Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

A
VIP August 2014

what is your plus one plan?

Anonymous, on December 8, 2013 at 9:24 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 33

My fh is telling me everyone gets a plus one. I'm trying to explain to him that no that is not how people do it. My plan is anyone that is in a serious relationship will get a plus one. Also if they are a single person who knows no one else. What's your cut off as to who gets a plus one

33 Comments

Latest activity by TheOGJesse's Girl, on December 9, 2013 at 7:45 AM
  • Trisha
    Super April 2014
    Trisha ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Everyone is getting a plus one at ours. It's not up to me to judge whether someone's relationship is serious or not.

    • Reply
  • B'sWife
    VIP September 2014
    B'sWife ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We are planning a plus one for all single adults. If we can't afford them, then that's when we start rethinking the guest list. If I were single I wouldn't attend a wedding or other social event without a date.

    • Reply
  • LooSha
    Devoted March 2014
    LooSha ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    EXTREMELY limiting plus ones. That is a good way to blow your headcount to double what you were expecting and they will probably be people you dont even know. Bridal party gets plus ones and coworkers get a plus one for their spouse. As far as aunts/uncles/cousins, i am listing specific names on the rsvp so it is clear who the invitation is meant for

    • Reply
  • Storm <3 Kosman
    Master August 2014
    Storm <3 Kosman ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    At ours all the singles get a plus one.

    • Reply
  • Ashley
    VIP September 2014
    Ashley ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Everyone is getting a plus one at our wedding. I am not judging the seriousness of someone's relationship.

    • Reply
  • kahlcara
    Master August 2013
    kahlcara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We invited spouses, fiance/es, and boyfriend/girlfriends that we knew about (ie. not if someone was seeing someone but hadn't told anyone yet). no plus ones for single guests because everyone knew other people and we weren't going to cut our friends/family to invite strangers to our small wedding or have another 50 random people there.

    • Reply
  • Heather A
    Master September 2014
    Heather A ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Everyone is getting a plus one for ours. If I was single I probably wouldn't attend a wedding alone and I can't expect me guests to do so either.

    • Reply
  • J
    Master January 2014
    Jules ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    The majority of our friends and relatives are married or are in serious long term relationships and therefore we know their other half as well (and they were obviously invited since we have a relationship with them too).

    The few individuals that are truly single we also extended a plus one to - it was something we wanted to do and budgeted for it from the beginning.

    • Reply
  • Megan
    Super October 2014
    Megan ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I have a couple people I know are looking forward to coming to the wedding single. If my guests are currently in a relationship they get a plus one. If they are not, they don't.

    • Reply
  • Leanna
    VIP March 2014
    Leanna ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I told fh from the beginning that everyone will get a plus one so we made our original guest list and gave everyone a plus one then adjusted so we got to a reasonable number. Like someone else said it is not for me to judge how serious they are. I know I would not want to go to a wedding alone

    • Reply
  • FutureMrsL
    Master July 2014
    FutureMrsL ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Anyone in a relationship or who doesn't know anyone else there will get a plus ones. All our friends without significant others won't get a plus one since they are all already in a group and know each other. I don't want to pay for random people at my wedding, and a lot of my friends find it kind of stressful to find a date lol. Some single people are also looking forward to mingling haha.

    • Reply
  • KarenM
    Master November 2014
    KarenM ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    For me it depended on which "group" you were with. Three of six of my closest high school friends are in relationships, so the other three were invited with guests. My local single girlfriends are not. However, I will let them know who's invited so they can get together and come as a group.

    • Reply
  • P
    VIP July 2014
    pittielvr ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    No family members get to bring a date unless they are engaged or married. Friends who are in established relationships get a date-but only if we know their partner. One or two singles may get a +1, however those are people who would not know anyone else at the wedding.

    • Reply
  • Lori
    Master June 2015
    Lori ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Spouses and people in a relationship are named on the invitation as guests--they're not really "plus ones" because we're inviting the couple.

    Anyone who is truly single is getting a plus one to ours. We have friends & family across the country so many of our guests will have to travel, and there's no way I'm asking someone to travel without giving them a guest. In the end, it's only adding maybe 30-40 people to our guest lists (which is already massive), so it's not that big of a deal. I think it's a nice gesture to give single guests, but I'm not sure if it's necessary.

    • Reply
  • Theresa Beale
    Master November 2014
    Theresa Beale ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I am only inviting plus ones if the couple is married, engaged or living together. Most of our guests (except for the wedding party) are in relationships so it's not a big deal.

    • Reply
  • Mrs.Anna Noble
    VIP July 2016
    Mrs.Anna Noble ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Only married people get a plus one.I don't want a bunch of random that I know nothing about.My little sister changes guys every other week and sometimes is messing with more then one at a time so definitely no plus one.

    • Reply
  • Officially Mrs. Walden
    Super March 2015
    Officially Mrs. Walden ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Only those in a serious relationship will get a plus one. I.E dating 1yr or more, living together, engaged. Married couples are of course always in the name of Mr and Mrs. The few guests that are single all know eachother and can go and hang together which works out. I don't want strangers at my wedding.

    • Reply
  • britt morgan
    VIP September 2014
    britt morgan ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    No plus ones unless i know them.

    • Reply
  • Shannon Giraffes.
    Super January 2014
    Shannon Giraffes. ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I may be the only one with this issue, but my venue has a 150 minimum and we could have anywhere from 130-175 people show up. People aren't sending their rsvp's in a timely manner, but I allowed nearly everyone to have a plus 1. The more the merrier.

    • Reply
  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Of course people who were married, engaged or in serious long term relationships were counted as couples. We only extended plus ones to a few people, mostly those who were having to travel to our wedding and wouldn't really know anyone there. Of the 7 or so people who got a plus one, I think only 2 people used it. The rest declined.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics