what does the officiant say at the wedding?

Are you talking about a full ceremony layout/script, or just readings for during, or both? There are a number of awesome scripts I've seen and heard, I'll see if I can find links to a couple of them.

One little favor to ask. If you could change your avatar to something we can recognize more easily than the rings, it'll give us a chance to get to know you better. We like getting to know the new brides.

Im kinda looking for anything. Im trying to plan our wedding on our own and really have no idea what is said during the ceremony!! I will put up a pic and soon as I get home so you can get to know me!!

Welcome to the WeddingWire Community @Tiara! Can anyone help her out?!

Try Googling "secular wedding ceremony" (assuming secular is what you want). There are lots of options out there.

Make sure the officiant includes whatever wording is required by your state to make it legal. A pro would know what that is, but your friend probably does not.