What has made your wedding planning stressful?

Guest List... He has a large extended family that all expect to be invited. We were able to narrow the list down but that meant that I had to cut my list from 50/50 to 70/30 to accomodate his guests. All about compromise...

Thank you so much for all your input. It really helps me to know what is or would be helpful to brides so I can find ways to help and be more understanding. I truly am excited for all of you because I remember how exciting it is to plan a wedding and look forward to it. The good news is when you look back later on the stress will not be what you remember most!

Our most stressfule thing is money, we have none. like seriously completely broke. theres already been a few times when we've almost had to cancel. it sux, i hate money, its the hopes and dreams crusher.

The whole process has been incredibly stressful. First we have been dealing with the fiance visa and had to push back our wedding date. Then the money issues started. His pay keeps dropping as I have posted. We've had to pay a fortune for the visa and flights to eachother and phone bills everywhere. Then my dad started working in Afghanistan which had me so incredibly upset. Then the bridesmaids still hadnt gotten their dresses. Now we are at the final stages so im hoping it will get a bit easier once the visa is confirmed.

My stressors have been not having the whole "bride" experience by being able to try on scores of dresses due to my size. Then I had been stressed about the lack of enthusiasm from the FH. Oh I wish there was more money to spend but that is just me being spoiled.

My FAMILY. They are crazy and don't know the concept of letting the bride and groom decide on their own wedding. They are extremely bossy and go out of their way to get what they want, even after I say," No, I don't want it." That's crazy.

Also, when the groom says he doesn't care, then after you've made the decision...all of a sudden, he has all of these opinions.....that's frustrating.

When it comes to money and wedding costs, don't listen to friend's or relative's advice advocating for you to spend more because it's your money and they don't really care how much money you're out of pocket...they are just thinking of themselves and their perspective. You are in charge of your money and budget, so spend it wisely....and everyone else can shut up or they can give you money. That's my philosophy now.

Lol @ JJ...fh and I totally agree...Shut up or leave...LOL

I'm glad I made you laugh, Gersh.

Wow. I guess we're in the same money boat as most of you. FH is a full time student and cant find a part-time job that will work around his school schedule. I'm a waitress and student. My hours were just cut to three days a week as of yesterday. Luckily my mother and a few family friends have really stepped up to the plate. Yes, my mother has taken over some and at times it drives me crazy. I know though that everything will be fine. She hasn't completely stepped over everything. (mostly just the food) But she's done this for many other people and she just wants to do the BEST she can. Just remember ladies, while yes it is our day, most of our mothers love us and just want to do the best they can for us. If you can keep that in mind, it should help reduce some of the stress over it. (Even if at time she does seem like a control freak) LOL Good luck and congratulations to you all.

Can I just say everything...the biggest thing is $$$ we have a really strict budget and every thing we look at is to expensive I had this whole image of what I wanted my wedding to be and I've had to compromise everything. My FH tells me I'm

not including him in the whole thing but yet every time I ask him about something he says I don't care. The guest list is stressful we can only invite 150 people I keep getting in arguments w/ my MOH and Tu because they don't want me to invite any of my coworkers and some of them are like fan.to me. My MOH is acting like this is her wedding and has these stupid remarks about anything. The hardest part is my mom...I've been helping her financially since I wad 14 so now its like she expects it my Tu and I are also looking for a house which is even more stress but my mom keeps asking me to postpone things until after she finishes paying off her car.....I mean how selfish can u be? And then I always feel horrible like I'm abandoning her and FH cont.

Thinks I have helped her enough and wants me to only focus on us. All my friends tell me I should be happy and not stressed because its my wedding but they have no idea sometimes I want call the whole thing off....wow I'm glad I got that off my chest

LOL I AGREE WITH JUST4ME!!!

Well, like most of you, we are on a budget. My FI would rather spend the most money in the honeymoon (which I don't mind) as opposed to a reception. Yet, he wants to have a whole dinner thing, dance, but not a photographer.

Choosing a date, we have changed our date over 4 times already. Choosing a place, we have changed that even more than the date. On top of that, I am living far from where the wedding will be so I can't just drive up there and check reception venues, meet with vendors or do anything. I go there once every one or two months.

And the worst thing yet.. THE CATHOLIC CHURCH is stressing me out!!! Without the documents they ask for, we cannot have a date, which in turn means we don't have an official date to hire any vendors.

Luckily, I have my family's support (mom and sisters), my BMs, and .. well, that's about it. I never expected his family to help out to be honest. Maybe as things get crazier I will feel frustrated about this.

Hi

i think the most stressed thing about wedding is the arrangment of money. but my hole family is too supportive & affectionate hat i didn't feel any stress. My friends Christian Freville & Paul Offen got stressed on their marriage because of money on 11th October 1999. Thanks

1- family support, or lack thereof--- my mom keeps saying she wants to help and that I should give her things to do. And then I give her things to do and they don't get done. Or I tell her I'd like her to do something and she says no

2- although it's funny, it's also sort of stressful when FH says he doesn't have an opinion and then at the last minute states his opinion: like after the decision has been made- so then we're back to square 1!!!

My sister getting jealous and not talking to me for the past month (shes 10 years older and will probably never get married), and mostly just people i hardly talk to asking if theyre invited to the wedding! like my second cousin that ive tried to keep in touch with, who ignores me, whos suddenly so interested and wants to come! lol. and high school friends that i dont talk to anymore. why ask someone if your invited? then if they say no, its awkward, if they say yes, then its weird cuz theyll look at you differnt. and my mom, grandma, and aunt telling me a HAVE TO invite this person cuz its family, ummm no i dont. i dont HAVE TO do anything. lol its MY wedding. you ever feel like saying that to family?

No one wants to help! And I mean no one! I feel a lot of the time that because we chose a longer engagement, people are punishing us by not helping or not caring. Everyone else around us who had or are having short engagements get all the excitement and help, but not us. Everyone also keeps telling us to just elope and that's not what we chose to do. It's at the point I'm about to ask if I can have a wedding planner just so I can call someone and actually get an opinion! If I ask for your opinion, I want it!

Other ppl trying to control our wedding. Too many hands in the "wedding pot" LOL. MONEY MONEY AND MONEY!!!

Being a wedding planner I can see the need for one but I can also see that it can be an expense that you may not feel you can handle. What do you think would be the best things that a wedding planner would be able to provide for you? I know what it is like to want support from others and not be able to spend the money on things you want to. A wedding planner can obviously not replace family and friends. I do know from my end I get so excited about planning and helping brides make the most of their day. Believe it when I say I am as addicted to the wedding shows too! lol!! As a planner I am looking to see how I can provide brides the help they need, without the big price tag.