What is up with people NOT RESPONDING????

We had several like this. Because I didnt have anyone else on the B list at that point I just counted them in at that point. That way I at least had enough food and if they show they show, if not oh well. Im done reminding them. If there is a food issue on your side, if they show have someone appoligize and say that a plate was not arranged since a RSVP was not sent, but they are welcome to join the dancing after dinner.

I wouldn't even bother trying to get them to come anymore, you are near your wedding date, and if the really wanted to go, they would have responded by now and you wouldn't have to track them down.

Oh by the way, your new nickname

Yadayada = YaYa

I would give them one more deadline date and time and make it clear if they can't decide then you will have to count them as a no because we need to give a final headcount.

@CelticChick - yeah I may end up just doing that and erring on the side of caution. The relatives are extra annoying because I guess in my culture it's rude to say "no" so insead they just avoid actually giving a response! I'm doing buffet and no assigned seating but I will have to rent extra tables and chairs and I really would like to know how many!

@Chances - YaYa.. funnily enough, that happens to be a name that I quite like!

They would be cut off. That makes me nervous to have to pay for extra food that can't be eaten if they don't show. I would send a final email telling them that after attempting to receive an answer from them to no avail, the guest list is now closed. They won't have a seat or a plate is they show up. People are so rude!

We had a few like that as well. After emails and texts and phone calls nothing- we are counting them as no. We are on such a strict budget that that extra 70 plus for each person will really add up and we could use that money else where for peoples ignorance. Its so silly, I know if you don't have the money its sometimes embaressing to say, but atleast say something!

I really hope that I won't be in that situation. My venue can only be accessed through a guarded gate. So I will give the guard a guest list and anyone who is not on that list will not be able to enter.

To be honest, if they are STILL dodging on a reply they are not planning on coming, so don't waste your money on counting them in.

@ Noel - actually you never know. It the last hour some of the stragglers have RSVP'd "Yes" and bought plane tickets! ... anyway, now we are down to 7 slackers....

I totally agree with Rachiel....give them a deadline so they know not to buy any tickets after that date. Good luck!

What??? unbelievable!

I wouldn't worry about it. You have far more important things to do than to hunt people done. I say they are grown people so if they did not respond leave them out to dry. I told people there will not be no just showing up at my wedding. You will have to RSVP or you are not getting in. I do not plan to be paying additon funds on the day of my wedding. If they did not come to the wedding than they can come to the after party.

OMG @ July Bride, That is crazy! I would have been pissed!I would have been like well why didn't I get an email/text or call saying u were coming? Or else I would have said ok, and just got a scrap of paper and said ball it in a tight little wad and tell her to stick it in her .... I can't say the rest... LOL.

I am so sry Yaya! Thats horrible! I mean thats why there is and rsvp date! Um HELLO!

Geez, and as if you, the bride, didn't have enough to worry about on that particular day than having to attend to the needs of that one guest!

Thankfully I don't need to tell the venue my final numbers for another week. I made my RSVP deadline 10/10, a little early because I figured something like this would certainly occur!

Yup I will be so pissed if this happens. As far as I'm concerned if you don't RSVP on time I will call you...... if I can't get you I will give you one week and if I still haven't heard from you then that's it. Tough sh**. If you come then fine but you won't have a seat and you certainly won't have anything to eat or drink. I don't get where people think its OK to pull stuff like this. I could understand MAYBE not replying to the RSVP in time but if I call/email/whatever you to make sure you're coming you better reply. Julybride I give you credit because I probably would have at least been like "well if you had RSVPd in time then this wouldn't have happened" or something else smart. I am almost ready to give my day of wedding coordinator a guest list and anyone not on it can't come in!! (unless someone who RSVP'd yes doesn't show up). Don't back down-- they are rude, ungrateful a**holes who don't deserve a place at your wedding!

A coworker of mine sent out a generic note to the people who didn't respond by her deadline saying "we're so sorry you are unable to make it to our wedding, we will share our pictures with you so you can feel part of it" or something like that. She did get a few people call her after the letter and say they were planning on going all along...the nerve of some people, just respond!! how hard is it?? I plan on sending this same note to the people I know are just being rude purposely..I refuse to pay extra for people we can't count on actually showing, and I don't want to have to go through the awkwardness of people showing up who we crossed out on the list. This way I hope would stop the majority of people who don't think its necessary to RSVP to a function like this who show up anyway.

I got a RSVP card on the day before our wedding that my aunt & uncle whom live 3 states away were coming to my wedding, mind you I had called & left them 4 telephone messages saying that I hadn't received their RSVP yet, & to please return my call, I even had my mother call them, & they didn't return her call either, then after receiving the RSVP I added them very quickly to a table that had 6 people making 8 which was fine.. Then, after all that they didn't come!!! You have to really love people, especially family!!! LMAO!!

Ya Ya, with the open seating (which I am also doing) i am taking a guess to up it to more 8 person table. Just in case of no RSVP but yet show up. With the non sit down they do provide for maybe 10 dinners over just in case so if not to much to add a table than I would just have it in case. Good luck.

I completely understand. I helped my friend with his wedding and he had the same problem. Just let your guests know in a nice but firm fashion that if they don't RSVP by your date provided, or don't respond to your call or e-mail, that you won't be expecting them and they cannot be accomidated later on. A lot of ppl are just not sure if they can spare the money right now. Good luck and best wishes.

P.S.

Everyone wants to share their happy day with loved ones, but the bottom line is this day is for just you two.