The statement “being a bridesmaid is incredibly expensive” is commonly said but that doesn’t apply to every single bridesmaid, does it? Compared to the basic costs of being a guest, how does being a bridesmaid differ? What are they supposed to pay for beyond their dress? A dress doesn’t need to be expensive anyway considering that it will only be worn once before it’s donated. Are they made aware of all costs before they are asked as a deciding factor if they can participate or do you just wing it as things come up? Are they asked to pay for their own hair/makeup or does the bride cover that? Some beauty teams require that all money is given by the bride only. Unless dresses are short, and even when they are, most provide their own shoes they already own. Same for jewelry as not all circles see it as a thank you gift.
While bridesmaids typically host pre-wedding parties (showers, bachelorettes), those don’t have to be the 4-5 figure parties that Instagram advertises. A bachelorette party doesn’t have to be a full weekend and can be done following the rehearsal dinner for under $1000 total including covering the bride’s expenses at a local bar or other hangout.
What other expenses would a bridesmaid be responsible for that a guest doesn’t pay for? A guest pays for transportation plus a gift at most. It comes across like many are so focused on how Instagramable something is and keeping up with the Kardashians’ bankroll (pun intended) in order to have a “good enough” or “pretty enough” wedding or pre party and lose sight of actually supporting the bride and her fiancé.
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