What happens if people try to RSVP after the date?

Im thining this will decrease my guest # also because some of those 15 have a + 1. and I barley had anyone tell me NO besides 3 people out of 180 so im thinking these last few ppl not coming wont be so bad

I would call them to follow up and get an answer from them letting them know you havent received their RSVP and need to give your numbers in to your venue.

You need to call them and make sure they got their invites, that they didn't just send out their RSVPs, or that their RSVPs didn't get lost in the mail.

"Hey, Girl! I haven't received your RSVP so I wanted to check if you'd be attending the wedding or not. If we don't hear from you by Wednesday, we'll have to mark you as a no and we won't be able to accommodate you at the wedding."

Adding the "We won't be able to accommodate you" part helps guard against the "Oh, well, I didn't think the RSVP mattered, so I just showed up" people.

I am going to check with everyone tomorrow who didn't RSVP I already checked with a few people and I never receive any response. Like even if you see my message a HEY ILL GET BACK TO YOU would be nice. instead of FN ignoring me

THEY ARE FUGGIN SHIT OUT OF LUCK!!!!

In all seriousness, my RSVP date is a month before my wedding, but the venue itself doesn't need the hard count until 3 days prior to the wedding date. I'm planning to contact everyone who didn't RSVP with a polite statement something like "I haven't heard from you, please respond by X to guarantee a seat, if I don't hear from you I am sorry and hope we can get together to celebrate another time" blah blah blah.

However, because I'm spiteful, and we actually do have more time to add people, if I like you and it's pass the X date and you want to come, then I'll add you. If I don't care for you, and it's pass the X date, you're SOL.

What OTW said.

LMAO @OTW,

I kinda feel the same way. I just want to shut the door tomorrow and say that's it. I reached out, you seen my messages, no response. too bad. However if my BFF who passed aways mom changed her mind I would squeeze her in

Outtie will add "and i will bake you a cake for being sooooooo considerate"

Exactly what Reenksi said:

"Hey we haven't heard from you about the wedding .. are you able to come? Please let me know by DATE, otherwise we will assume you won't be able to make it/we won't be able to accomodate you"

then they are SOL if they try to change their minds

With a shank in it so you choke

I'm with OTW - I am doing my RSVP date for a full month before the wedding date.

I will reach out to all non-responders and see if I can get an answer from them.

OTW: ROFL.

You're bound to get some people that will do that. Just try to contact and get answers from you can at this point. Some people may not have sent their cards back until today.

I'm with OTW. my RSVP date is a week before my venue actually needs the count, so I have time to follow up.

My understanding is that you are always going to have people RSVP and no show people not RSVP and show. Tracking down everybody who didn't RSVP and asking them seems like a hassell. Also calling people who RSVP too late and telling them "sorry!" seems kind of weird to me.

My RSVP is set a month before my date as well. There will be a week after that date has passed that I will chase people. And after that.... "final counts are in to the venue and the caterer. And while I wish we were able to accomodate you, we will have to celebrate some other time!"

I decided whoever doesn't get back to me by tomorrow ill mark them as a NO however ill leave a couple seats open here and there for the ppl that end up coming anyways . Just so I avoid not having enough spots

Consider yourself lucky -- my deadline is today and I still have 100 rsvp's left. I really hope their lil card comes to me tomorrow, I honestly don't care if they come or not at this point!! But I plan to send that nice little message above from OTW when I start following up! People SUCK sometimes.

I can't imagine telling someone they couldn't attend my wedding, no matter how late the RSVP was. A venue can always find a seat. Is this kindergarten?

So lovelybride_ are you planning on paying for all those "maybes" or no responses?

My invites haven't even gone out yet, but if after contacting a guest they still can't decide, i dont think i owe it to them to pay for a meal they won't use.

@lively - if it's one person then sure. But 10 or 15 people who didn't respond? No. People need to figure themselves out and return the PRE STAMPED card if they want a meal. If you can't do that, then too bad so sad.