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What would you do? Bridesmaid problem

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Victoria A, on February 21, 2017 at 7:29 PM

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So this is a long story, I'll answer questions in the comments as they come up. I have 5 bridesmaids, for discussion sake 1 is the MOH and 5 is the maid in question. BM's 1-4 I know more recently past 6 years from college and stuff, BM 5 I have know since I was 9. Me and 5 have always ad a great relationship one of those friendships where it doesn't matter how long it's been you always have a great time together. A while back I invited all of my BM's to a little mini party and to officially say yes to the dress. 5 cancelled last minute due to work conflicts (she had a month in advance) and I was dissapointed but I understood. 5 still hasn't met 1-4 but they live far apart. Fast forward to January MOH is starting to organize a date that works for everyone for the Bachelorette party (most of the BM are out of town so we like to give a lot of notice for dates) she reaches out to everyone and no response from 5 .... continued in comments

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Aerynne · on February 21, 2017 at 9:22 PM
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"Let's be clear my main frustration is that I have a bridesmaid that has not responded to me in a month after saying she might not be able to be in the wedding."

No, let's be clear - you have a FRIEND who hasn't responded. She was your friend first, your bridesmaid second. I have many friends who I don't talk to in months, in some cases even YEARS, but it doesn't change our relationship. I understand and respect that they have their own lives, families, jobs, kids, all of which take priority on their everyday lives. I have all the same things to deal with, and they get that, as well, or we wouldn't be friends.

I get the feeling that her behavior, the lack of a timely response, is one of two things: 1. her normal behavior all along that you think should somehow change because you have an event in 8 months, or 2. Her signal that she is not ok, and should be approached as you would a friend, not as a bride to a bridesmaid, but as a friend.
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Victoria A · on February 21, 2017 at 9:28 PM
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Your right
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Future Mrs.N · on February 22, 2017 at 12:52 AM
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Same stuff different day smh
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Rachel DellaPorte · on February 22, 2017 at 12:59 AM
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"Whether", not "Weather". Relax. You're eight months out, not eight weeks out.
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