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Angelique
Devoted March 2016

What makes a wedding great/fun?

Angelique, on July 22, 2015 at 3:26 PM Posted in Planning 0 23

I'm off for the summer and three episodes of Four Weddings plays everyday during the week. It's interesting to see which weddings win and why. I would like to know what you think makes a wedding great or fun. I asked a few friends and family members this to get some input for my wedding and I thought about the weddings I have been to. I don't really "judge" ceremonies, but I think great food, music and some kind of drink makes a reception fun and enjoyable.

I've been to a wedding that had the best décor and floral I had ever seen and the food was great, but it was a dry wedding and the music wasn't good so I literally ate and just sat down the whole night. I want to hear your opinions/stories.

23 Comments

Latest activity by Adoretamm, on July 22, 2015 at 10:59 PM
  • Missys984
    Master October 2015
    Missys984 ·
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    Feed your guests, give them free booze, and have great dj/ band.

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  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
    Lauren B. ·
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    Completely agree with you.

    1. Good food.

    2. Good music

    3. Alcohol

    If you're looking for a party then yes you need the above. Of course not everyone is.

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  • Staci
    Master September 2014
    Staci ·
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    Happy guests Smiley smile IE well fed and watered, a seat for their butt, and a B&G who cares that they have a good time.

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  • Stephanie
    Expert October 2015
    Stephanie ·
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    In my experience, people will remember the time they had. They won't be talking about the centerpieces or how beautiful the vows were. They'll be talking about how fun the dancing was, how good the food was, and how happy the bride/groom were.

    I'm guilty of overthinking, too. I think we all are. But in the end I really think it is as simple as good food, good music, good people.

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  • allysia
    Master April 2016
    allysia ·
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    I love me some 4 weddings. I don't have cable so I haven't been able to watch the new season. I think your list is pretty spot on. For me its all about the music! I love to dance. I know I may be in the minority but I don't need alcoholic to get down but I do need a good beat.

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  • winnipegwriter
    Master September 2015
    winnipegwriter ·
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    Great music, great food and an open bar.

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  • Caroline
    Master June 2016
    Caroline ·
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    Plenty of good food, open bar, fun atmosphere & a bride and groom who are genuinely enjoying themselves.

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
    Original VC ·
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    Food, Booze, Music. I mean, if the venue looks like a dump then they'll probably complain about it, but if it's clean, looks like a wedding venue and has a dance floor, then all you need is good food, an open (even if limited) bar and a REALLY good DJ.

    I wouldn't compare those shows to real life. Those women are trying to win an amazing honeymoon, so they bitch about things they probably wouldn't even notice if they were regular guests at the same wedding.

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  • Jersey
    Master November 2016
    Jersey ·
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    For me, it's not about the details, it's the energy. Create an atmosphere of love and fun/dancing and I'm a happy camper. I am the pickiest eater in the world, so food doesn't make me judge a wedding. I recognize that I'm the problem lol... But I love walking out of a wedding and basking in how in love and happy the couple looked! To me, that makes the wedding!

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  • SimpleSeamstress
    Master June 2015
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    Ditto to what others have said, I would like to add that if you are having fun and showing excitement and joy for your day then everyone else will likely follow suit. That means if you want your guests to get out there and dance then you need to lead the way and get out there yourself. This video shows our grand entrance. We had a mariachi trio that was really flakey with communication during planning. I was worried that they weren't going to show up. Well when we entered they started playing this song, everyone was so excited and cheering us on that in the moment we decided to just start dancing. Our first dance wasn't planned until after lunch. It was unplanned moments like that that made our wedding fun and special. Try to let go of worrying about your timeline and all your planning and be in the moment; that is the best advice that I have.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2j4xU49hzGM&feature=youtu.be

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  • Julia T
    Master August 2015
    Julia T ·
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    Food and music for me.

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  • MrsPope
    Master September 2015
    MrsPope ·
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    Good people

    Good food

    Good drinks

    Good music

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  • FutureMrsCrane
    Master October 2015
    FutureMrsCrane ·
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    Good food, good music, alcohol

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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
    Monica SC ·
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    Good food

    Good music

    Alcohol

    However, I just read an interesting article in a Bridal magazine earlier this week that says to make your wedding (reception) interesting and fun, you should make sure that something new/different is happening every 30 minutes. I am guessing that dinner, then cake cutting, and dancing, etc. is included in the activities they meant, but I don't recall the writer elaborating on that.

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    What everyone else said. Good food, good music, alcohol. The attitude of the bride and groom have a lot to do with it too - are they smiling, thanking people for coming, having a good time themselves, or do they seem stressed and upset? I'll always remember the wedding of two good friends when the groom said a quick thank you speech and talked about how their wedding was not just about them, it was about their family and friends who've loved them and supported them their whole lives. Such a great attitude to have.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    I like that show too Smiley smile Good music and good food. Also, guest comfort-- for example, an outside reception with lots of bugs, or too hot/cold weather would kill it for me. That's it!

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  • Lawmom
    VIP June 2015
    Lawmom ·
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    Food, drinks, music. I will say that our guests also loved the cigar bar and photo booth

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    For me, it's always the bride and groom looking like they're having fun, a short ceremony (I know, I know-- it's the reason we're all together, but you're just as married after a 5 minute JOP 'do you? do you?' as a 3 hour mass....), and good music. I've never had food at a wedding I thought was remotely memorable, and I don't drink, so 'food and booze' are low on my list.

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  • Jana
    Super April 2016
    Jana ·
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    A wedding is just like hosting any event. It is "our" day, but it is made possible by the love and support of our freinds and family and so it is important they enjoy themselves. No long time lapses, they should have an idea of the order of events (not an exact timeline), food should be great and they should have options, alchoholic beverages for those who drink and non-alchoholc beverages for those who don't. The music should be a good variety that caters to all so that each person who comes can at least one time during the night say, "oh I love this song". If you love rock music, don't play rock music all night, because not all your guests love rock music as much as you do. And ambiance is important. We've all been to that one restaurant that just set the mood right, and the lighting was good, decor great, services specatular, and food was okay...but we went back. It takes it all to make the wedding great, if you only have a couple of these things going on then your wedding is good, if you have none of this going on, well then....

    And if the Bride and Groom are not having fun or are not happy then that is a whole other discussion topic.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    I just watched an episode of Four Weddings. I think I might have seen the worst wedding imaginable. The two brides had five children between them (all small children). One of the brides insisted that the kids stand in the front and be a part of the ceremony. Unfortunately the two year old didn't want to, so he ran back down the aisle. The bride stopped the ceremony, tried to coax the little guy to come back, and she eventually ended up walking down the aisle and picking him up. The mood was lost, of course. Then came the reception. They only invited 35 guests, and the reception was held in a Manhattan tea room. It was a gorgeous venue. As the guests took their seats (at unadorned tables), someone came by and put a bottle of Sprite and a bottle of Coke on the table (and some plastic cups). That's all there was to drink. No water, no coffee, no punch. There was no DJ -- an Ipod, I think -- but it didn't matter because nobody was dancing anyway. Then the venue employee starts carrying in stacks of pizza boxes. That was dinner. By the time the other three brides got their pizza, it was cold.

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