Hannah
Devoted December 2019

What's the most ridiculous thing someone has gotten mad at you over during planning?

Hannah, on October 9, 2019 at 11:24 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 77
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Just for fun because I'm two months out and my stress levels are through the roof, and laughing at some of this stuff keeps me sane! LOL. I'll go first:

1. My mom got soooo mad when I told her that I was going to serve alcohol, that she said "well then you don't need to get your nanny (grandma) to say a prayer during the ceremony then!".... This upset me at first but then I just laughed it off because it sounded so ridiculous. Oh and she did get over it.

2. My fiance's mom got mad because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. She told his sister that she didn't think it was fair that she (sister) got to be a bridesmaid and she didn't.... Really? Lol

3. My fiance's aunt got mad and stopped talking to us for a few months over the summer. Blocked us on Facebook and all over something unrelated. Then got mad when she wasn't originally on our guest list.... Ummm??

4. The same aunt recently got mad because she wasn't invited to the bachelorette party. Let me first say, my sister (MOH) and fiance's sister (bridesmaid) are planning the party. They know me best and their plans are spot on. Fiance's other aunt and mom have taken it upon themselves to also plan a party, even though we've told them several times that my sister and his sister have it covered. So they mentioned it in front of their sister (aunt that is mad), and then she called fiance's sister yesterday saying she cried herself to sleep because she wasn't invited. When fiance's sister told her that my sister was actually planning it and that (aunt's) sisters are just going off the rails, she responds with "well I asked my sister and she said it was because y'all were going to a bar and I don't go to bars. I don't know why y'all can't just come to (town where she lives) and just have dinner at (bbq place). That's something everyone would want to do" ..... I. JUST. CAN'T. All I can do is laugh because the sister who's mad is being so ridiculous. 1. It's MY bachelorette party and I promise you it will not just be dinner at a bbq joint. 2. I don't want either of the two aunts nor fiance's mom to come - that would just be weird. 3. Other two aunts need to take a freaking chill pill cause even if they do come to the party, it's not going to be their plan..... Also as a side note, mom insisted we make t shirts for the bachelorette party. Um, excused me but I am NOT wearing a freaking t-shirt to my party!


At this point, I'm just laughing. I honestly just don't have the mental capacity to stress about such childish drama from grown women. I have a billion and one other things to worry about. Anybody else dealing with just absolutely ridiculous drama during wedding planning? I can't make this stuff up! LOL

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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    My FMIL got mad that all the tables weren't going to be round. She was very opposed to rectangle tables (we are having a mix to maximize space). She was furious.

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  • Toni
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    My MIL was so angry when she found out she wasn鈥檛 getting a corsage. Nobody else is getting corsages and I鈥檓 the only one with any flowers, she keeps spitefully mentioning corsages every time we see each other 馃槀
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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    TABLES? Omg! That's actually hilarious. Who cares as long as they're pretty?! Did she have a reason for not wanting rectangle ones? Like was she trying to make sure everyone had an equal view of all the people at the table? Lol I don't get it.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Hahaha. Golden. Now I don't feel so bad about mine wanting to be a daggum bridesmaid. Also, I haven't even thought about corsages! Mine may not be getting them either!Smiley xd

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  • Amber
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    My FMIL "pretended" she wasn't mad that FH asked his father to be his best man. I could tell she was livid. They had a very nasty divorce a few years ago and it's taken a lot for FH and his father to be close again. I was so happy he wanted his dad as his best man after all they'd been through and he happily accepted, but FMIL was NOT happy. Smiley ups

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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    She says rectangle tables aren't conducive to conversation. I think it was more of a control thing. She emailed the venue behind my back and asked them to change all the tables to round. Oh, what fun we are having....

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  • Danielle
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    My mom really has a problem with me not doing whatever she says. I told my sister that the bridesmaids can wear what they like just match it up to the color palette. She said this to my mom and we had a bad argument that ended with her name calling and hanging up on me. I never called back and just want her to show up that day. I knew she'd do this if it's not her decision making. We haven't spoken since Saturday the bms go dress shopping and I kinda hope she stays home.
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  • Lauren
    Rockstar February 2020
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    My mom isn't upset anymore, but, originally, she was very upset when I told her I didn't want to walk down to "Here Comes the Bride". I honestly hate that song, but she saw it as a must since "it's a tradition". Most things about our wedding are traditional so I didn't see why walking to that song was such a big deal. She's completely over it and loves the song I'm walking down to ("I Get to Love You" by Ruelle) now, though!

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Well that's mature. At least she's trying to save face, but sounds like serious jealousy issues to me. She should be happy her son is attempting to have a relationship with his dad! Honestly, I totally get it, my parents have been divorced for over 20 years but they still can't stand each other and my stepdad and dad HATE each other so it's been fun trying to figure out how they both can play a role after they both refused to both walk me down the aisle.

