What was the most stressful part of planning?

Most stressful was not having our final menu finalized and we had like 10 days to go! That and having our coordinator not being able to do our wedding 1 week before the wedding.

Guestlist without a doubt. On one site, they described it like this:

Your wedding’s guest list is like the world’s supply of crude oil. Its supply and demand will drive every other cost of the global economy (your wedding); it’s contested by every superpower (the bride, the mothers), and it will trigger wars and bloodshed (your fights with the in-laws).

This was absolutely the case for us, and required UN-level diplomacy, appeasement, concessions, threats of economic sanctions, and intervention by a neutral superpower (FI to the rescue!).

I received the wedding jewelry I ordered off of Etsy the other day... they had really good reviews and it was one of the only places where they made nice-looking medieval-style jewelry. When I got it in person, the stone looked a lot more gaudy than I anticipated... luckily I was able to exchange it for something else with (I hope) a better stone.

Also, I had to go to three different post offices to get my invitation stamps, and when the third place finally had enough of the stamps I wanted, even though I had weighed an assembled invitation and felt certain a standard stamp would be fine, the post office lady convinced me to go home and come back with a sample. Turns out I was right - a standard stamp was fine, but I had to drive 20 minutes there and back... that's when I got home and cried, thought about how much I missed my mom, then proceeded to have a panic attack.

Guest list, and getting those guests to RSVP by the deadline.

So far these have been the most stressful parts:

Getting FH's and the GM's suits. We went with Men's Warehouse. They had limited options available. We wanted charcoal gray suits, and they said the only ones they had available to rent were $250... we couldn't justify making the GMs spend that much! They also misquoted the price on the suit we ended up picking (I ended up getting a discount since it was their fault). We would've looked somewhere else, but everyone already had been fitted and I didn't want to inconvenience them again.

Getting a hair stylist. The original lady I picked stopped responding to me. I was able to add hair services from my MUA artist thankfully. The original lady still hasn't responded to me and my wedding is in 9 days!

And RSVPs. We had over 20 people we had to reach out to after our deadline. 11 of those never responded to our final deadline we gave them, which was yesterday, so we had to reach out to them again. 5 of those didn't respond at all, so we put them down as no's! I really don't understand why people can't respond when they've known about it for over 6 months!

Having a 2 year engagement has definitely made wedding planning stress free for me.

Trying to please others with the guest list. One aunt insisted on her grandchildren (teenagers I hardly know) being there. I explained to her nicely all the reasons I didn't invite them, but it was not getting through to her. Then she laid on the guilt about my late mother/her sister...I was an emotional wreck for weeks.

Lesson learned-pick your battles and stand your ground. You will NEVER please everyone.

The guest list is stressing me out, but the big one right now is my parent's aren't on board with the wedding at all, which is extremely hard for me and causing more stress than anticipated.

Guest list for sure has been the most stressful, but I finally have it figured out and we decided to not invite kids under 18 which makes my life a lot easier!

AH! Stressful lol

like most people said was the guest list, but more specifically was getting all the addresses and cutting the list below 200. UGH!

Other than that I started planning early so nothing was that bad. It can be a little stressful not living by any of my bridesmaids and trying to organize everything with them.

Anything to do with the guest list.

So far it has been clicking the "order" button when ordering my invitations. Had like 6,000 people look that shit over and I was still so nervous about it.

They came yesterday though and I'm so excited to get them put together

It's been pretty smooth sailing so far, but now I find myself worrying about RSVPs. We have three weeks until the deadline, so I know I'm just being impatient. We've received about half so far, but I don't know what a typical return rate is. I'm anxious to get all the other stuff done that's dependent on the guest list (place cards, seating chart, etc.) I know that I reasonably have time for that stuff, but I also just feel like the time is flying by since we got under the two-month mark!

Guest list for sure. I'm about to send out invites and I'm STILL figuring out some logistics.

And other than that the hotel where my room block is. The only woman at the place that can help me open rooms, answer questions, etc is IMPOSSIBLE to get a hold of. I'm currently waiting for her to get back to me about adding more rooms since the block is currently full. I care so much about making the accommodations great for people paying to stay over, so it's frustrating me to deal with someone who does business this way.

Dealing w my FMIL...they are CRAZY!!!! and Controlling! And please don't say NO to her because she'll throw a trantrum worst than a 2yr old!!!!

And dealing w the RSVPs...

-Guest List because FMIL tried inviting 125 people (no she is not hosting) and she finally gave it to me of me asking for 8 months for it, and of course she went overboard. FH & I eliminated some of those people of on our own.

- I haven't gotten to it, but I have a feeling seatchart will be a problem...MOH started asking me yesterday if she can do it for me...uh no

- Anything detailed related because I'm not creative.

-Hasn't been too bad but my engagement started around the 19 month mark so I had a lot of time.

@ Greene bunny, that's my biggest fear. I need to start looking for dresses soon, and I'm honestly not looking forward to it

Coordinating other people. Anything that I can plan or do myself is fine and doesn't stress me out. Anything that involves coordinating others schedules and getting them to do things stresses me the f out.

I booked vendors for the wrong date - oops!

@SSJKarigan I had the same stamp problem! I had to lower my expectations from "I want the blue love stamps" to "I guess ice cream and Jimi Hendrix will work." The POs by me were all out of anything wedding-related. Tis the season, I guess.