what's a classy way of asking for cash gifts?

There's not a good way. Basically, keep your registry small so that there is little to pick from and if someone asks (or your bridal party/family can spread the word) then you say something like "We have everything we need, we're just working on paying for school." They'll get the hint and give cash/checks but only offer the suggestion IF they ask.

Thanks for the suggestion! My mom suggested just not registering anywhere (or doing a very small registry) and she thinks people will get the hint and just give checks. I hope she's right!

There is no classy way to ask for cash gifts. You can let your parents and bridal party know, so that they can spread it by word of mouth, or if someone directly asks you, you can say a cash gift would be most appreciated.

But some folks are physical gift givers or otherwise don't like giving cash. Make a small registry, a few items that could be upgraded in your home, so that when that runs out, people get the hint that you want cash. But still be prepared to get items you don't want/need from some of your guests. You have quite a while before you'd even need to register, so re-evaluate the registry thing a year from now.

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You don't.

there is no way to mention gifts without being tacky and uncouth.

but honestly, we had 120 guests at our wedding and I think we got three non-cash gifts, so I wouldn't be too concerned about it.

We also created a small registry of things we really wanted/needed, and got tons of cash gifts without asking for it. Only one person actually brought a physical gift to the wedding.

If you're going to have a shower you'll probably want at least some type of physical gift registry, just keep it small. And if anyone asks what you want just say, "We're registered at Macy's but you know really we're focused on saving for xyz. Thanks for asking!!"

RayRay said it best.

Have a small registry (because some old fashioned people will still want to buy a physical gift) with a few things you would like or even replacements for stuff you have (new towels, sheets, etc?) or just no registry at all and they will get the hint. Never directly ask for cash, and no matter what you see online, no a cute poem asking for cash is still not okay either.

I just went though this, I even open a honey fund account. I sent out my STD, when my family and friends received theirs they were calling me asking me what we would like to have as a gift. I told them " you know me CASH" Everyone seems to be on board with it saying okay sounds good to me. My brother said "how about I pay for your wedding pictures ?" I was totally good with that. I gave him the name of the person we are using and 2 days later they sent me a receipt saying paid in full. Do not get worked up over how to ask for money, if asked (and most people do) just tell them you could use the money.

I also made a small registry on the advice of WW ladies. I ask for towels, glass ware,

picture frames. Small stuff I could really use.

We did a registry on MyRegistry.com because you can select anything available for sale online. We went to different websites of stores and selected their gift cards, so basically we're registered for gift cards for very practical places, like CVS, a grocery store, Sam's Club (that's where we buy gas), a movie theater, our favorite restaurant, etc.

@ Glenda C. Great idea ! I may add that to mine too.

Thanks for the suggestions, everyone! I'll talk to him about doing a very small registry of things we'd appreciate replacements of (nicer towels and sheets would be great).

And I'll switch my avatar picture as soon as I'm on my home computer and have access to my pictures.

Yay @Chelsea P can't wait to see your avatar. Thanks for the suggestions ladies they're great!

By keeping registry small. We registered for gifts and the same place had travel so we registered for travel gift certificates. Most people will give money regardless of the size of yoru registry at the wedding.

the shower is where you get gifts, if you don't need gifts I suggest not having a shower, it may result in more cash gifts at the wedding too.

About "registering" for the gift cards, my other thought was that we have some family who doesn't have a lot of money, and you can often get gift cards with credit card rewards or I have family who buy gift cards at Kroger to get pts to get money off gas.