What does premarital counseling entail?

Our officiant is our own personal pastor. He too requires counseling but we are having way more than 3 sessions. We talk about husband/wife roles. What we expect out of each other, what is important to us, responsibilities that come with marriage. Those type of things. It gets kind of personal at times. But not uncomfortably personal. I think it is very beneficial because it brings up topics that you would never have thought of. I hope this helps.

It scares me lol.

In our premarital counseling (Lutheran) we go through a book that's set up a lot like the catachisms. It's called "Building the Christian Home," and it explains what marriage entails and what God meant marriage to be. And there are discussion questions at the end, and it gets personal but only because we want it to and allow it to.

I never did it because my relationship is personal and I dont feel the need for anyone but my husband and I to discuss any issues we may have but then we have extremely open communication. My BIL and his wife did it and they said it was quite personal and they did some sort of test at the end. I think it depends on what religion you are though as to how the counseling goes and also how close you are with the pastor probably affects how personal you allow things to be.

Top book I recommend for all brides:

"The Hard Questions" by Susan Piver

You and your FH can go through this together on your own time - discuss all aspects of your marriage - expectations, opinions, responsibilities, and more

Really great stuff, and every bride that has read it has been grateful for it.

I can't help you - my counselor is HORRIBLE. Every stereotype in the book. But as a psych major, I can tell you counseling is SUPPOSED to be a happy, productive, safe environment. Not one where I'm told if I wasn't so uppity it would fix all of our problems. UGH.

My FH and I loved our pre-marital couceling with the Pastor. It was FUN! At first we just discussed how the wedding would go, and the "order of events". Then we discussed our Myers Briggs personalities and discussed any issues that we have. (Only 1 and its cleaning). Anyway, a lot of couples disagree about cleaning. We were a little disappointed to only get to one session (we thought we would do 2 or 3). We are also doing an at home pre-marital book that has been fun as well.

We are required to do it to marry at the church we are. We haven't started yet but the Pastor marrying us informed us that we have homework to work on together and things like that. I am looking forward to it because I know it will be super encouraging and the pastor is calling in pre-marital encouragement instead of counselling. He is a great guy and we cannot wait to start it. But I think most things they go over are financial stuff, children and things like that.

We did it and absolutly loved it :] nothing was uncomfortable. I would HIGHLY recommend