What is with all the Barn wedding themes?

Kinda rude

Our venue is a "barn" but I'm from Kansas so that's basically what all the venues are here lol at first I wanted a "rustic" theme but the more I started looking at pictures my theme has kind of evolved into a natural, woodsy theme which I think is more fitting. I told everyone NO burlap. I hate burlap. I agree, it's overdone. But to each their own

I went to a lovely fall non-barn themed wedding this weekend. They used silk fall leaves, red & orange flowers, pussy willows & pumpkins to decorate tables, gold chargers & red napkins, cake was pumpkin spice and decorated with an orange ribbon & flowers, and they gave guests silk fall leaves to toss on the brides. It can be done Here I can show you the flowers (I caught the bouquet!) and you can see a centerpiece in the back right.

FH and I found a barn we want to have our wedding at. He is a country boy and I'm a city girl. But when we toured the venue we saw the outdoor space where we want the ceremony. It's hard to find a good outdoor space where we live in eastern WI. We don't have a theme but I'm trying to make the experience and decor the best reflection of our two personalities. Best way to describe us is: FH love camouflage and the woods. Myself: glitter and skulls & crossbones.

@jojo: yes, I am new to some wedding planning aspects, as well as to Wedding Wire.

I married the first time at a JP on our lunch hour, after a pre-deployment brief and we deployed 2 days later.

I do understand everyone has different tastes, styles, etc. We also all have different opinions.

Thank you to those who offered up their suggestions about looking at photographers, more so than google or Pinterest lol.

I wonder how many people knew what they wanted for their wedding after they got engaged.

I am not the type who has been planning her wedding day since she was a little girl or dreams of anything fairytale like. We had a wedding planner, she wasn't what I thought a wedding planner was like. I wasn't a good fit as a client for her.

@ JoRocka, your last comment reminded me of similar advice I got from a friend who is a JP and does about a couple dozen weddings a year. She said "so many couples think they need to do all of these crazy things with décor and incorporate everything unique about their relationship and themselves in order to make their wedding as personal and awesome as possible. Those couples don't realize that your guests will certainly remember your wedding...just as a clusterfuck of ideas. The most beautiful and memorable weddings tend to have one or two unique aspects to them that speak to the interests of the couple, and everything else blends smoothly in so those aspects come to the forefront when people remember the event."

That conversation has been my proverbial Bible in planning our wedding, as there is SO much material to work with between just the two cultures, let alone the two of us as individuals.

We are having our reception in the barn of an old working farmhouse built in the 1700s, and converted to a restaurant in the 1980s. There will be no "rustic" decor at our wedding. The venue has been doing weddings long before barn weddings became popular because it is a beautiful venue. There will also be nothing fall related there as our wedding is in the spring. I also did not think about my wedding before getting engaged. FH and are talked about what we wanted as a couple, and felt that our venue was the best fit for us and what we wanted.

I don't get it either. But then, wavy eyebrows is a thing now too...

I had a non-rustic/-country fall wedding...

Well. First of all, why do you care? Second of all, the farm fall theme is what FH and I have in common and a huge part of both of our personalities. I wanted a pony at mine (yes I have been an equestrian most of my life and still wanted that) and he loves the wooden beam and hayloft look. We both love the fall. However, it will not be overly rustic. Think modern fall barn.

On the other hand, we are so not cookie cutter and did not want a banquet hall or evening elegant wedding. That being said, I would never post asking why anyone would do that style.

We booked our venue at a "wedding barn" but I absolutely love it. We both hunt/ fish and I have always loved old farm houses/ farms. The venue is a renovated 1800s barn, its gorgeous. Although it is a trend I highly doubt anyone will be able to think of a truly original wedding. We are steering clear of the burlap and mason jars though (I don't like that either). Idk where in NY you are but I suggest you look into Jarris Wadsworth wedding barn (its not a barn at all) but it sounds like something you might like! Its filled with awesome antiques and amazing outdoor ceremony spaces (this isn't the venue we chose, but almost!)

This might be dependent on location. I have never been to a barn wedding. Ever. Maybe they're overdone. But not here, or at least among my friends and family. Eta: i would actually love to be invited to a barn wedding.

I have seen pictures of barn weddings and they seem tacky, looks like your getting married in your attic.

Ugly wood beams , exposed no class. I’d rather have moldings, marble floors ,rather then wood decking, and crystal chandeliers, that never go out of style.

This is just a fad.

Imagine smelling manure during your ceremony on a mid June day?

I could say the same for all the ballroom/hall/golf course weddings 🤷‍♀️

Alice - Lol, you do realize that many of the barn weddings don't actually house animals, yes? My wedding was in a barn and there hadn't been animals in it for like 100 years.

I'll take my "ugly" whitewashed wooden barn over some golf course club with the most hideous carpet ever. See how that works? It's all about one's preference and tastes, and how they envision the aesthetic for their wedding.

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