    Also as an afterthought, I don't know why, but to me it seems more acceptable for a dad/uncle to be a groomsmen than for a mom/aunt to be a bridesmaid? Maybe that's just my thoughts on it, but my fiance's uncle is one of his groomsmen and I just think it would be so weird for one of my aunts or my mom to be a bridesmaid. Lol. Maybe different dynamics, maybe just because I have so many sister/sister-in-laws that already fill the bridesmaid spots.

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  • Kayla
    Devoted November 2020
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    My grandma is livid at the fact that we'll be having a mac and cheese bar for dinner at our wedding. She was at my parents house the weekend we were down there doing tastings and kept making not so subtle digs about it. Even went so far as the only thing that could MAYBE make it "classy enough" for a wedding is if we served lobster for a topping. I told her she could bring her own if that's what she wanted.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2020
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    I am not one for attention. And I don't like being touched. I get really anxious when people are staring at me so hopefully I can pull myself together for that day. Anyway, my FMIL was on the phone with my FH and told him she wants me to do the dollar dance. I had told him months ago that I'm not interested, for the reasons I mentioned. He's fine with it, naturally, and doesn't want me to do anything I'm not comfortable with. Well FMIL told him to tell me that she wants some sort of tradition and that I need to "get over myself." Umm..ok?

    Another story: My fiance is Russian. If you've never seen or heard about a Russian Orthodox wedding, it's where the bride and groom have to wear crowns and the ceremony is roughly 6 hours. Well I am NOT Russian Orthodox. And since I have no desire to become Russian Orthodox, and my fiance is not going to become a member of my religion, we aren't getting married in a church. We didn't want to anyway but this just made the decision easier basically. Well since my fiance is marrying me and I'm not Russian Orthodox, he was called up by his church and kicked out. He was like ok fine...I'm still marrying her. FMIL still thinks we could get married in that church if my fiance just calls and talks to them. Are you kidding?

    Keep in mind she is not contributing, which is 100% fine, but to us that means you can't make demands. We've laughed about it but come on.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Oh my gosh. The things that some people think about! That's not even a thought that would have ever crossed my mind. People will figure out a way to talk to people! Who knew such random, off the wall things would bother people? Plan a wedding and you really get to see everyone's ugly side. lol.

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  • Toni
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    Also my mom got mad that just my dad was walking me down the aisle (they鈥檙e still married btw-she thinks it鈥檚 sexist) so now I have both my mom and dad walking me down the aisle 馃槄
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    My FSIL got mad about the state we are getting married in. My FH and I live in Wisconsin; along with my entire family. FH's family is scattered and she was mad that everyone would have to travel. Her suggestion get married in upstate New York by Canada's border where a bunch of FH's relatives live. Umm then we would have to travel and so would my family; plus she would have to travel from Michigan. She also got mad about the date we picked, because it's during soccer season for her kids, they are in elementary school how serious is soccer for that age (for real I'm asking)?

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  • M
    Expert September 2020
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    My mother isn鈥檛 mad per se but she鈥檚 very judgy about many things...

    1. the pig roast. It鈥檚 too redneck. Well yeah, that鈥檚 the idea. We鈥檙e rednecks. It鈥檚 fun.
    2. cupcakes instead of cake. Not sure what the beef here is but she has brought it up about 15 times.
    3. FH wearing jeans. She thinks it鈥檚 not ok since I鈥檓 wearing a dress. Not a wedding gown dress, just a tea length white dress. Wait till she hears some people might wear shorts. 馃槵
    4. No bridal shower. Not my first wedding and I just don鈥檛 want it.
    5. No honeymoon right away. Family vacation a few months later.

    FH and I are 100% paying for the wedding/reception. I鈥檓 44 and he鈥檚 46. Approval is not needed but it still makes me laugh.
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  • M
    Expert September 2020
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    I love the Mac and cheese bar idea.
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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    Sounds like serious control issues. I hate that for you! I think sometimes they love us and want us to have the best of everything and don't realize what they think is best is not what's best for us. Fingers crossed she stays home and you get to enjoy shopping with the girls without the pressure of her being there. Also, she will get over it eventually so don't let it stress you.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    So glad she got over it! I love tradition but I'm not walking to Here Comes the Bride either. We have really traditional aspects in our wedding and also things that aren't traditional (like cornhole a the reception - my mom had a cow). Lol

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
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    HAHAHA it is just so ridiculous to me to be mad over food! Wow. Who doesn't love mac and cheese? No one in my family has gotten mad about our food choices, but we originally played around with the idea of gourmet pizza at the reception (scrapped the idea when we thought about logistics of keeping it warm and stuff) and one of my older coworkers turned her nose up and said so nastily "You don't have pizza at a wedding that's just stupid!" Then I wanted to do it just to spite her. Lol.

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  • M
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    My mom thinks our yard games, cornhole, Giant Jenga, ladder ball, are tacky. I鈥檓 excited to get photos of guests enjoying them.
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