teresa
Devoted June 2018

What is the anniversary dance?

teresa, on August 19, 2017 at 3:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice

I've read comments about couples doing a anniversary dance instead of bouquet and garter toss.. what is it exactly.

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  • Kerry
    Dedicated May 2018
    Kerry ·

    We are doing something like this. All the married couples will start to dance on the floor. The DJ will start eliminating couples based on time married. New hubby and I will be first to leave, followed by the next shortest marriage, etc., until the couple married the longest is left standing. I'll then give them a special bouquet (or something). That will be in place of the bouquet and garter toss.

  • Erin
    Super October 2018
    Erin ·

    If I am correct, I believe it is where all the couples stand up to dance and as the song goes on the DJ will announce years that the couple is married. You stop dancing with your partner once it no longer applies to you. The couple married the longest is the last up there and the bride sometimes gives them the bouquet. I think it is sweet but am opting not to do it due to my grandma who recently had my grandpa pass and they would have probably been married the longest. Don't want anyone to be sad.

  • janz
    Devoted September 2017
    janz ·

    Ditto PP. We are also not doing it because all of our grandmas are widowed, 1 very recently.

  • teresa
    Devoted June 2018
    teresa ·

    Thank you sounds lovely

  • falkenmarried
    Expert August 2018
    falkenmarried ·

    Just heads up! If you have any widows or widowers in the crowd this could be very hard to watch, especially if they are close family

    Eta--didn't read the other comments so I repeated myself --oops

  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·

    We don't have anyone who recently widowed, so we did this and it was one of my favorite parts of the night!

  • Amanda
    Super September 2017
    Amanda ·

    We are planning on doing a anniversary dance. I know that some are not a fan of these but I have loved watching them at any wedding that I have ever attended.

  • Ks_catonlap
    Super October 2017
    Ks_catonlap ·

    It's pretty much what has been explained above. My mother wanted to do one but, as FH's parents are divorced, with only one having remairried I think it would be awkward AF.

  • Cassidy
    VIP October 2017
    Cassidy ·

    I think this is adorable

  • Future Mrs. D.
    Super October 2017
    Future Mrs. D. ·

    We know who the longest married couple is at our wedding. Their 55th wedding anniversary is on our wedding day. We will have our first dance and then have the Dj announce their special anniversary and we will dance to Don't Blink by Kenny Chesney. I will give my bouquet to her and my new hubby will give a nice bottle of scotch to him. No bouquet/garter throw.

  • Hannah
    Super August 2017
    Hannah ·

    I'm doing the annoversary dance. I do have at lease a couple widows though, I didn't think about that I don't want them to be sad

  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·

    They take forever and everyone pretty much knows who will eventually win; i.e. the bride's grandparents, or someone like that. It gives us young couples time to head to the bar or the bathrooms.

    We didn't do one, which should be no surprise. My grandmother would have cried through the whole thing, even though my grandfather had passed years before. They loved to dance, took professional lessons, and belonged to a dance club. Instead I gave her my bouquet and she took the long stems out, to put on my grandfather's grave and kept the shorter stems.

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