what to do when cards go missing from card box

I've been wondering that myself...I hear about cards getting stolen...what can you do to prevent that?

I dont know! I would creat a generic thank you note saying things like thank you for comming and not saying anything about the card, that way if they want to know if you got it or not, they will call you and you can play if off as you didnt see one and you hope it didnt get misplaced, and then do the "Oh, I hope someone didnt take it, did you put a check inside, you should check your bank and make sure someone did try and cash it"

If they didnt get you one, they wont call.

as to how to keep this from happening. I would say create a deep box that you cant easily open or pull things back out of and maybe put your mom or MOH in charge of switching the box out for a new one as it gets full and cards start to peek out the slot. Thats what I am going to do since the site is a public park and people could wonder in if they want.

Oh and i called at the hall and the lady said there was no cards there she would have called right away. we didt do the cards till we got backfrom the honeymoon. the box was at my moms pklace.

Congrats!! So where are the pics?!?! U know u gotta share with us!

I'm so sorry that happened to u! it's one of those nightmare stories u hear about and it just sucks. My mom is so paranoid about this happening to us that she has assigned my brother to stand by the card box and as soon a s everyone is there and finished putting their cards in he will take it out and lock it in the truck of their car. I think it's overkill but better safe than sorry I guess.

As for the thank u card, I am totally against etiquettes on this one. I do not understand sending a thank u card to people who didn't give a gift. NOt because i expect gifts but because u thank them IN PERSON that day for coming to the wedding. So it seems redundant to be to thank them for coming AGAIN. the point of thank you cards is that you don't open the gift in front of them so you can't thank them in person for that. on top of that u hate this person. Don't send anything and be rid of her!

Honestly...I agree with Laura on this one. If you didn't receive a card from them I wouldn't send the thank you note. You don't really know if they put a card in the box or not - they could have said yes, but were too embarrassed because they didn't get you a card. It doesn't mean they won't send you anything, but at this point they haven't so the thank you should wait. As for the person who was rude to you - she definitely doesn't deserve a thank you, because she sounds like the type of person that really just may have not gotten you anything. The other 2 I would maybe send a thank you for coming card and let them know that their card seems to have been stolen. I would want to know if a gift of mine never made it to the intended party.

Congrats by the way!

I agree with others, don't send a thank you. This could leave the door open for them to talk to you about it. I have an aunt (she's not a nice one) who if she doesn't like the food you are having at the reception, she won't leave her card! I can't wait for mine...boy will I let her have it if there is not a card from her. Another family we know, who is very well off, didn't leave a card at my brother's wedding and I am still waiting for my card from my high school graduation (that was 13 years ago.) She said she was going to mail it! So you never know. If they were stolen, that's sad...but if they didn't put them it, that's just wrong too! Congrats by the way!!!

Lauren10 to answer your question about what to do so cards don't get stolen...well here is my take on that. Keep the birdcage or card box on or near your table. Keep count and then re-count before the end of the evening...if you are short kindly instruct your wedding coordinator to close the doors and grab your cake knife and the mic. Explain to the guests that everyone will get out safely once those cards are returned. See very simple. (yes I know I'm nuts!)

I would like to point out here that hopefully we don't think our guests would steal the cards, right?...a more likely scenario is that someone on the staff, (waiter, bus boy, etc.) or if your wedding is at like a hotel or something and more open to people traffic that someone would snag a few as they go by, or worse steal the whole box! It is something for us to keep in mind. It's not a real fear of mine because of the way our venue is set up but better safe then sorry so I'm not arguing that my mom is putting my brother on guard then quickly locking them up. But Libragurl, I think if you wanna keep count then you should assign someone to do that for you. You can't stare into your new hubby's eyes with passionate love if you're keeping one eye on the card box all night!

Lauren10 to answer your question about what to do so cards don't get stolen...well here is my take on that. Keep the birdcage or card box on or near your table. Keep count and then re-count before the end of the evening...if you are short kindly instruct your wedding coordinator to close the doors and grab your cake knife and the mic. Explain to the guests that everyone will get out safely once those cards are returned. See very simple. (yes I know I'm nuts!)

That is really funny your crazy like my older sister.

Time out: We interrupt your reguarly scheduled program for this brief test of the have your guests lost their mind system. This is only a test: Once again I agree w/ Laura and Libragurl we must be distant cuzins!!It's right to NOT expect gifts for your wedding...HOWEVER,if I have paid for you to eat a nice dinner and some really good wedding cake (I love wedding cake!!!), hired entertainment, along with all the other expenses of a wedding and I don't receive a small token (come on how hard is it to stick $10 in a card), then I will not be wasting the postage to send a thank you card. Consider the aforementioned as my gratitude. You should be thanking me for treating you and your guest of choice BTW to a nice evening out. IN ADDITION, after having done all of the above and some ungrateful so and so decides to STEAL from me...Oh please be prepared for me to politely WHOOP DAT A%^$%!! in my Vera Wang!!!!

P.S. I really am a nice person We now return to your regularly scheduled program

Ha...libra that's hilarious! Except Kenny Rogers would tell you to never count your money when sittin' at the table.

UPDATE.....on sat. i went out to his car bc my mom thought that my i guess soon to be sister in law saw my hubby pput cards in the glovebox so i looked in there nothing, BUT we found a BLACK flipflop. it wasnt ours. only pair i own is my steeler fliplops and they were on my feet. so we are thinking that whoever did it must have small hands and grabbedf it from the top bc hubby put a few in there that fell out after my brother dropped the bottom of the card boc the night of the wedding whenever we were at the hotel people seen me in my wedding gown and HELLO they seen the box and the door was unlocked so that whoever was taking the car back to my moms house the next day for that weekwhen we were on our honeymoon they took a few out of there. and bingo they are gone.

That sucks. I am so going to do something to prevent that. My wedding is at a public park and the public restrooms are by the door to the pavilion I am renting so its could be easy for any outsider to pop in for a few and play grab bag. I think I will just have two very deep containers with no opening other then the card slot and someone to switch them out if one gets too full. That way no one can pull cards back out the slot. Locking in a trunk after is a good idea too.

I'm trying to prevent the same thing. My Aunt got married last January and her step son stole the cards with the money. I am NOT inviting him to my wedding but if she brings him what do I do? Got it covered! I do expect this guest to steal because of his history. I hired a wedding coordinator just for this reason. She will be on top of the card box once everyone has had the chance to put cards in it she will be taking the box out and locking it either in our room or car. We are NOT leaving the box out all night because honestly who will hold on to a card all night? That's usually the first thing that they do is put the card in the box then go an mingle.