What is your guest attire for your wedding?

Our guest attire is "whatever they want to wear because they are adults and can dress themselves."

Snark aside, the only attire that should ever be specified is black tie. Otherwise, people can gauge how they want to dress based on the time of year and venue. Semi-formal, cocktail, casual, business casual - all of those terms mean different things to different people anyway.

Attire is based on the formality of the event which is decided by time of day, type of meal being served, venue, ambiance etc. Like JP AP said, unless it is black or white tie, guests should be able to figure it out based on the invitations, the venue, and the time.

If your'e asking if you can make your event black tie, it's not black tie

The only time I feel putting 'dress code' is anyway near appropriate is 1. on a website and 2. when there's a specific need. IE, I put that it will be on grass so heels are NOT recommended, but boots are more than welcome, casual but would recommend a sweater/jacket for evenings.

All logistical stuff I'd want to know as a guest, but no more.

Yes, the formality of the event and the time of the event determines the level of guest attire. I highly doubt you're doing true black tie (top shelf alcohol, 6pm or later start time, white glove service, full band, glamorous centerpieces, no expenses spared on flowers, etc), and anything under black tie should not be put on the invitations. You can put level of formality on your wedding website though.

My wedding is cocktail attire. It's a fall 3pm wedding at a vineyard.

Our caterer's restaurant in January, and no fucks given as long as it's something the guest in question is comfortable being photographed in.

Our wedding isn't *super* casual, we're not seating our guests at the dinner tables to watch the ceremony or anything, but we're not doing a traditional white dress/tux thing either, so *shrug*

Yep. What everyone else said. Have you selected your venue and time of day? Those are two of the biggest factors.

We are getting married outside and we are also having some yard games at the reception so on the website we have "please dress comfortably so you can enjoy our yard games as much as we will."

Knowing the people on our guest list, we are likely to have people come in all variations of attire from formal to t-shirt and jeans. I know they will dress in whatever they feel comfortable wearing, and I won't judge them for it.

Thank you ladies. I am concerned because the last two weddings I have attended I have seen people where jeans, khakis, etc. which I am not comfortable with. I have also seen people wear white but I won't go on a rant about that. I know some people don't mind it but I do. I am having an outdoor wedding (4:30pm), tented reception(6-10pm) but I want everyone to look nice...no jeans, no khakis, but not long gowns or tuxedos either...its to hot for that. a nice slack and button up is sufficient and a nice dress is appropriate. Many people are saying people can dress themselves but from personal experience of attending weddings I have not seen this to be true. I would love to assume people know not to wear jeans or club dresses to weddings but apparently this is not so how do I work around this issue? I would not put it on the invitations but we do have a FAQ page on our website and I think putting it there could work. thoughts?

Simply list cocktail attire is welcome then. I would be careful about offering examples or a "do not wear" list as that comes across like you assume your guests don't know what cocktail attire is/are unable to figure it out on their own.

Personally, I think nothing says more "I care about how my wedding looks but not about the actual people who are attending" than getting annoyed at someone wearing jeans.

You get over yourself and the fact that someone may choose clothing that doesn't fit your aesthetic because it makes them more physically, emotionally, and socially comfortable, and it drives me nuts when people put how things look over how the people they care about feel.

For an outdoor summer wedding, I would think a polo and khakis for men is appropriate and a sundress for women. Why no khakis?

The reality is that if people don't know how to dress for a wedding, they're not going to be thorough and conscientious enough to be checking your website. There's no way to politely tell adults what to wear unless, like m said, there are logistical things they need to be aware of. With it being outdoor, it's appropriate to put on the website that the whole thing will be outdoors so that women know to wear flats or wedges or sandals instead of heels.

@Jeanne I agree! I would never put a do not wear.... I think that can come off extremely rude and insulting. I can imagine the backlash now...talk about a headache. lol. I like cocktail attire is welcome. I don't think people will take it the wrong way.

I wouldn't put anything still. If people wear jeans to your wedding, they're the ones who look stupid, not you. People who wear jeans to a wedding are the ones who will ignore any "dress code" you put on the invitation. I just don't think this is something to worry about!

Khakis is the norm in the south for wedding wear. It's pretty much business wear nowadays, so it's appropriate for weddings.

I would put something on your website! Just under wedding events where you list your reception information put "semiformal attire" or "cocktail attire". If attire is not specified on the invitation or website for a wedding, as a guest you are supposed to assume casual or cocktail attire. I almost always end up asking a bridal party member if it isn't mentioned because FH always needs to know He's a super fratty dresser and loves to wear colored slacks and a blazer, but he can only do that if the wedding is casual or cocktail, if the event is semi-formal he needs to wear a suit!

@Lynnie Thanks. I will probably end up going this route. I know it does not bother some people but it will bother me if people are inappropriately dressed. If people ignore the dress code at least in my mind I will feel better for putting it out there on the website but if I put nothing and people show up looking crazy I can only blame myself. I would love for everyone to dress how your FH dresses. lol. We almost thought of doing a Kentucky derby type theme along with the dress code but then I thought the hats might get in the way. lol. I love the bright colored pants, patterned shirts, bow ties etc! and fab cocktail dresses :-)

I think saying cocktail attire is fine. I understand the "people can dress themselves" idea, however, you know your crowd and you know what you want. We have changed venues, however, our initial venue was a country club ballroom and it was stated in the contrct that i signed that no denim was allowed in the county club. So, in that case it would be necessary to make it known to others and not assume that people will wear what they are supposed to.

September, barn/b&b, very casual. Even FH isn't wearing a suit. Its going to be very chill. We even have on our website that no one should wear heels because the hill to get to the ceremony site is steep and we are playing lawn games. I wanted to just let everyone know it is not going to be a really formal affair.

I wouldn't mention it. Unless specified, I always assumed cocktail attire and I've never felt out of place. And the only times I've seen it specified is when it was the other way around. They were telling guests to dress casually.

The people who dress more casually than you would prefer are going to do it even if you specify a dress code. And I guarantee people will ask what they should wear, so you may be able to spread it by word of mouth that way.