bridesmaid and she didn't.... Really? Lol

3. My fiance's aunt got mad and stopped talking to us for a few months over the summer. Blocked us on Facebook and all over something unrelated. Then got mad when she wasn't originally on our guest list.... Ummm??

4. The same aunt recently got mad because she wasn't invited to the bachelorette party. Let me first say, my sister (MOH) and fiance's sister (bridesmaid) are planning the party. They know me best and their plans are spot on. Fiance's other aunt and mom have taken it upon themselves to also plan a party, even though we've told them several times that my sister and his sister have it covered. So they mentioned it in front of their sister (aunt that is mad), and then she called fiance's sister yesterday saying she cried herself to sleep because she wasn't invited. When fiance's sister told her that my sister was actually planning it and that (aunt's) sisters are just going off the rails, she responds with "well I asked my sister and she said it was because y'all were going to a bar and I don't go to bars. I don't know why y'all can't just come to (town where she lives) and just have dinner at (bbq place). That's something everyone would want to do" ..... I. JUST. CAN'T. All I can do is laugh because the sister who's mad is being so ridiculous. 1. It's MY bachelorette party and I promise you it will not just be dinner at a bbq joint. 2. I don't want either of the two aunts nor fiance's mom to come - that would just be weird. 3. Other two aunts need to take a freaking chill pill cause even if they do come to the party, it's not going to be their plan..... Also as a side note, mom insisted we make t shirts for the bachelorette party. Um, excused me but I am NOT wearing a freaking t-shirt to my party!


At this point, I'm just laughing. I honestly just don't have the mental capacity to stress about such childish drama from grown women. I have a billion and one other things to worry about. Anybody else dealing with just absolutely ridiculous drama during wedding planning? I can't make this stuff up! LOL

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  • Hannah
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    Dear lord. That is definitely something you just have to laugh about. I mean does she want to marry her son or does she want you to do it?! I don't know anything at all about that religion (is that a religion? lol), but I gotta say I definitely would not want to be married anywhere I wasn't welcomed. It really just baffles me that she would even think that would be a good suggestion.

    And I totally agree about the financial aspect! My mom paid the deposit on our venue, will help a little with catering, and bought my shoes. But everything else, we are fully funding and that's basically what I had to tell her. She didn't get a say so in the alcohol debacle because she wasn't paying for it. I don't think she liked that but it is what it is.

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  • Hannah
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    Wowwww. Lol. Whatever will keep the peace. I have a biological dad that hasn't been in my life for many years but we've been trying to repair our relationship the past couple years. My stepdad and I are way closer. But they HATE each other. So it was a hard no from both of them when I asked if they would be okay with both walking me down the aisle. My stepdad wanted to just "sit it out" and I didn't want that because I'm closer to him. I almost got my mom to walk me because I was so sick of dealing with it. Lol.

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  • Hannah
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    Now I'm thanking my lucky stars that my future sister-in-law and I are so close! Haha I don't know why but it cracks me up when family members think they should have say so over YOUR wedding. I would be like "you funding this destination wedding?" cause traveling ain't cheap. I 100% agree that it makes more sense to do it where most of your family is located. Even if most of their has to travel, because if you did the way she's suggesting almost everyone would have to travel! Unless her kids are going to be professional soccer players one day, I'm pretty sure they can miss a game. Actually even if they were going to be professionals, ONE elementary school game is not going to make or break them. Lol. Why do parents put so much importance/pressure on their elementary sports?!

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  • Kelsey
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    I don't know and I so don't get it with sports. Like shouldn't they just be having fun or something without all that pressure? Plus half of my family farms for a living it would incredibly difficult for them to go to upstate New York and leave the farming for 2-3 days even. At least with it being about an hour away from them they will be able to enjoy the wedding lol!

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  • Hannah
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    Lol I love this because my mom has also turned her nose up about the fact that we are having cornhole at the reception. "That's so redneck, you don't do that at a wedding!"....Umm well we ARE rednecks and everyone loves cornhole soo.... Also I've never been to a pig roast but that sounds like a blast!

    Cupcakes are literally so much simpler and honestly I think they make the desert table look so much better because you can arrange them so many ways!

    Where I'm from, LOTS of grooms/groomsmen wear jeans! It sounds like you're having a pretty casual wedding and jeans goes perfectly with that. Don't wanna get pig juice on your rented tux! LOL.

    This is my second wedding and I didn't want a bridal shower either. I ended up caving because fiance's family insisted and now I'm excited about it but it was hard to register for things because we've been living together for years and already have most of the "starting out" things.

    Shoot after paying for the wedding, I totally understand why people wait a little while before a honeymoon! Especially if you have kids. And a family vacation would be so fun! Celebrating the union of a FAMILY rather than just the two of you as a couple.

    I swear if I let all of these opinions affect me, I'd be losing my mind. Laughter has definitely been the best medicine.

