What's the most offensive / major etiquette faux pas that a guest did to you?

@Game, omfg!!! That's kinda crazy. What happened?? Any idea??

The only anything we had was one of the BM's deciding he'd bring someone else to the wedding and not his GF. We had a small guest list, plus ones only to people we knew - not random friend we've never met. And then his GF was able to make it - which I found out a day before the wedding.

Other than that, everyone showed, everyone (eventually RSVP'd) etc we got lucky!

77 no shows! What makes it worse was it was all my family that didn't show. Everyone RSVP'd YES but didn't bother showing up. None of these people even gave us an explanation either as to why they didn't come. I've been distant with my family since then.

I just got back 30 minutes ago from a short notice (24 hour) casual courthouse wedding. I took a card. It was $3.22 including tax and I wrote nice words in it. Boom! So easy to do.

Emilie, we also went to a casual courthouse wedding with less than 24 hours notice and managed to hit up the store for a card, and the liquor store to do them up a mini "drink night" using the mini liquor bottles...35$ in total. Casual, affordable, done. Can't believe some people cant even bring cards...that bothers me!!!

@Tiffany.. OMG...I'm so sorry that happened to you, but you know who your real friends and family are now, I bet

This post is reminding me that I still haven't mailed a card to the train wreck wedding couple from a few weeks ago. I had it in my purse and I was so pre-occupied with updating WW and my MOH and watching the special bp only shots get poured that it completely slipped my mind that night. I intended to mail it right away and my (rude) FH said not to even bother bc he had asked if the couple had recd it in the mail like a week later (not knowing i had forgotten to mail it) and the groom said yeah thank you and so my FH thinks they just opened all the cards to get the $ out without even taking the time to see who gave what. But I still feel like a rude asshole so I need to send that card. Meh ;(

@Gamecock Mrs... how did you realize that there were 15 people there who didn't give a card? Were they people you knew well, or do you just have a freaky good memory? Sorry, don't mean to hijack the thread, but every time someone says that, I always wonder how they know. My memory isn't that good, and add alcohol to it... LOL

Wow 77 people is insane!! If 77 people didn't show up to mine it would be me, my FH, and my officiant!!

If that happens to me...I'm inviting any WW brides in the area, if I'm gonna pay $160 per person, I'm gonna make sure at least someone is eating it!

Jess - I plan on opening up the gifts the day after the wedding with the guest list spreadsheet open in front of me. That way I can track who gave what. Otherwise it's a mess when you try to send thank yous.

While this didn't happen at a wedding, it happened after a wedding, I was still dumbfounded. (Even FH said WTF is this) We went to a wedding back in May for close friends. We received their thank you card in the mail LAST WEEK! (super late in my book) So I open it to find a really cute card that feature the both of them and open it to find..... a generic typed note addressed to family and friends!!! WTF is that?! I'm sorry, I attended your wedding and we gifted you $300 at the wedding (not to mention a $100 shower gift... that I didn't get a thank you note for) and you can't even personalize a thank you note for us?! Really?

Whoa Gamecock! I would be HOT!!! Not only are your 20 no shows a bunch of a-holes, but people didn't even bother to give you a card?! OH HELL NAW!!!

You'll never guess who just sent me a postcard from Hawaii!!

People are just unbelievable sometimes.

We also had about 20 people not give gifts, cards, etc.

The morning of the wedding FMIL texted me and asked if I could add someone to the guest list. Then she told me a few minutes later that 3 people texted her and said they couldn't come because they couldn't get out of work.

A guest got into a tiff with my dearest sweetest musician friend. I instantly cut that bitch out of my life.

I can't imagine a lot of people no-showing. Only because it's such a small wedding and even 5 people missing would be obvious.

I don't even show up to anyone's house empty handed. I'll bring wine if I'm stopping by a friends house, flowers if it's a parent of someone. I could never.

And no, if there's no reason to thank you then you don't get a thank you card. Not that complicated in my book.

I'm so sorry Gamie

@kristenann, wow I'd be ticked too about that..while I think the couple may have thought "better late than never", something like mass printing the same generic message on thank you cards wouldn't have been nearly as time consuming as writing a personalized message