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  • Hannah
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    Exactly! I get so annoyed going to my nieces and nephews games and hearing how some of the parents yell at their kids/the ref. Like they are just KIDS, let them PLAY! I come from a small farming town, so I totally get that! It's just way more convenient for you as a couple to have it there and that's all that should matter.

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  • Hannah
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    I'm just saying I would be so excited to do something like that at a wedding! Something fun besides just dancing! Some of us are rhythm-challenged. HAHA

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  • L
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    I had a similar situation at my wedding with matriarchs demanding stupid cliche traditions. When we were lining up for the processional, my aunt and MIL we're pissed I wasn't walking down the aisle with my veil over my face. If this was so important, why didn't they tell me at any point before, oh, the 5 minutes before my ceremony?! At that moment I was an emotional mess because of this and all the other earlier demands. Thank goodness my DOC and MOH were there to calm me down, fan my face, and give me words of encouragement.
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  • N
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    My FH’s grandmother wasn’t mad per say but was confused that we’re not getting married in his church. Her exact words were “does that even count?” 😂
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  • Hannah
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    Wow! That's an awful time for them to voice their opinions on that! I don't think hardly anyone wears the veil over the face anymore. A lot of veils aren't even made with 2 layers to do that with? So glad you had people around you to calm you because I can not imagine that nerve wracking moment being made even more stressful with silly demands like that.

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  • Hannah
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    Hahaha. Sometimes grandmothers are just so pure in their confusion. My Nanny hasn't said much pertaining to the wedding, but she's all the time accidentally saying insulting things cause she has no filter in her old age and doesn't even realize what she's saying could be taken the wrong way. Lol. I always just laugh her off cause I know she means well.

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  • Andrea
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    My FH's aunt is overcritical about almost everything. Literally. She tried to hijack our wedding. She was so upset because.. well FH's mom apparently is causing two other fh's aunt not to attend our wedding. This particular eldest aunt had been extremely upset, starting a war essentially with FMIL saying it's not fair, she shouldn't be causing this, she's always pulling stuff like this, fmil shouldn't be coming to the wedding, yada yada yada. It's actually really disturbing. This was almost 3 weeks ago. She's become so toxic that we've stopped talking about the wedding to her and we were very close to telling her she's no longer welcome at the wedding. We just didn't "take it there." I guess you can say. She's a handful. She hasn't brought up the wedding to us since, but still is trying to make small talk. We've overall been ignoring her.

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  • W-K
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    My mom got mad because I invited my dad to walk me down the aisle instead of her.

    My dad got mad because we weren't having assigned seating (small wedding). We figured it out to make him happy. We don't need him and my mom fighting.

    My son got mad yesterday because he didn't want to get his hair cut for the wedding on Friday. But he cut his own hair last week and it looked awful.

    My dad and our officiant (and mentor) are both offended that one of the food choices is quiche.


    All relatively petty things.

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  • Heather
    Savvy December 2019
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    My mom is mad that I’m have a father daughter dance but not one with her.
    shes also mad that we aren’t having request for the DJ.

    My SIL and of my bridesmaids got SO angry that I’m giving all hotel guest a bottle of wine with their bags. Because it’s “over the top”
    I told my mom and she got mad that she’s only getting one bag at the hotel... just like everyone else is.

    My MIL and dads wife got me that when we have first look photos taken we don’t want anyone there.


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  • Hannah
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    Honestly, this sounds a lot like my future mother-in-law and her two sisters. Always soooo much drama and the one aunt is always getting butthurt over any little thing and then blaming everyone and making it a huge deal. It's so frustrating and we reached the point where we just avoid talking to anyone until they're done fighting cause it ain't worth it. lol.

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  • Hannah
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    Those are really petty things! Why would anyone be offended by quiche? Lol. How old is your son?

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  • Hannah
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    Okay I know some people have first dances with their moms for multiple reasons, but if your dad is in the picture, it would just be weird (to me) to dance with her. Lol. They are angry at you for being a good host? Dear lord. Your mom is mad because she's not getting something extra? Do they understand the POINT of the first look is for it to just be you and your fiance and the photographer?!

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
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    I have no idea. I was looking at them both like... it's eggs mixed with ham, bacon, and cheese. The most 'merican ingredients I know. Just eat it and shut up.

    My son is 12. He took scissors to his hair then threw a fit when I made him fix it but he looked like a chicken.

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  • W-K
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    Is she Catholic? LOL

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  • Julie
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    My mom was off when I decided that I wanted to have my bridesmaids wear ivory and that I picked a colored dress.

    My dad got snooty that I asked my mom AND dad to both walk me down the aisle (divorced)

    My stepmom wants to wear white? I'm not going to but...that's still icky too me. I know that one is maybe my own weirdness. Still bothers me though.

    And how dare you serve quiche! (JK, if I could eat eggs I would have all of the quiche)
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